my husband does not give me affection and attention,how should i make him crave for my presence and attention.i want him to miss me when i am not around or busy in other activities.it really does not bother him when i do not give him time,even if he hides his feelings by not complaining .it hurts.he has never ever complained about not having time and attention from me?i think he does not care
2007-12-10 22:21:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nazia,
You are mentioning something as a problem what others would have treated as a blessing! Please. Just because he is not expressing his feelings or that misses you, it cannot mean that you are not important to him or that he does not love you. Please. He may be respecting your time and space. It may be because he loves and trusts you so much. He may be just leaving you to do your other duties without bothering you.
You should not do anything to make him jealous. I think, he is beyond such silly things. if you do something foolish, you may end up losing his love, affection and trust forever.
Before you judge his feelings for you on this, try to assess other things between you also. Whether he has given you any reason to worry that your relation is not happy or that he does not love you or anything like that. If not, dear, just leave this. It may be just that you crave for more attention and when you are not getting that, you are feeling all this.
Think about your relation more carefully and fairly before getting into a situation where you doubt his feelings for you.
Please take care... All the best..
2007-12-10 22:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by doer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just this way. He shows his love in other ways. I have a boyfriend that is this way. Yes, it get heavy and lonely at times, but what I do is leave the house and spend time with myself. I tell him when I can not take anymore. The only time he is passionate is in bed. When he look at me and he thinks I look pretty or while we are out, he'll touch me in my back, or pull my shirt down in the back to hide my behind. You have to watch for his ways of showing his kind of affection. If I were you, I wouldn't play around with making him jealous. You might open up something that may go out of control. Don't cause that kind of problem, if there isn't one. I think he does care. It's just his way. Just find how and what he does to show attention. Maybe, letting you do what you want is caring to him. My boyfriend, likes to take care of me. If he could get away with me staying home,he would. he likes to know I have everything I want and need. He loves it when he leave me money before he goes to work. See, just see what he does and then you'll know how he really shows it.
2007-12-11 06:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a dangerous thing to play around with. Why not plan some events that includes your hubby instead? Maybe you could even suggest a vacation for just the two of you. If that does not work, insist on marriage counseling. Tell him that you are feeling neglected, and that you have been wondering if he is not interested in continuing the relationship.
2007-12-11 06:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't make your husband jealous or do any other childish things. Talking to your husband is about the only way to fix your problems. You don't sound very old the way you talk (or type about whats going on) but once you marry you are an adult and should act accordingly. Playing games is immature and has no place in a marriage. And I am not talking about board games and stuff. I am talking about "games people play". Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. (smile)
2007-12-11 06:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Fergy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can do that . that really works . but before that jst find out if really cares .if he doesnt ,u cannot make him feel jealous.but may be this is not d thing to do with husband
make him realise how much u care for him. let him feel comfortable with u. let him open up his heart . u have to create such an atmosphere so that he can freely express what he really thinks abt u. if all this doesnt work , u can try that jealousy trick but that may lead to disturbances if he is kind of person who hides his emotions without complaining
the best advice is to visit a psychiatrist.u need not waste time trying out tricks .
2007-12-11 06:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by praneeth u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Crimes of passion are often the result of jealousy.
Do you give your husband the affection and attention that you yourself crave for?
Be patient and loving and try to sort things out by communicating well.
Regards, pat.
2007-12-11 06:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Pat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not make him jealous, that is the problem with most people on here who have the same problems with their marriages, they are not getting the attention they want and/or need, so they have affairs, or are leaning that way.
If you want him to notice you, put something sexy on, and call him at work and have him come home for lunch, and just meet him in the bedroom for a sexy romp, and before that, in the morning, take a pitchure of yourself, and put it in his briefcase, and with a little note and say "meet you at home for lunch"????
He will get the pitchure and the idea!!!!!!
Make your marriage work, use your imagination, and believe me, he will love his suprise this afternoon when he comes home for lunch!!!
2007-12-11 06:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the point by doing that you will push him away even more than he is right now. I think you should openly talk about some of the problems the both of you are having. It would make logical sense for grown adults especially grown married adults to talk honestly about their problems.
2007-12-11 06:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Johny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being a little to clingy, don't get me wrong you need attention but miss you when your involved in another activity. maybe you abuse the whole attention thing and he actually does give you attention just doesn't let the world revolve around you
2007-12-11 06:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by big-tdl81 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
invite your husband out to nice dinner or make one at home and make sure the tv is off and its peaceful and time for a sexy outfit and then you must tell him how you feel so if this doesnt work out then you both need a little couples counseling and include wine or beer or whatever you like to drink it relaxes the tension
2007-12-11 06:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋