First I must say, I go to counseling, so please don't suggest that. I am a new mum, I have a lovely daughter of 6 months old. I am depressed and stressed because of the following reasons:
1- My residency. I am living in UK now, and waiting for my USA green card through marriage which is at its last stage. (Waiting for the interview appointment). So I am just anxiousely waiting.
2- I want to start my own business from home as an IT recruitment agency and I know I can do it, because I used to be a sales manager for 4 years. But I just can't get started, I have prepared the necessary forms, bought the equipment (fax, printer, extra phone line, computer, books), researched a lot, made some initial calls, but I just can't start working. Everytime I want to pick up the phone, I get extremely immobilized, as I'm stressed any time the baby can cry.
3- I have extreme communication problems with my husband, we don't have a sex life, and he is very sick all the time.
2007-12-10 00:41:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
4- I am overweight and I am trying to lose weight with aerobic home video. But all these activities seem so impossible and I feel like they need so much energy, and I don't have it.
5- I am very isolated right now, and I am trying to socialize, but again, it's too much effort to get out of the house.
I am just always too stressed, what can you advice me on?
2007-12-10 00:43:46 · update #1
Speaking from experience, fight your way through it. Make yourself pick up that phone and don't procrastinate. I know it is easier said than done but if you make yourself do it for 3 days straight you will get into the rhythm and feel so much better about yourself
2007-12-10 00:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by dd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy you think your stressed now.... You have no idea what you got coming. A baby pulls a couple apart not together and you are not prepaired to have a baby. You are very focused on money. Its a piece of paper that can inahnce or wreck your life. Depends on what you ALLOW it to do. I will never have money together in a relationship. I have done it both ways and keeping it seperate, having a house account you both put into and the rest is to do with as the person wishes works best. That is the number 1 thing couple argue about. I dont know why they continue to do it with the fights that is causes. Its like you are banging your head against the wall. You need to be mature and get along so that your child has good role models becasue thats what you are. Good luck.
2016-04-08 05:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for the things you have mentioned. Your counselor may need to look into medications that can help with the depression. Most of them actually help people lose weight. I remember a time when I did not want to get out of bed in the morning. My psychologist suggested I take an antidepressant (Wellbutrin) and it has made a huge difference in my life. I feel more alert and ready to face the day. Best wishes!
2007-12-10 00:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound to be suffering from Post-Partum depression. This is quite common, and a mental health professional can help you over come this. Many women experience this after the birth of a child. Please seek professional help. Once you get that resolved, I'll bet many of the other things will not seem so unsurmountable, and if you're happier, your husband will probably be more communitive.
2007-12-10 01:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by dmc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
poor thing. since you're in couseling, pretty much all you're going to need will be covered by you counselor [if he/she is good enough].
the only thing i'll suggest to you is to try and get your exercise going. a DVD [for me] doesn't cut it. trying to keep up with some stick lady on a DVD is DEPRESSING!!!!
i'd get a bike or some running shoes and get out of the house and be in control of my physical exertion.....but PUSH when you exercise. get the endorphines/adrenaline pumping. you'll feel better. it sounds to me that alot of your problems are stemmed from self-concept....get your self-concept in order and other things will fall in line. exercise really helps in this regard
....and feel better. life REALLY IS a gift. :)
2007-12-10 00:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by blue-in-groove 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to rethink what you do have.... Sounds like you have a good life, you know what you want from it and dont know what to do. we all go through that at times. Think of that little baby that needs you, you have alot of good things going for you and you need to stop and think about the people that have nothing... i wish you luck
2007-12-10 00:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to remember that my attitude has to do with the way that I feel. If I have a positive attitude things seem to much better.
2007-12-10 01:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ria J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should try thinking of all the good things that you do have.
2007-12-10 01:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I;m sorry I think stuff like this takes time
2007-12-10 01:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok . . . I guess you should just talk it out with your husband. Ask him what is going on with him and if he is alright. Is he really depressed?
2007-12-10 10:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by cool2nnenna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋