Ok my husband and I have been married just over 5 years and we have 2 small children. We went for a little over 3 months without sex and last night we started too but it was obvious he didn't want to. He just laid there with his hands behind his head wouldn't move or even touch me! After a few minutes he said "ok, that's enough", rolled over and went to bed. If he wasn't on house arrest I'd think he was having an affair. So what could it be? Maybe he thinks he has some kind of disease or something, maybe he has a bet with someone or maybe he's just disgusted by me. I don't know but I feel so furious, hurt, and humiliated and I don't know what to do! I can't take this rejection any longer!
2007-12-10 01:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by poopykins81 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He still able to go to work and AA meetings so it's not like he's stuck at home
2007-12-10 01:30:50 · update #1
I'm with him the majority of the time, I give him a ride to and from work, there's only 3 other people that work with him, his boss, his boss's gf, and his boss's dad. Then he goes to AA meetings 2-3 times a week which I give him a ride to and from, he hates going to the meetings so he takes a book and reads the whole time and ignores everyone, the rest of the time we're home together and if I go to the store or something he watches the kids. We haven't had sex since he's been on house arrest and he says that I'm the only girl he's ever been with sober.
2007-12-10 02:42:39 · update #2
I was on house arrest for 76 days. A very weird thing happens to you during this time. You realize your life isn't your own and you are being controlled by others 24-7. You have to let them know your each and every move at all times. You get a feeling of a caged animal in a way...not exactly but similar. He probably feels depressed about it and less of a man being controlled by someone else. Be patient with him until he is off house arrest. It really does mess with your head.
2007-12-10 01:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he be if he's under house arrest? Are you there 24/7? Or, maybe at work or his meetings? It only takes like 3 minutes to cheat.
2007-12-10 10:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, about the only thing I can think of is depression... A good way to make him want you would be to get a toy and take care of your own business... You may be surprised to see how he reacts to it and how often you wont even need it! LOL
Seriously, sit down and talk to him, find out what is going on... And I hate to say it, but make sure someone is watching your house... You know he doesn't have to leave it to have an affair. Could be one of your neighbors... You NEVER know.
2007-12-10 09:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe whatever has on house arrest has him feeling depressed, and makes him feel less of a man because he can not go out a make a living to provide for him family. And what he did to be put on house arrest could cause him shame as well.
Good luck hunny...Have you tried talking to him about it?
2007-12-10 09:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by smk7472 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he is on house arrest he may be suffering from depression. I think you should talk to him about it. You should probably also talk to him about being a more positive role model to his children.
2007-12-10 09:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress stress stress is what he is under. I am not sure why women do not understand that. if a man is under alot of stress he can not perform, and is not interested in sex at all. and since hes under house arrest that would be enough to stress you out.
2007-12-10 09:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression or other mental issues? Sexual disfunction is rarely about the other person, its 99% of the time within ones self.
2007-12-10 09:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he was just not in the mood that day or his sick try talking to him but realy i dont think is you at all best of luck only time will tell
2007-12-10 09:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nora+ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do in my mind is to just talk to him and see whats on his mind
2007-12-10 16:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by cheer71926 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋