Marriage & Divorce - 10 December 2007

My ex has the ego of a 20 feet tall man. He thinks I'm jealous of his current relationship and that he is getting married again next year. It's been four years since our divorce, we're still friends and civil to each other, but I have absolutely no romantic interest in him any longer (especially physically!) Should I intentionally burst his bubble for my amusement?

2007-12-10 07:44:02 · 26 answers · asked by Vanessa's mommy 5

I cheated and I don't know what to do..its human nature to be sexually attracted to the oposite sex, but I made a bad decision and acted on it and now I feel so regretful and bad...

2007-12-10 07:42:55 · 39 answers · asked by confused<3 4

How do you convince someone that you really want them out of your life? After years of marriage, my husband doesn't believe that I really want a divorce. He won't leave, he refuses to see how unhappy he makes me. I ask at least once a week for a divorce and ask him to leave. I don't want to have to kick him out as he really does deserve better then that. So how to deal with the situtation?

2007-12-10 07:38:41 · 15 answers · asked by carmeliasue 6

She was called Suzy Q or John's girl or something like that. Well it turned out to be a kid messing around. This kind of stuff is really time-consuming and annoying. Who else agrees?

2007-12-10 07:35:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 29 and having problems letting my past gf's past go. Why? I was able to with other girlfriends and didn't give it a second thought. I realize it's childish to mull over something that is finished but still find it hard to do. I want to stop it but don't know how. She has been with 15 guys before meeting me. I've been with 7. That's double. I don't think about my past gf so why should she? Just feel like she "had her fun" and ready to settle down when I know I turned down what could have been 20. I feel let down that I should've acted on my impulses like a lot of other people did. I can't get those years back. What to do? I'm jealous and feel sexually inadequate here but don't want to worry over spilled milk.

2007-12-10 07:30:56 · 11 answers · asked by modusoperandi 1

I started dating this guy for a month now and things are great, besides the fact he is divorced and has an ex wife, he just recently told me he has a "domestic violence" on his record from an argument him and his wife had had years ago and she had called the police. He said he had pinned her down when they argued, she called police and he was arrested. he does not seem like a violent person, should I continue to see him or would you be freked out by his record?

2007-12-10 07:26:48 · 24 answers · asked by kelly k 1

I live in California. I am the custodial parent and am requesting child support. My ex is unemployed, however the judge is imputing minimun wage on him. His wife is in the military and therefore they live rent and utility-free on the military base. Does the judge consider this in calculating child support? I pay over $1300 per month in mortgage, electric, water, etc. Please only answer this if you've been in this situation or at least know someone who has. Does it matter at all that he is not military, and that his wife is? I do know that his wife receives BAH for self and dependents. That amount she receives went up significantly when they got married.

2007-12-10 07:18:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband so much. When I tell people that I am married they freak out and say that I am crazy. I was sixteen when I got married. My husband is such a great guy. I do not regret getting married to him but was I too young???

2007-12-10 07:16:04 · 32 answers · asked by .:♥Stepherz♥:. 2

2007-12-10 07:15:11 · 4 answers · asked by tj1000 1

2007-12-10 07:14:40 · 23 answers · asked by Marky M 1

I love my fiancée very much. We have been together for a while now and in just about every way the relationship is very satisfying. Every way but one, I find our sex life to be very unfulfilling. I am not asking for threesomes or serious kink, just for her to take charge and be a little more aggressive from time, maybe express some opinions about what she wants, and maybe a little bit of variety or surprise. This isn’t something I want to ruin the relationship over; I would like to find a way to express that my needs aren’t being met and that I am down-right bored. How do I raise the issue without hurting her feelings or coming off like a jerk?

2007-12-10 07:13:49 · 14 answers · asked by M B 1

I am with my Fiance for 2 years now, have plans to get married on April 10, 2009. I would like to here her voice during the day, see how her day is going and just to talk **** for a few. She gives me every excuse in the book for not taking her lunch break or not wanting to go downstairs to the Cafe or outside the building to call me. She has an elevator in her building where she works. She just told me she only calls me because I ask her to, but she dont want to call me most of the time. Am I asking to much to want to speak with the Love Of My Life for a few minutes during her day? Do I have to wait until after she gets out of work to speak to her? I would love some advice on this topic.
Thank You

2007-12-10 07:12:00 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband of 6 years has admitted to likeing my best friend who just moved back in town after a long time. He is staying away from her now but still makes comments here and there that drive me crazy. Bascily asking how she is doing in such. If he's so fond of her should I leave him?

2007-12-10 07:11:34 · 13 answers · asked by Mommy of 2) 5

If your spouse cheated on you but ya'll have been through too much to just throw it all away..is it ok to do it back to him/her?? or should you just give up on him/her??

2007-12-10 07:08:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 06:59:41 · 38 answers · asked by ? 2

ok girls, what if you and your boyfriend were talking about when ya'll started dating, u know, and ya'll know that when you first start dating a guy, they really don't take you serious until like one month or so of dating... anyways i asked my boyfriend that i believe that he was with oth girls, while he was dating me at the beginnig, i meant like sexually together, and he mad a face and i knew he mean tlike a yes... how would ya'll have felt? i mean even though it's in the past...

2007-12-10 06:49:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I leave for work at 7.30 in the morning. I get back at 6 at night. Nothing is ever done around the house. It is now 7.40 pm and I've seen her for 5 minutes. She works 3 hours a day, 2-5. As soon as I came in she said hi and disappeared in to the bedroom to watch her bloody soaps. So far my dinner consisted of a bowl of soup and a packet of crisps. I cook at the weekends. It it too much to ask to have the house cleaned ( the vacuum cleaner hasn't see a plug socket in over two years) and to have my dinner cooked for me!?

2007-12-10 06:47:17 · 21 answers · asked by Thunder 2

a little selfish at times, but not a bad person. my wife blows up on me once a month on average. says stuff to me like i dont think of her enough, etc. etc.
do all husbands deal with this? i am not asking this question to be a wise guy, but just wondering if i got a raw deal.

2007-12-10 06:41:40 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

a little selfish at times, but not a bad person. my wife blows up on me once a month on average. says stuff to me like i dont think of her enough, etc. etc.
do all husbands deal with this? i am not asking this question to be a wise guy, but just wondering if i got a raw deal.

2007-12-10 06:41:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT SIZE. I mean physical appearance.
Due to a certain childhood accident with a pants zipper there is a HUGE scar along the tip that makes it look deformed. Plus it is significantly curved to the left side. Also due to a low blood pressure condition, there are several large varicose veins running along it.

2007-12-10 06:39:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Personally I don't think we can change our spouse, but I do think we can influence them. Everyday we can influence our spouse in a positive or negative way.
If someone is trying to change their spouse, would you consider them a master manipulator? Reasoning, "If I do this, then my spouse will do that." "If I can make my spouse miserable enough, or happy enough, then I'll get what I want." I believe this way of thinking will run us to a dead end road. Even if they change, they will resent you for manipulating them.

2007-12-10 06:34:53 · 22 answers · asked by unknown 4

I have friend that I knew from BEFORE when he was single. He used to make jokes about how women did not want to be with him. I imagine this bothered him even more so because he is a great catch and he knew it. Fast forward one year he met someone and a year later he got engaged. Now he has been engaged almost a year. Why is my friend still making jokes about how women find him unnattractive?

I want to hear from married couples because you have been through the whole engagement experience.

thank you for your cooperation.

2007-12-10 06:34:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are not getting along. I found him registered on dating sites and left the house about four weeks ago. He changed the locks on my house and I could not get all my belongings... (I have been giving him money to help pay for the bills to his house, even though I haven't lived there for a month.)
We set up a time and day for me to get my belongings. When I went to the house. He wouldn't let me in. He said that he would box my things and hand them out the door! I was sobbing! My life was in there! I called the police and he let me in only for an hour! I am mortified! I have been helping him and trying to think through everything! He is the one who was looking for love elsewhere! And now he is saying he cheated on me!
Is this normal? Also his mother and father were in the house with him and they would not let me in!

2007-12-10 06:34:05 · 13 answers · asked by Becca 2

So my fiance's parents gave him a check for $2000 for moving expenses and so we can have some type of money for our small apartment we're renting this weekend.... so he asks me if he can have half of it for his college school loans? As if we didn't need that money to move, to buy groceries, and to furnish an apartment? I seriously feel hurt that he feels he needs that money for a student loan that can be paid for later on... What should i do? Isn't that money OURS instead of HIS?

2007-12-10 06:31:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know that it can have positive effects, like enhancing your excitement or teaching you how to do new things...
but i want to hear about people's problems with porn within their married relationship and problems you've encountered.

2007-12-10 06:31:20 · 10 answers · asked by nillachica 2

2007-12-10 06:21:06 · 30 answers · asked by ♥Sabre♥ 6

My husband left me a couple of months ago, claiming he just needed space shortly after; I found out that there was another woman involved. He said he didn't leave me for her, that my being unable to have a child was to much and he couldn't live without one, she could "possibly" fill that void. I accepted this fact and have been seperated since. We chose to start our relationship over as friends. I was just informed that his "girlfriend" doesn't like that I still do things for him, all the typical "wife" stuff, errands, morning coffee, setting aside dinner, and even cleaning snow off the car. How do I tell him or get him to see that this girl is just jealous and views me as competition? She's with him 5 nights a week and tries to occupy any free time he has, then he can't be with me. What can I do to show him that I'm the one he should really be with? For about a month he has been wanting and trying to have sex with me. I do love him and I can and would forgive him for his affair

2007-12-10 05:49:32 · 32 answers · asked by rcarnalla@sbcglobal.net 1

Adults Have Sex 61 Times a Year
Adults, on average, have sex about 61 times per year, or slightly more than once a week, according to University of Chicago's National Opinion Research Center. Marital status and age are key influences in sexual activity.

http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/marriage/marriage.html

2007-12-10 05:48:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's around those days where love fills the air. This coming year i will be 24. I've been living in the states for about 18 years now. I have adapte to everything here, even consider myself a bit of an white girl, but i can't shake this feeling off that i want to be with someone like me. I've dated guys of all races, but i have never encounter someone who chinese. I just want to know what it is like to be with someone who shares the same culture as me. I want someone who can watch TVB series with me. I want someone who can speak cantonese. Portland lacks chinese. I can't move away just to find love. I don't know where to find him, perhaps ill always be unhappy.

2007-12-10 05:46:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't understand what the importance of my attire has on my hubby but I think it's ridiculous and is a form of him being overly jealous and insecure. What do you all think? For ex. just this morning he asks why am I wearing those pants? I am like...What is wrong with these pants?? The pants have no pockets on the back and are considered professional since I am required to dress like that. He also asked why am I wearing boots with heels. I usually wear my flats but since it's raining outside I needed to cover up my feet! How to get my husband to chill out a bit on this issue?

2007-12-10 05:46:02 · 15 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4