Marriage & Divorce - 10 December 2007

I recently found out that my 36yr old husband was having an affair with a 16yr old girl. He knew she was 16 and he believes that he is in love with her. We've been married 10 yrs and I don't know what to make of this. I did call police and turn him in and so did the girls parents and he tells me he feels I betrayed him. They confiscated his car because thats where they were having sex and they confiscated his cellphone because they were texting one another. He took nude pics of himself but claims he never sent them her phone does not take pics I've seen it. Even after he realized he was in trouble with the law he has still made an effort to contact her and see her so he can get closure. I don't understand any of this. He wants her to tell him why its over and wants to know how she feels, he's not grasping that he violated this child and took her virginity. Is he living in a fantasy, has he lost all sense of reality. They've only know eachother for 2 1/2 mo. Can anyone make any sense?

2007-12-10 23:40:13 · 20 answers · asked by latinamochalatte20052000 1

after 7 years of the child what can a mother do to ensure the cour awards the custody to her

2007-12-10 23:38:39 · 3 answers · asked by naaz 1

My husband and I have been together for 3 years, and married since July. 3 wks after we got home from the honeymoon, I found out I was pregnant. Early on in the pregnancy, my husband found a better paying job closer to home and I am up for a job that is in my field of study (I'm currently in my Jr. year of college). All was going well until yesterday morning. My husband called into work sick, Shortly after he called work, he was feeling better, and i suggested that he go back 2 work. He didnt want 2. Shortly later, a message on the machine was firing him. His boss later relayed the message that if he went to work for a half day, he would understand and could keep his job. My husband refused. So I left. I feel betrayed. He had the chance to right the wrong but didn't. We're in a small town with little jobs. I told him I won't go back until he fixes the mistake he made. He says I'm making a big deal over nothing. I say we've got a baby on the way and to grow up. Was I wrong 2 leave him?

2007-12-10 23:28:54 · 16 answers · asked by unknown 2

what do you say?

2007-12-10 23:14:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Couple of years ago I had an accident that scarred my face. When my wife saw me after the accident, she divorced me. 2 years went by without any contact from her. Then I met a wonderful woman who noticed my eyes first and we started dating. Last night my woman and I were at my place watching movies when someone knocked on my door and it was my ex. I was surprised to see her, it took me by surprise that she was there. She barged in and when she saw my woman sitting on the couch she started calling her names and was screaming and hollering. I told the ex to get out and attempted to escort her out the door. Things happened so fast after that, the ex kept hollering and my woman seemed to disappear. Then I heard someone say my name and I really thought it was the ex, I was so damn upset and angry. I didn't turn around, I thought I was speaking to the ex and I told her what the hell is she still doing here, can't she see I'm with someone I care about? I heard the door close

2007-12-10 23:07:55 · 9 answers · asked by Jeff 1

2007-12-10 23:07:41 · 12 answers · asked by LOLIT 1

2007-12-10 22:57:53 · 11 answers · asked by Gail S 1

my husband does not give me affection and attention,how should i make him crave for my presence and attention.i want him to miss me when i am not around or busy in other activities.it really does not bother him when i do not give him time,even if he hides his feelings by not complaining .it hurts.he has never ever complained about not having time and attention from me?i think he does not care

2007-12-10 22:21:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

he s been acting strange lately....or is he?
ive been very unsure of myself lately and it feels like my boyfreind of 2 years is feeling the same!
my suspision got the best of me....we are constantly fight...about nothing!

im so afraid of being alone? why?
how will i deal ive his been cheating on me?
is my mind playing games with me bcoz my self steam is low?

weve been dating for 2 years now and living together for a year now, in the beginning everthing was perfect, i was sure that we will be married in the next 2 to 3 years, he spoke abt engagement quite a lot but seems that that is the last thing on his mind now!
his friends is constantly in the way... i cnt remember we last we had some quality time alone? which we enjoyed!

with my low selfsteam i dnt feel like going any where anymore, i feel that i embaress he, is it true?
how can i get this relationship back on track?

but fairy tales dont last do they?

2007-12-10 22:09:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i marrie with my wife 3 yrs ago.we have a son,but now i know my wife is aboy how can i do

2007-12-10 21:38:16 · 26 answers · asked by Gag F 1

a girl's family had approached me with their daughte's marriage proposal but i have some other commitments so i want to say no to them very politely.Plz help me with a formal proposal rejection letter.

TIA

2007-12-10 21:31:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is the minimun amount of time you should date someone before considering them for marriage?
What is the maximum amount of time you should spend in a relationship that doesn't seem to be heading towards marriage?

2007-12-10 20:27:43 · 11 answers · asked by ? 7

Hi,we Got married on 25th Nov in Hyderbad, Andhra Pradesh. How do I get a marriage certificate? I need details on how to register our marriage. I mean which application form to fill and where to submit, what documents necessary, etc. can any body help. Thanks

2007-12-10 19:44:44 · 3 answers · asked by bhavana 1

ok my friends husband stays out all night and she told him if he did it again that was it , about 3 months later he does it again and she tosses his *** out , so the next day hes calling saying he wants to come back thinking everything has blowed over so he ask her to come and pick him up at like 1 am and it was raining so she said hell no. so around 15 mins later he comes back and kicks the door down and starts yelling and breaking evertything from the tv, radio,computer,dvd all the elctronical appliances in the house , then he goes outside and smashes the car windows. and then after all of that she runs in the house and he comes back and kicks the back door in and threntens her so she runs next door and calls cops now hes saying its her fault she shouldnt have locked out him out. how does she continue to have a friendship with him for the children but at the same time what can she say to help him know what he did is what affected there marriage and get him to move on and stop this?

2007-12-10 19:40:56 · 5 answers · asked by khissmyputtytat 3

So...
I told my husband tonight that I wanted to seperate and that I thought it would be best for us if we were apart.Well, at first it went over ok, then **** hit the fan. Needless to say he is not happy about this! He said that I am giving up on him and that he needs my help, and I said that there is nothing for me to do, I have givin him all the help I can, but that the rest is up to him.
The thing is...like I said...I have been with him for 5 years, married almost 3 years. He started anti-depressents about 3 weeks ago, he says they arn't strong enough, that he needs stronger. (he's on effexor 70 MG) But, I have been the brunt of his unhappiness. I have been screamed at, have things thrown at me while Im holding the baby, been called names, he's left all weekend to play "video games" at his friends house, he doesn't take his pill on the weekend so he can drink, he's threated to "pound my face into the wall", "smash the cell phone through my face", "i'm being a c***!"

2007-12-10 19:19:43 · 5 answers · asked by lesliebedford623 1

why do some men use women and brag to there friends i have saw this in life where a woman married . and has a family get involved in a affair knwing well if it comes ou there marrage is over. why would a man do a woman like that isnt there no decency in them at all once they got from a woman what they wanted is that right on there part . or what isnt that the numbr .1. divorce rate now . and dont the laws need to be more stricter on this when it comes to it and both parties need to account for there actions in a court o law . whould this slow it down if each had to appar in there not the one who wasnt doing nothing but trusted . there spouces .

2007-12-10 18:46:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 18:30:30 · 9 answers · asked by it's me 5

Ok, so my husband and I are complete opposites in practically everything including how we raise our daughter. He was living abroad due to immigration issues for the first two years of her life. When he came to the US he told me I had screwed up and ruined our daughter. I was always proud of how close we were especially ince i did it alone.I am very into the attachment parenting, cosleeping etc. He thinks I am completely spoiling our daughter and that she has no respect for me. In some ways I agree, she hits me and has no real respect for my authority. I know that I need to become more strict if I want to maintain control of her as she grows older. My husband actually told me tonight, as I struggled to get her to go to bed without me, that he felt having a daughter with me was a mistake and that he didn't want any more kids because that would be an even bigger mistake. In general she is very good for a two-year old. She doesn't really throw tantrums except at bedtime and is affectionate

2007-12-10 18:17:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 18:17:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's left me so many times (about 8 times in 2 years). Every time he left (but one) was during one of my monthly PMS crying non-stop modes. When I tell him that I am just hormonal and I'm sorry for any disrespect, he says I am making lame excuses for being a b**ch and that I can't treat people this way. I sought medical treatment, but my doc says its normal to have this mood shift every month as long as at same time each month. Tell that to my husband. Why is PMS still a locker rooom joke to men? It's wrecked my life and is no joke at all. Fact is I can't control my emotions for 2 days of the month, so why am I punished? My kids already miss their Dad and I feel sick with grief and regret though I know I had no control at the time. I wish I had luxury of hiding out for these 2 days each month, but I don't.

2007-12-10 18:07:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi,

My husband and I are in the middle of an acrimonious period. He wants a divorce, but refuses to move out until we have a custody agreement in place (an attorney told him if he moved out I could claim abandonment). Anyway, I can't stand having him here and want to take his keys. We are in a rental apartment in California. We seperated last year, and I rented this apartment in my name only. Five months ago, he moved in when we attempted a reconciliation, but his name was NOT added to the lease. Can the police force me to let him back in?

Neither of us have filed any divorce, seperation, or custody claims as of yet.

2007-12-10 17:43:47 · 10 answers · asked by Jennifer L 1

ok i don;t know what to do, me and my husband are working on some problems. so i need my space and i am just taking one thing at a time and just because i told him i need some time and he just comes home at 5 pm and goes to bed now its almost 11 and he didn't eat anything. so the only way he will come out is if i say i love u 23 times and u know give myself to him i just can't do that. because when i ask him to explain why he did this or that and come talk to me when he is ready to explain it he doesn't and just acts this way and i start feeling bad what shuld i do. i am tired of his babyish ways.he didn't eat anything or drink anything but water. help he thinks he can get away with anything

2007-12-10 17:35:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this insatable desire to watch porn whenever my husband is away. I order it on the tele but I'm afraid he's going to find out one day. How could I break it to him before he finds out the hard way?

2007-12-10 17:34:23 · 43 answers · asked by Elizabeth W 1

What do you make out of this situation. A guy that you been seeing for five years tell you that he is leaving not only you but your kids two weeks before Christmas to go and stay with a guy friend out of town to pursue music. Not only that up and quit his job once again. Not only that use a argument as an escape go! What do you think?

2007-12-10 17:20:03 · 20 answers · asked by Promise 2

2007-12-10 17:15:47 · 12 answers · asked by hppy2b 2

father is paying child support, and i dont want anymore from him, because ever since he has gotten his green card of which he abandon me and my daughter once he received it he feels now he has right and has been harassing me ever since. i have obey the judgement orders but he has not at all. i want out so he can leave me and the child alone. she is so much happier since he has been gone and so have i and he just wont stop with the name calling. its the holiday and a new year coming and i want this to stop . i dont want to fight in the courts anymore. i am emotionally tired.

2007-12-10 17:15:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

50% of marriages end in divorce. The remaining 50% that stay married are not all happy in their marriage. Let's say half of them aren't happy.

So that means you have a 75% chance you will be unhappy with your marriage.

So why are you getting married? What makes you think you will be in that 25% (assuming the real # is even as high as 25%)

2007-12-10 17:09:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 17:01:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had some serious issues with my in-laws, however my husbands brother is very attractive to me. I almost never speak with him and have not ever had any inappropriate contact. He doesn't even like me, so it is even wierder. It's strange he's not the hottest guy on earth, but definitely is not ugly. I annoy myself with this issue because I really have issues with the way his family has treated me and I feel like I am betraying myself and my husband for thinking this-and I know the feeling would not be mutual!! Has this happened to any of you ladies out there? How to deal??

2007-12-10 16:38:03 · 7 answers · asked by Ferrari 3

A while back my husband and I were going through a really rough patch and we split up for a while. during that time I strayed..... I know it was really stupid and I regret it more than anything. We got back together and things have been good for over a year and he recently found out. Now things have gone down hill. We will be fine for a week or so then its a blow up. I know I hurt him more than I can imagine, but I want to get back to the good we were having before this came out. I get so mad when he brings it up but then I feel so guilty for being mad. I just want to get back to normal, whatever that is..... Please help!!!

2007-12-10 16:14:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous