PLEASE HELP!..guy wants to marry me within 15 days and ,,,?

Question

take me away to Canada..He says i will have to get job, AND look after house, cooking..He will NOT help in any household duties.My parents want me to say yes....i feel him too overpowering and rude....help..what do i tell parents?..he has come from canada to get married.

thank you v much chocks..great help

THANK YOU!THANK YOU! THANK YOU! ALL....you all are great friends...know what to do now....

Answer 1

You are right. He sound controlling and sounds like he wants a servant not a wife. I'm from Canada and I'd be very worried. If he turns out to be abusive (and I've got a bad feeling) you will be in a foreign country with no family or friends to support or help you when you want to leave.
It is your life so it shouldn't matter what your parents want, it's about you.
Me, I'd be running for the hills.

Answer 2

say "I want to think about it" continually till he leaves. Either be engaged for 18 months or more or not at all. This is too big of a rush and honestly you will definitely be sorry. If your parents want you to leave that badly, once the guy leaves then move out and get your own place, that is, if you are 21 or over and have a good job, career and education. If you don't all of those then tell your parents you need to have all of those before you leave, then apply to get all of those. NEVER do anything rushed.

Answer 3

Do not do something so rash. If you have reservations then don't get married. What you are describing is the classic control freak. If you don't want to marry him tell them and tell them why. Many control freaks end up becoming abusers and that may be part of your uneasiness. What they may be looking at is the financial security he has to offer and be completely missing the fact that this is the pattern of a spouse abuser.

Answer 4

This guy wants to marry you & take to Canada within 15 days. Is he the Prime Minister of Canada or some other big dignitary/VVIP that he will be able to arrange your Spouse Visa & Immigration along with the marriage, its registration & all other necessary documents & paper ready, processed in 15 days time only ????? Do you think that going to Canada as a legally wedded spouse is so simple as going from one city to another in India itself, the various procedures required for all this visa processing, immigration etc will be done on his wishes as if the Canadian immigration & national security authorities are working for him & are under his control. If this so then let this guy help so many of other couples to unite immediately who had applied for the P.R.Immigration & spouse visa for Canada & are waiting for their turn since long, you must tell this guy to put such proposal here in yahoo answers & all those couple waiting in line for family immigration on the basis of marriage will contact him & will get such family immigration immediately. Thank God my daughter did not get such 'big show off' otherwise I would be banging my head on the wall rather getting exited by such proposal as your parents. Just say no to him, he is just a big show off nothing else. Half my relatives are living in Canada & few have Canadian citizenship, so don't tell me getting family immigration within 15 days for Canada is so easy, rest its your personal decision, do as you wish, but next time don't post question here "what to do for family immigration for Canada as its almost a years has passed but I'm still waiting for its processing to complete, my husband is unable to do any thing in regard?"

Answer 5

DO NOT MARRY THAT GUY !!!! His Behavior will only get Worse !! And it doesn't sound like there is any LOVE there!! I can't Imagine your Parents WANTING you to Marry Someone who is "Overpowering and Rude". He does sound Very Controlling!!!! Marry for LOVE!!! Always!!!! Good Luck !!!

Answer 6

Tell parents to give the guy his money back
because you are not getting married to this man.
Tell parents you will find a man who loves you and will treat you wonderful.
Tell parents if they love you, they will not want you to be abused by someone no one even knows.
This guy might be a murderer or psyco and you are not going to marry him.

Answer 7

DON'T DO IT.
Sounds like you are not in love with him, that he wants you as a servant. You indicate you already feel he is overbearing and controlling.
Why on earth do your parents want you to go with him?
If your parents don't wnt to support you and that's why they want you out of the house, move out on your own or with a friend but don't fell like you have to go into servitude with a scary man to please your parents.
SOunds like you need to give yourself some libertion from your parents for Christmas.

Trust your feelings and make yourself your top priority.

Answer 8

that could be a loaded query - "gained weight" is an exceedingly non-particular term. If we are speaking 5 or 10 lbs over the process 10 years, i might think of maximum men ought to care much less. If we are speaking 30 or 40 lbs in a three hundred and sixty 5 days, then that could be a distinctive tale - some thing is erroneous there. i'm getting married in some weeks, and that i needless to say do not anticipate my destiny spouse to look the comparable in 10 years that she does on the instant, and that i might think of she thinks the comparable. in spite of the fact that, there's a distinction between putting on somewhat weight and putting on risky weight - in case you earnings 30% greater weight in a short volume of time, not in basic terms is it undesirable, yet there is better than probable a reason for it (melancholy, rigidity, etc.). i could be nerve-racking approximately her well-being and well-being - not in basic terms actual, yet psychological as nicely. i'm not asserting i might leave her, yet i'm asserting that i might think of there exchange into some form of a concern, and that i might decide to repair it. i don't think of that is unrealistic to anticipate your companion to maintain a healthful weight - i'm not asserting they should have a six p.c.., yet you ought to determine you reside healthful. My expectancies are not with the aid of fact I in basic terms "desire a warm spouse", yet you ought to think of of your loved ones. undesirable mum and dad bring about undesirable young toddlers - in case you're outdoors chasing your toddlers around a pair hours an afternoon, and serving them a nicely-balanced, healthful dinner, do not you think of that youngster's going to be fit than Timmy Johnson down the line whose mum and dad feed him quickly nutrients each and every meal and enable him play xbox all day? your toddlers seek for to you, and if their mom feeds them junk and in no way workouts, that youngsters going to have weight subject concerns with the aid of fact they gained't comprehend any further suitable.

Answer 9

you standby what you are thinking of him, i prefer you to say no to him, prevention is better than cure.

But he has told everything before itself wihch others will not do practically. Nowadays calamities do come with prior forecasting.

You should talk to your parents about this because you will not have a chance in future. Be firm on your decision.

Answer 10

Ask from your inner. That Answer will be your own. Weigh your pros and cons. Any person can be changed up to reasonable level of equilibrium provided you are determined and make sincere efforts without ego.