I'm 24.I live with my daughters(ages 9 and 3 - no fathers around).I have a boyfriend(age 29) who I constantly invite in our house(and he invites me in his).Sometimes when I get busy at work(I work half a day) he takes my 9-year-old from school and drives her home and stays with her until I come.Recently she is a bit hideous and she asks some weird questions about penises, vaginas and sperm.We don't have books about that at home and I'm not sure where has she heard all that.And she is very strange when we talk about my boyfriend and doesn't want to be with him in the afternoons.I may be a little paranoic but is there a chance he could be having sex with her or something?I asked her and she didn't tell me anything unusual but in another question she knew how long a penis is...Should I be worried?And what do I have to do?There is noone else who can look after her in the evenings if I am late.
2007-03-20 22:30:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would be very concerned about all this. A 9 year old should not know how long a mans penis is, and the questions, if out of the blue, should also warrant concern. Also your daughter not wanting to be around him is a clue, especially if it previously didn't concern her. Please talk to her again, but in the mean time I would stop letting him care for your girls. Until you are confident all is fine, please don't potentially put your girls at risk with this man. I'm sure there are babysitters around that could care for your girls. Its better to be safe than sorry.
2007-03-21 00:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep listening to her. You wouldn't believe the education kids get at school. My kids come home with some of the most interesting facts about life and sex. Ask her if she is hearing this at school. At this age it's not unusual for them to start getting curious about this. Make sure that she has her facts correct. As of the boyfriend tell him she asking strange questions and she being shy around him. Ask him if he has any ideas why. She may have crush on him. But if you think he's messing with her. Just watch and listen to your daughter. Ask her again. But if he's not messing with her and you confront him it may be the end of your relationship. Be carefull the reason's she's acting like this is numerous. If in doubt ask your Dr. A vaginal exam would answer that question. But that would violate her too. You have a tough decision to make,so do some investigating.
2007-03-21 08:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask her any more questions, but take her to a doctor or hospital. If they find that she has been abused then they will contact someone who is trained in how to interview her. He may have told her that if she tells you he'll hurt you or any number of things that would keep her from opening up. A professional can make her feel safe. Plus, if you keep asking her and it's not happening, then you're sort of over-sexualizing her at a young age. It could just be that she's picking stuff up from older kids or kids with older siblings at school, but it's better to make sure.
2007-03-22 13:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be very worried!!! You need to keep him away from your daughter until you find out exactly what is going on. Talk to your daughter - be very calm and matter-of-fact with her. And as far as what you have to do because you have no one else to watch her if your late - don't be late - heck I'd quit my job if I had to in order to protect my child from a possible predator!!
2007-03-21 11:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋