My husband and I are not getting along. I found him registered on dating sites and left the house about four weeks ago. He changed the locks on my house and I could not get all my belongings... (I have been giving him money to help pay for the bills to his house, even though I haven't lived there for a month.)
We set up a time and day for me to get my belongings. When I went to the house. He wouldn't let me in. He said that he would box my things and hand them out the door! I was sobbing! My life was in there! I called the police and he let me in only for an hour! I am mortified! I have been helping him and trying to think through everything! He is the one who was looking for love elsewhere! And now he is saying he cheated on me!
Is this normal? Also his mother and father were in the house with him and they would not let me in!
2007-12-10 06:34:05 · 13 answers · asked by Becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even if it is normal, it is NOT okay. Get that cleared up right away. It is time for you to start looking out for your best interest. You didn't mention any kids in the situation; if that's true, that's an even better opportunity for you to take care of YOU. As long as he is playing this game and not letting you into the house, STOP giving him money! Make your stance clear in the relationship between he and you as well as between you and our parents. Though they may not be willing to "pick sides" and stand next to you, you need to make it clear they should not be supporting him so openly; at least not if they wish to continue good relations with you. Start making those decisions for yourself and move toward a better situation. God bless.
2007-12-10 06:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is stop giving him $$ for his bills... he is a grown man and he can pay for them himself...
Second of all , you need to move on... I know it's hard but there is someone out there better for you... maybe once you stop crying and going after him ...he will notice what he has lost... yes its a big possibility he cheated on you if he was on dating sites...so why would you still want to be with him when you deserve better?
Get all your stuff from this house, stop going there, and start over again...it sounds really hard...but right now you need to be strong...you deserve better... You should get a divorce...adn tell your lawyer that he cheated on you and that will make him have to give you some stuff...
I wish you the best..
I feel bad cuz its such a bad situation to be on the holidays but i do wish you toget out of this.
2007-12-10 14:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO This is Not Normal At all
sorry you are going through this but it's time to move on obviously he has and he's being a jerk about it
STOP PAYING THE BILLS FOR THE HOUSE. Let him deal with that
Don't give him anymore money infact if he calls hang up on him
If there's no kids involved leave him alone
Go To a Lawyer and Divorce his lazy Butt
2007-12-10 14:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously wants out and has no character or morals. u r better off. i know that's not the way you feel now, but take it from me, a year later, he wont look so good. he is a bastard!! i left mine a yeah ago, left MY HOME with ALL my belongings just to get away. and now i'm in love and couldn't be happier. i've moved on and he is paying the price. i'm sorry for u honey but just be glad u got out while the getting was good and QUIT paying any bills, he's a jerk!!
2007-12-10 14:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by jade4e83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's trying to get back at you for leaving by locking you out. If he was looking at dating websites then he's probably telling the truth about cheating. It sounds like you're having a rough time of it. You should wait and see if he will ask your forgiveness before you make your final decision. In the meantime, try to put your life together as best you can without him.
2007-12-10 14:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow your husband sounds like my ex husband. I ended up just letting most of my stuff stay there. I finally got most of my personal belongings such as clothes but only when he decided to give them to me. No this is not at all normal. Your husband is a control freak. Just be happy that you are not living there anymore - sometimes it is better just to let "material" things go.
2007-12-10 14:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by BAMA a.k.a. K~E~G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, stop helping him with the bills and let him make his own way....That is what he is doing anyway, so let him do it 100%. Go down and file for divoce before he dose that way if there is anything you want or need to get from him you can put it in the papers. Don't let him file first he might ask for support....Sorry
2007-12-10 14:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not normal! Your husband is a jerk and a complete a******. He was the one who's been cheating and he even has the nerve to do that to you? He's been punishing you and wants you to suffer more. And why would his folks instigate? Wow, I really feel so sorry for you. I hope that you can straighten your life back. Goodluck!
2007-12-10 14:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by sincerely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an abuser. Mine did the same thing although I didn't cry as I was so over him. He was a cheat, a batterer, a control freak, ad nauseum..........AND he stole all my belongings too. Honey.............it's just stuff. I got my freedom. And guess what?????????? He is still after me. An abuser NEVER stops Just be happy you are moving on and stay as far away from him as possible!!
2007-12-10 14:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is messed up stop paying him money. he is a jerk i know you love him but you need to move on some how just keep telling your self you can do better you dont need this and you will be ok in awile. that is all I can say. I wish you the best and I am really sorry. you shouldnt have to go thro that.
2007-12-10 14:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋