Marriage & Divorce - 10 December 2007

My husband spent all his money on his duaghter's Christmas because her mom was getting her mainly clothes and he said she "deserved" to have toys for Chirstmas. h and he had to pay for half of the clothes the child's mom got. Well I had to buy all of the stuff for our two kids. He didn't help a bit. He even picked buying his daughter a ton of gifts over paying his share of our bills. It's like he's trying to impress her mom and buy her love and I'm pissed because it leaves me to pay for everything for our kids and out bills. What to do? I tried telling him I was upset and he just thought I was being unfair by asking him to tone it down a bit and help me out some. Do you think I'm being fair?

2007-12-10 02:20:28 · 22 answers · asked by bamagrits84 3

My neighbors in the upstairs apartment are having a terrible screaming, shouting, pounding, throwing things fight. It's 12am and my roomates and I were woken up by the terrible noise of their children screaming in fear.

What do we do? We're three girls living together and afraid to go up there.

2007-12-10 02:18:18 · 13 answers · asked by kk1977 4

my hubby just recently got a new job, its a night shift. he leaves every day at 4:00 and comes back around 1 am, now i know he HAS to go to work, but why is that every time he leaves i feel so sad? I don't want him to leave and most of the time i cry! Am i getting TOO attached or too clingy with him??

2007-12-10 01:55:35 · 22 answers · asked by ♥ღ♥Babygirl♥ღ♥ 2

Hi, I am in a marriage that has had it's problems but we get along enough to run the house without fighting other than a few words here and there. I've not wanted to leave because the kids...you know.
The thing is, I disagree with how my husband parents about 85% of the time. Of the other 15%, I am ok with 10% of it and the other 5% of the time he is golden - just great.
It is extreeeeemely hard to watch him reduce my kids to tears and fighting when all he is trying to get them to do is their chores. I am tired of being in the middle, tired of being accused and reprimanded because he thinks I am interfering when my kids come to me saying he is unresonable or crying or frustrated with him. I agree with the kids, but have to tow the unified front line.
Is this a deal breaker for this marriage?

2007-12-10 01:55:07 · 9 answers · asked by xxxxxxxxx 4

Married for 3 1/2 years and throughout our marriage I felt there was never something right. The first years should have been full of love and intimacy which we never had, my wife has been traveling overseas and meeting her cousin at the airport by chance but travelling on a same itinary in Thailand for two weeks at the time she also never called me as she said she lost my mobile number. A year ago a close friend of her told me that my wife has be telling her was having an affair with her cousin, my wife denied saying she just told her an imagination story and believed my wife. Last night she has gone overseas for two months to visit her mother and her friends, her cousin also lives there. She shave her p...y a week ago which she never does and told me a couple of days ago that she had two birth control Nova rings she gave away to her friend. Altough I do not have physical proof but all these signs just don't add up. I love her but perhaps she feels totally different towards me.

2007-12-10 01:53:27 · 31 answers · asked by maleinaus 1

About 3 months since we separated and all the suddenly she decided that she wants to go to MC with me. About 3 months ago we had an argument just like any normal marriage couple, but it got heated and she went to stay at her sisters house. A week later she told me that she wants a divorce because she's fed up with me. Note: we didn't cheat on each other or beat her. She just wanted a divorce because she was "fed-up". Anyhow, initially I suggested that we go to MC, but she refused and wanted to go thru the divorce. I tried to talk to her out of the divorce but she was too angry n refused. Fast forward 3 months later, she found out that I have be going to therapy on my own and now she wants to go with me. The catch is she is willing to go to MC to help me, but she still wants a divorce. I told her if it's only to help me and not both of us then don't go, but she still wants to go? Also she has been dragging her feet with filing the divorce papers. Is she giving false hope? help!

2007-12-10 01:53:18 · 16 answers · asked by DMa 1

I athought that in the Guidelines somewhere it stated that the Non-Custiodial Parent had to provide the children with a bedroom and a bed to sleep in. We have a 12 year old boy, an 8 year old daughter and a 5 year old boy together. He lives in a two bdrm apt and the 2nd bdrm was for our children. He got a roommate and gave that 2nd bdrm to the roommate so now our children have to sleep on the floor. Am I legally bound to still make them go over there every other weekend because of this?

2007-12-10 01:49:49 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa P 1

2007-12-10 01:49:24 · 14 answers · asked by yankee hater 1

My wife and I have had a brutal year to say the least, unfortunately we've only been married for one year. She has been very controlling and hot headed and very conniving. Day after day of non-stop fighting ended in a blow out when she tried to get between my best friend and I. I told her immediately I wanted out and was ready for a divorce, it's been far too long of a year.

Problem is, she disregards the fact that I want out and keeps telling me to give it one more chance (I've heard that before). She keeps telling me It'll get better, when in my mind its over and I'm ready to move on.

I have no idea how to let her know its really over this time, without pushing her over the edge. Short of serving her with papers or bringing another woman around I have no idea how to let her know. She is very emotionally frail and I'm afraid she'll do something rash. Any ideas or suggestions welcome!

2007-12-10 01:44:52 · 18 answers · asked by ace r 1

Listen I dont know what else to do. My husband watches porn all the time and it is tearing our family apart. It hurts me so bad to catch him lookin at it specially since we have a daughter. I need a porn blocker or a nudity blocker that is extremely strong. I mean one that you cannot get into. I cant get one that u have to have a password when u get on the comp cause it is his computer. Anyways, I got on here and asked this question a couple of months ago and no one had a good answer or a blocker that worked. If someone could please tell me one I would appreciate it cause I dont want our marriage ruined. Thank you so much

2007-12-10 01:44:37 · 16 answers · asked by -Brooklynn and Kaylee's Mommy 6

I'm quite frustrated with the situation I'm in. I don't know if I'm wrong or right...let me give a background. My husband and I met in college, fell in love, had a 6 yr relnship(got engaged also). His parents broke our engagement, he broke off with me, but after 2 months, we got together again and eloped, and had a very happy marriage for 4 years. Now his parents came to help us shift into a new house we had bought, and they are still there for nearly a year and the shifting is done. There was no prior discussion on their stay. We had a lot of fights since they arrived as they are interfering and commanding around the house and I don't like it. It feels like their house not mine. My husband blames me for mostly everything. we fight a lot and he talks of seperating and asked me to leave the house in front of his parents. I have learnt to ignore some things. But when I voice an opinion, he usually gets angry and stops communicating with me. I think I'm being taken for granted

2007-12-10 01:36:44 · 8 answers · asked by qnsans 1

my ex cheated, was all the things you don't want in a spouse. she's the one that left (i didn't have any intentions of stopping her at that point). Thing is it's been 7 months of trying to forget about her, what happened, her crazy family and all the drama that goes along with her. I've just started dating again. nothing serious just to get my feet wet. I'm on a few dating sites and put up a my space page. I haven't heard from my ex in over 7 months and did a lot of work within myself to try and forget. ever since i put up a my space page, her friends and her are visiting mypage constantly. I'm not butting into her business but she's got everybody looking at mine(i've got a ticker on myspace where you can see who visits). I haven't heard from her and she left after an affair. I wish she'd just leave me alone. I finally started emailing her friends asking them to leave me alone. Why are they doing this? We are history? Think I did the right thing by telling them to leave me alone? Divorce is hard enough and I really don’t want to be reminded of her and have no idea why she wants to be reminded of me. I just want to be left alone.

2007-12-10 01:32:53 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1

Ok my husband and I have been married just over 5 years and we have 2 small children. We went for a little over 3 months without sex and last night we started too but it was obvious he didn't want to. He just laid there with his hands behind his head wouldn't move or even touch me! After a few minutes he said "ok, that's enough", rolled over and went to bed. If he wasn't on house arrest I'd think he was having an affair. So what could it be? Maybe he thinks he has some kind of disease or something, maybe he has a bet with someone or maybe he's just disgusted by me. I don't know but I feel so furious, hurt, and humiliated and I don't know what to do! I can't take this rejection any longer!

2007-12-10 01:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by poopykins81 3

My husband and I have been together for three yrs and being married for 1yr and half we have 7months old baby. He is 30 I’m22.My husband doesn’t like me going out with my girl friends and when I say go out I don’t mean clubbing but I mean just girly things like shopping getting hair, nails, and body messages. I take care of my self I like to look good regardless where I go even at home. However, every time I go shopping or getting y hair or nails done my husband complains about me taking too long. He even complains when his friends come over and say that I’m hot he says that I dress to sexy and ask me if like one of his friends I told you the only one for me and that I never gave you reason to be this way. At first I though it was about me but now that I make a very good money I found out is not about money but he just likes me to stay home around the clock, I even pay someone to baby sit our babe while I do whatever I have to do so he could do whatever he likes.

2007-12-10 01:13:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has a friendship with this girl and its come to the point thats its detrimental to our marriage. We've been together for 3yrs married for 2 1/2. We have a toddler. He's know this girl for less than year.

I told him he needs to stop being around her until we can get our marriage back on track. He flat out refuses to stop being around her. He's not cheating with her but has fantasies about it. She's a lesbian with significant other.

I want him to choose between his friendship with her(at least temporarily) and our marriage. I won't sit around why he disrespects me and ignores my feelings.

He says that I'm being ridiculous and shouldn't make him choose because he has "the willpower not to do anything with her".

Am I being unreasonable????

2007-12-10 01:10:58 · 16 answers · asked by ARL 2

2007-12-10 00:57:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

says she wants to be able to hang with her guy friends like go shopping or to the mall and leave her husband home? when she is 29?

2007-12-10 00:45:00 · 14 answers · asked by amayseng 3

First I must say, I go to counseling, so please don't suggest that. I am a new mum, I have a lovely daughter of 6 months old. I am depressed and stressed because of the following reasons:

1- My residency. I am living in UK now, and waiting for my USA green card through marriage which is at its last stage. (Waiting for the interview appointment). So I am just anxiousely waiting.

2- I want to start my own business from home as an IT recruitment agency and I know I can do it, because I used to be a sales manager for 4 years. But I just can't get started, I have prepared the necessary forms, bought the equipment (fax, printer, extra phone line, computer, books), researched a lot, made some initial calls, but I just can't start working. Everytime I want to pick up the phone, I get extremely immobilized, as I'm stressed any time the baby can cry.

3- I have extreme communication problems with my husband, we don't have a sex life, and he is very sick all the time.

2007-12-10 00:41:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

take me away to Canada..He says i will have to get job, AND look after house, cooking..He will NOT help in any household duties.My parents want me to say yes....i feel him too overpowering and rude....help..what do i tell parents?..he has come from canada to get married.

2007-12-10 00:39:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I left my husband almost a year ago because of his drinking. I left him because he told me I had to because he could not get sober with me in the house. I really left him because I could not let my daughters live that life anymore. Anyway,to make a long story short,he found somone else a few months later and now they are having a baby in a month. I am still so hurt by this because it was not supposed to turn out this way. Even though we live in different states now,it is almost like he has taken her and this new baby over our own kids. He sees them on holidays and wants everyone to drop what they are doing for him because he decides to come into town. He was paying me for the kids but stopped for some reason a couple of months ago. I feel so lost. I know I didn't do anything to make all this happen but I don't know where I will get the strength to move on with my life. This all started because he told me a couple of mintues ago that he wants to marry her when we get divorced.

2007-12-10 00:34:50 · 11 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

my husband and i have been together for 3 years married only 2 months. before we got married he pushed and pushed for us to get married and now its like he doesnt care anymore. he would rather go out with his friends, spend time with his friends, and go drinking than spend time with me. i would go with him to do any of these things. i dont have a problem with what he is doing besides the fact that he doesnt include me. he doesnt talk to me about anything anymore. he has just become so distant and 'cut off' from the relationship that i dont know what to do anymore. i try to tell him how i feel but then he says im *itching at him. no matter what i do its wrong and more than likely will start an arguement. im just so lost that i dont even know what to do anymore..........plz someone help me find some kind of direction.

2007-12-10 00:30:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just need to know how it went for you and if you ever realized that you did love the person that you have been married to. What was the outcome? Did you get a divorce or did you experience regret? Did the person that you thought you fell out of love with meet someone else and did that affect you? Or if you are the person who fell out of love, did you meet someone only to regret leaving your husband or wife in the long run? Or were you just happy wht the enw person? If you have experienced this...wether you were the one who fell out of love or you were the person who your spouse left because they fell out of love, I would appreciate your answer. Thanks!

2007-12-10 00:29:55 · 7 answers · asked by Javi 5

2007-12-10 00:29:43 · 3 answers · asked by himanshu d 1

For a guy to talk dirty to when in conversation?do you think we should avoid such person?even he sounds as not serious?when he said something like that what does he actually mean?is he okay or crazy?what is your opinon ladies?

2007-12-10 00:25:03 · 10 answers · asked by truth set free 1