Marriage & Divorce - 7 December 2007

2007-12-07 09:28:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the situation. My partner and I seem to be regaining our footing in what has been an extremely difficult few months. We're happy and having fun with one another again and we are in a very calm, spiritually affirming place with each other. I love her, and she loves me. Here's the problem. She has been having very sexual oriented dreams of late, and I'm not in them. She has also, in a very light hearted way, called into question my fidelity. I'd never be unfaithful to her, but I feel that there is a level of seriousness in her jesting. When I don't call home, or come home late from work, it's always "were you having sex with one of your sluts at the office??" and then, of course, she laughs it off. The other day, however, she really was upset that she couldn't reach me; I could tell by the sound of her voice. She said, "I tried to reach you on your cell and at your office and your not there. What are you doing?" Is she insecure, does she feel I would do something like that to her?

2007-12-07 09:26:31 · 21 answers · asked by dominia 2

I hate it its painful! should I tell him

2007-12-07 09:22:08 · 8 answers · asked by Angel L 3

2007-12-07 09:21:45 · 17 answers · asked by doug g 7

2007-12-07 09:20:56 · 24 answers · asked by divamom 3

What if there are young children involved under the age of three? The separation started only a month ago. What is your opinion and should the other parent press charges?

2007-12-07 09:16:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a wife feels bad because her husband forgot an anerversary so she calls him and says, "Why does romance have to die after marriage"...how would you as a guy take this question? I asked it out of being disappointed and hurt, maybe I should have just not asked at all. Sometimes I feel men and woman have a hard time communicating. Please honest answers only.

2007-12-07 09:16:44 · 16 answers · asked by pictureshygirl 7

2007-12-07 09:12:55 · 14 answers · asked by Shuggie Pee 2

only if a person do not know he's the biological parent

2007-12-07 09:09:48 · 7 answers · asked by altegillum@sbcglobal.net 1

My husband and I have been together for almost 3 years now, married for about 5 months. I am a strong beleiver in waiting until marriage. But he had been with 3 other girls by the time we met. I know the past is the past, but living in a small town and constantly running into his ex's bothers me. I had no experience before him, so I know he didn't pick up anything from me. He had to have learned it somewhere. I just don't know how to deal with it. We've talked about it a couple times before, but I just recently found out he lied to me the first time he told me. I feel like I've been lied to this whole time. I know he was trying to spare my feelings, but it hurts more to find the truth now and know he's been lying the whole time. I guess it just hurts to know that he shared such an experience with 3 others. It makes me feel less of a person. Any tips on how to work through this (without going to marriage counseling)? He doesn't like talking about it...Thanks guys.

2007-12-07 09:08:22 · 52 answers · asked by kristy 2

2007-12-07 09:07:45 · 17 answers · asked by Lafurniture 3

Hi All:
Thanks for reading my blog. My husband and I have been married for seven years and have grown a lot since we married. I have been by his side for this long and am completely devoted to my marriage. Just so you know, I have been through many TDY's and 2 deployments at 8 month stints. Well, he left for Korea in Sept 07 and called me a couple of weeks ago and said that he has never been in love and thinks he wants a divorce. I am thinking "What the heck happened?" I asked him out right if he had had any other relationship with another woman and he said no. We have had a wonderful and trusting relationship 100% of our marriage. I would not be married to a man I could not trust 100%. SO-anyway, he is suffering from lonliness, boredom, post-war combat stress (which he shared with me a couple of days ago on the phone, until then I had no idea) and is just very confused. I need to get an opinion on whether I should wait until he gets home to talk to him face to face in Feb?

2007-12-07 09:04:27 · 38 answers · asked by keginett 1

you don't flirt with other ladies, right - i'm not talking about liking this particular girl, i'm talking about being in love with her, then she's the only one on your mind, right? thanx

(i'm asking because my potential love interest does this so my guess is he doesn't like me that much or basically i'm not that special someone. thanx)

2007-12-07 09:01:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like i am to blame and that I to interest him anymore. I don't know what to do.He is 35 years old and overwieght but he has been that way sence we meet we have been married and just in the last 6 month has it gotten worse and we are trying to have a baby and that makes it even harder to deal with when things don't work right i feel like I am not doing some thing right. And I know its not my fault but i can't help but have guilt about it. Any advise would be appricated. Serious Responses only...

2007-12-07 08:56:33 · 15 answers · asked by jesicaj1981 1

I keep hearin all these bad things about the water now days. it makes me want to go to the mountains with buckets and get natural tap water from up there. I hear that some got minerils, some got bacteria, some got no flooride, some are just sink water but they strain it [?] [aquafina], that sink water has floating things in the water [this true] and etc etc THIS HAS DRIVING ME CRAZY all I want to do is drink good water that is good for me and my doughter

:(

but i dont no wich kind :|

2007-12-07 08:55:01 · 22 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4

2007-12-07 08:47:19 · 42 answers · asked by sweet_tina34 1

I love my husband. We've been married for 25 years, have two grown children. He's kind, sensitive, helps around the house, talks a blue streak when he's happy--so why am I complaining? Well, when things don't go his way--usually when he wants sex and I don't--he goes into a sulk the next day. He'll claim he is fine, but he is standoffish and moody. He can be very passive/aggressive and he mopes around the house like a big baby and I am the big bad wolf. It's like he thinks he deserves so much sympathy and coddling, but it makes me want to just kick him. He also gets upset easily at other times--flies off the handle and has little temper tantrums. He has never been physically abusive of me, but he is perfectionist and critical and very detail focused. My daughter once put it that he lived "in a very little world." I joke that if I didn't know better I would swear he was gay. But his sulking is really getting to me--How can I get him to see he is acting like a spoiled baby?

2007-12-07 08:46:05 · 23 answers · asked by Susie Q 2

I have been happily married for a few months and my husband still helps his parents financially every month.Which I dont mind to a certain point. We both work and are trying to pay our debt of our wedding, so I do as little possible to save every cent by taking food for lunch at work and little things like that. We are planning a little weekend vacation, somewhere close and cheap wherewe wouldnt spend too much money to a national park and he asked me if he could invite his parents I said yes but they could not go due to the fact that they are struggling financially. So he went ahead and told them he could pay for half of the hotel, and we will probably end up buying their food too at restaurants. We were going to rent a small car, so now we need a bigger car, and obviously gas will be more expensive. So in summary we will spend more money, but it makes him very happy if we all went together. It makes me really mad that his parents dont care but my husband thinks Im jealous and selfish

2007-12-07 08:42:16 · 14 answers · asked by karla 1

still e-mail, phone. I am so hurt. He got diab., coles, high blood pressuse. What can I do with him, he look abou 60, handsome, sweet talk with someone, not with me. I dont know what to do, I 50% still love him.Help

2007-12-07 08:37:47 · 10 answers · asked by Nina N 1

2007-12-07 08:37:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently discovered that I was pregnant and though it came a complete suprise to us both i thought my husband was exited about it.
I since had a miscarriage which was abit upsetting, ( expected though as I had a IUD in place).
The only thing that has been getting me through is the fact that I thought my husband was willing to try again. However, over the last couple of days I have spoken to a few close friends as well as my sister who have imformed me that he never really wanted another child in the first place.
Whats upset me the most is he had to tell every single female in the neighbourhood he wasn't happy.
I only found out after a friend had a few drinks and she openly told me.
How can I stay with him now when there is so much distrust?

2007-12-07 08:37:31 · 8 answers · asked by arnie 4

2007-12-07 08:35:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 11 years and have four children, but as of lately perhaps three to six months i've had the nagging feeling my husband is cheating on me. I have no reason to believe this is nothing more than a "feeling", he is never late coming home he always has his money complete. I just have this gut feeling becuase sometimes when we are joking around he will say things under his breath that i can not understand or rather hear. I want to live a happy life , but i know having this feeling isn't going to allow me to do so.

2007-12-07 08:35:26 · 15 answers · asked by jeny 2

2007-12-07 08:34:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can he take your kids from you. I know my old man said he would take my two girls from me if I left him for a girl. Can he do that? How do you go about divorce and custody in a case like that.

2007-12-07 08:34:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

when it comes to aniversaries ,valentines day etc. i am the one that does the planning i do the whole romantic dinner for 2 at home.rose pedals in the bed room and all i do admit im more creative. but i want to be supriesed with something already ........he does bring me flowers out of no where, gives me a kiss and tells me he loves me while i pretend to be asleep every morning on his way out to work but thats the most romantic he gets. any advise on how i can get his creativity going

2007-12-07 08:28:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was reading this article about a couple that are in that situation. The wife feels since she doesn't want it anymore it's ok for her husband to find it eslewhere. I think that is CRAZY!!! I think even if you are well meaning and feel your doing it out of love for your partner your still opening a door that you might not be able to close when you want to. Thats not even taking into consideration that when you get married you take vows that are suppossed to be life long.

2007-12-07 08:20:27 · 50 answers · asked by n.s. 2

I am a new mom, as of 4 weeks ago, and I really want to go out christmas shopping for the afternoon with my son FOR my husband..But he keeps giving me guilt trips about not taking him. I've tried to explain to him that Im going shopping for him, and he cannot come, but he just gets upset. Why is this? Why cant I just be a PERSON and go out on my own? It seems whenever I make plans to do anything, this is what happens....why, from your personal experiences, is he doing this to me?

2007-12-07 08:19:14 · 23 answers · asked by krisindeed 3

My Wife and I have been married for 11 years and I am hung like a mouse and don't typically last that long during intercourse.

What suggestions do you have so that I can provide her more pleasure?

2007-12-07 08:17:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

to pick his son up from school when it is his turn but he is not able? He is divorced and his son lives with his ex wife. He visits us once a week and every other weekend. On the days he is not able to pick up his son he asks his ex-wife to do it for him and then he picks him up at her house. He tells me he does not want to ask her if it is okay for me to pick him up because it would upset her. When they were going through their divorce he told her they would do the parenting and I would not be involved. But it has been a year and a half now. I believe my boyfriend still feels very guilty about having an affair and leaving his wife and son. However, maybe I should count my blessings - she hardly ever calls our home and does not interfere in our lives. Any advice?

2007-12-07 08:17:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous