What if there are young children involved under the age of three? The separation started only a month ago. What is your opinion and should the other parent press charges?
2007-12-07 09:16:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it wise? No, definitely not... this is a time to deal with your emotions, get to know yourself and see if there is any chance at reconciliation - especially for the children's sakes... It can be used in court on many occasions as the divorce is not yet final and in some instances is considered adultery. I don't think anyone can "press charges"; however, if you are the other parent, I would recommend talking it over with my attorney and seeing if it gives me leverage in the divorce proceedings... if you are the parent who has a bf/gf, I would also recommend talking to my attorney to see what leverage the other parent can use against me in the divorce. Also, if you are the parent with a gf/bf, please consider what's best for the children before all else.. it's really hard for them to deal with a breakup of mom and dad, then deal with a new partner in one of their lives.... give it time.
2007-12-07 09:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hahaha, you can't even press charges even if you and your spouse are not going through a divorce. Adultery is not a criminal offense. The most you get is ammo for the divorce and custody. However, it's never wise to start dating and involve a third party when divorce is pending and there are custody arrangements waiting to be made on kids.
2007-12-07 09:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is wise for a spouse to have a girlfriend/boyfriend when they are still married but in process of divorce, but that is just me. i think it is a very individual decision. as far as pressing charges. is it really worth it? let's focus on the most important thing here...and in my opinion, that would be the kids. is pressing charges going to help them get through the divorce? probably not. dviorce is rough and each person needs to do what is best for them in their own situation, but i hope that the kids are always put first.
2007-12-07 09:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by jen19music 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think its wise to have a girlfriend/boyfriend when they are still married & in the process of divorce, basically by law they're still married to their spouse. Looks as though they were at fault or cause for the seperation & divorce. Seek legal advise.
2007-12-07 09:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rushing things to get into another relationship while still going through a divorce and can confuse the little kids, however, it isn't illegal so you can't press charges.
2007-12-07 09:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the marriage is over and divorce is the best option for the family there is no reason that either parent cannot begin dating. For a new clean breakup it would be quite odd and inappropriate, but where a relationship has been failing for an extended period of time and everyone was well aware including the children it would be appropriate to start dating.
2007-12-07 09:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if both parties know the marriage is over and understand that- i see nothing wrong with moving on. kids see alot more than we think- i would keep the girlfriend/boyfriend away from the kids unless this person is going to be around for a long time- if this is just a fling dont bring the kids around them. you and your spouse can be great parents without being together- kids will be happier if you both are happy.
good luck
2007-12-07 09:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by terry t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not illegal and its not very smart. The other parent could try to use that against you in some way by saying you had this girlfriend/boyfriend while married and before the divorce began. If you do decide to date, try to keep it on the low because when kids are involved there is usually a mean custody battle and they will use anything and i do mean anything against you.
2007-12-07 09:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Keisha M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
from my own experience, we had filed for divorce and were just waiting for it to be final. the marriage was over and we both moved on before the finalization, our children were grown
kids this young may get confused but you both will have new partners eventually
what charges you are going to press? I don't think there are any laws broken here
2007-12-07 09:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, it may not be the best idea in the world, but it isn't a crime, so there is nothing to "press charges" about.
2007-12-07 09:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋