Marriage & Divorce - 9 December 2007

ive been married 4yrs. icant stop thinking about a man i work with, everything that annoys me about my husband is what this man is what i want my husband to be. my husband is bipolar and is cranky and moody IS CONSTANTLY yelling at me but at other times he is so sweet, funny and caring.they are both so alike except the other man doesent have these dark moods. we are constantly flirting and i think he wants it to go further. my husband gets turned on by the thought of other men sleeping with me and talks about it when we have sex but i dont know wether he really wants it or if it is just a fantasy he thinks about but doesent want to do. i really want to have sex with this guy but i dont know wether to tell my husband or have an affair. im scared he might be ok with it but then use it against me if he gets depressed and wants to lash out at me. i love my husband but his moods are starting to depress me and i just want to be happy wich the other man makes me feel whenever together.help me

2007-12-09 23:59:43 · 22 answers · asked by so confused 1

anyone in pinellas county florida! i'm going for sole custody of 7yr old daughter. ex is abusive alcoholic...i have 8 police reports (domestic violence, 1 battery w/daughter present) photos, several witnesses, and police testimony. he was also hospitalized for severe alcoholism. now he is out of state and left my old residence abandoned..he is seeking sole custody also b/c i will not let my daughter speak w/him. he has been abusive to her in the past as well, and continues to be abusive and controlling towards me. i also have 2 dvi's (dropped due to promises to go to rehab) on him also...what are my chances for sole custody??? he never gave a damn about his daughter.

2007-12-09 23:44:09 · 4 answers · asked by lisa c 1

due to his arrogant, selfish behaviour, I could never like this man, however the relationship with my sister and her children has suffered, would you invite them round for christmas with or without her husband ?

2007-12-09 23:37:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm confused... need it for my debate...

2007-12-09 23:30:20 · 5 answers · asked by Hanna M 1

If you left someone whom u were with for almost 5 years...first off could u fall out of love with them , move on , be in love with someone else, and be truly happy in a couple months after leaving the 5 year relationship??? Even also, telling the one whom u left, loving and positive things about u two for the first two months after leaving them??? And secondly, ur the one who left and ur new girlfriend was sending stuff to your ex, wouldnt u think that is sick and morbid when things werent mutual and ended bad???? (oh yeah and the one whom left, please picture this as you, you have bipolar)

2007-12-09 23:12:43 · 10 answers · asked by mjust41 1

My husband can never say why he loves me and he never compliments me. When I asked him what he didn't like about me so I could try to work on it, he wouldn't tell me that either. What's with him?

2007-12-09 23:04:04 · 14 answers · asked by sweetness 2

I have 2 children (boy 8, girl 12). I have a very vindictive ex. She would not allow me to have the kids this past weekend, my court ordered weekend. She says that my place gave my kids head lice (not the real question here, for I will deal with that situation by going to the proper legal channels) She has threatened to keep them away until after a hearing she requested. This may mean that my wife and I do not get the kids our court ordered holiday time.

Now the question. I have court ordered visitation with them today from 4p-8p. There are many many weather related (icy road conditions) school closings. Many school districts, including theirs is closed as well. There is no guarantee that the roads will improve, or that when I get up there she will allow me to have the kids.
I really want to go. Should I call my ex and ask her opinion? Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

2007-12-09 23:04:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i started talking to a guy about 4 years ago,,,
we have met a few times.
he has ful custody of his daughter..shes 8 and
he has been married twice..
i get on AMAZINGLY
with his daughter and want to have a long term relationship with him.. am i treading of doggey ground?

2007-12-09 22:56:06 · 8 answers · asked by musicmad_91 1

and my partner dont want pills ? please guide me

2007-12-09 22:42:59 · 19 answers · asked by R12121 1

2007-12-09 21:35:59 · 8 answers · asked by Jack 6

w me , then a week later called to tell me to stay away from him and his new live in gf, but i hadnt called or anything. what cdoes this mean

2007-12-09 21:28:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just don't get it, why so many people want to be tied down by marriage. I mean most of it ends in divorce anyway, but even if it doesn't, there are so many freedoms you lose once ur married. I personally will never get married ever. I am 19 y/o guy and I know a lot of people say stuff like this when they r young, but I am know who I am and its not for me. So what I want to know is why do so many people get married, cant be just love cuz there r so many negatives that out weigh that?????????????

2007-12-09 19:51:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

What if she was your friend? What would you say to her?

My 19 year old friend, who's very mature, has been dating this guy for about a year. They're both very into each other. They get along pretty well, but sex seems to be the biggest thing in their relationship. He always tell her that he's very turned on by her. She's turned on by him too. It's not the only reason why they're together, but it's a big part of their relationship. Most of the activities they do together just to try to focus on other things than sex end up with the two of them having sex....lol

She's in college and she just got engaged and I'm happy for her, but just sometimes it seems a bit awkward. I just wanted to see what other people would think if they were in my shoes.

2007-12-09 19:43:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is okay with the friends thing, keep communication but doesn't want to meet up with me right now, we just broke up one week ago.

She wants be friends, start from the beginning, and takes things slow.. i guess she wants space, but the sign tells me that she doesn't want to do anything with me anymore.

how can i get her back?
what should i do?
is this the end?

2007-12-09 19:40:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Howdy folks you may remember that I posed the above question a couple of gazillion days ago. I have decided to call it quits and am in the process of sorting things out - nothing has changed- she is still not working.

As funds are limited at this stage does anyone have any advice as to a source of reasonably cheap legal advice. Is CAB [citizens advice bureau] an option? not that i have one where i live. Any help (advice) would be appreciated. I thought that i could work it through by talking but it literally fell on deaf ears so i am taking the only option left even though it is going to cost me half of the house [to which she has had little input] - in the vicinity of some 200000 once everything is settled.
At the end of the day it is peace of mind, health and sanity which hopefully will prevail.

2007-12-09 19:28:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

well believe me it doesnt get better....it only gets worse

2007-12-09 19:07:47 · 16 answers · asked by machele 3

We've only been married 1 1/2 years and he is self employed, and chooses to work at night and sleep during the day. when he's not working he stays out in the garage all night playing online poker, watching porns behind my back and doing drugs. I've asked him to come to sleep with me but he wont unless we have sex. I'd love to have sex, but I just wish he'd want to spend some time with me. Or at least come to bed with me every night. I don't understand why he lies about everything and continues to watch porn and keep a bottle of lotion by the computer instead of being with me????

2007-12-09 19:05:10 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married and pregnant. My Husband and I split up about 6 months ago. This is our third child. ( I am due any day now.)
He has a girlfriend that he moved into our family home a few months ago and I have my own apartment. He has the kids most weekends, which means I have to see him every weekend. I still love him, and would love to be with him again but he is unwilling to give up his girlfriend. I have decided to be strong for myself and my kids and work my *** off to be able to give them a good life. My problem is that everytime I see him I want him back. I can't keep myself from getting weak in the knees for him. How am I supposed to get over him? I don't want a rebound, I want to be happy without a man, and live for me and my kids. Any advice?

2007-12-09 18:31:26 · 11 answers · asked by anyhoo085 2

2007-12-09 18:30:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mississippi to visit his girlfriend's family. He has made a habit of leaving town with her and my 10 year old is raising a fuss. Tonight she called and left him a silly message and he returned her call pretty much chewing her out and he just wants to hear from her only when it's an emergency. I couldn't believe my ears, he has never behaved this way to his kids ever. There has been some tones from his gf to the fact that he's had to explain he has enough love in his heart for her and his kids (red flag) Well, my daughter became VERY upset and was crying uncontrollably. I tried calling him to help me to console her and he wouldn't pick up. I called his Mom who I have maintained a nice relationship with and she said she would call him. Well, he did return the phonecall finally and I am in utter astonishment that he treated our daughter that way. All I can think of is someone is telling him to treat her that way, was I wrong to do what I did?

2007-12-09 18:19:34 · 19 answers · asked by ooolala 2

So I am 21 and away at school.

Today I get a call that my parents are splitting up.

I don't even feel like going home for christmas now, i was excited now i just feel weirded out. My dad did something outrageously jerkish to make my mom wanna leave him and now it makes me think differently of him because of what happened and that my younger sister was there to witness it and be traumatized.

Does any one have advice for this type of situation?? I know plenty of parents divorce or split up and its gonna be hard but i almost think its harder now that im older.

2007-12-09 18:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

This guy is crazy, he has been in and out of jail since they have been together. He does a lot of drugs, cheats on her and beats her. She wants to leave him but she is too scared because she believes that he will kill her, our mom and I also believe that he would do it. She has an apartment offered to her and she could move in in January, but it is in the same small town that he lives in. Is there anywhere she could get help? What can I do to help her? Should she move to a different town/city? This is scary.

2007-12-09 18:05:10 · 18 answers · asked by Lady Rae 6

the question is pretty much self explanatory. How do I go about this??? She had all the details that really scare me about this and now that I betraid her trust, she will hate me. WHAT WOULD YOUD????

2007-12-09 17:56:51 · 21 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4

My son come home in 4 days from IRAQ after sreving better then 4 years over their!
Here back ground:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AniD2jHP_RogMjYvoy4Y.r7sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071205205233AAx7qAr

I asked my husband to self the DIVORCE until after the the holidays because my son has been hurt so much latly with the lose of a few of his friends and the woman he was in love with (CIVIL ENGENGEER) that let him have some peace in his life for a few weeks!

My husband out of the blue said he was willing to recincile our marriage if I wanted to, that he was a fool and that he loved me! Now I got a delema on my hands what to do because I still love him, and my 3 daughters ( all over 30) still think of him as their father, but the issue of him leaving me wont go away, as well as him infering that I was not my sons REAL MOTHER that cut me to my core!

The reason he left me was in his words I made everyone more important them him and his needs ad thats why he left me.

2007-12-09 17:56:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-fiance was 400 lbs, "forgot" to take his blood pressure medication, he was selfish, always had to be right about everything. He had emotional problems. I wasn't that attracted to him, we couldn't have sex because of his size, he kept his house dirty and nasty. I didn't like his family that much. He would embarrass me in public. He looked at porn behind my back. He wasn't very romantic. He didn't take care of his responsibilities sometimes. If this was your boyfriend would you leave him??

2007-12-09 17:42:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiancee and I have been separated for the last couple weeks and he comes home right before Christmas, so for most of his gift, I decided for it to be...well....fun.

Keep in mind, he is a very romantic guy....

I rented a suite at a fancy hotel that has a hot tub in the room. Got some lingerie and some "couple's games" and plan on surprising him the weekend before christmas since christmas will be spent with family. I will go to the hotel and check in before i bring him there and stock the room with wine and some candles, but while I do want it to be "romantic", I also want it to be fun...which is where the games come into play. They both involve fun questions as well as positions and what not. I want it to just be us having fun with eachother and experincing new things, as well as some old favorites-all over again in a new light.

Would you like it if your significant other did something like that for you?

2007-12-09 17:34:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

ly had visitation every other weekend. One weekend I found a homemade crackpipe in their clothes. I contacted the police and push come to shove he got custody of the children (5, 7). I had to quit working because the children were so disruptive in their school. So I signed us up for counseling, then the children also went to their counseling. Well to make a long story short. The children are out of the house and on their own because I raised them to the best of my ability. Their father was always working and never had time for the children. But the children call me MOM even though they have a mom somewhere. Now out of the wild blue yonder he wants me to get a job. I'm 51 years old haven't worked in over 12 years because of his children. Now he thinks I'm a freeloader and expects me to "this is my house and my rules you need to get a job", or "my house my rules" I was a medical office manager. I can't get that job at my age now. What would you do? Stay or go?

2007-12-09 17:30:40 · 18 answers · asked by Mouth of the South 3

my boyfriend of almost 3years moved out of our newly purchased home a month ago while i was atwork and we only talked a few times (i asked him to atleast pay disconnection fees on his stuff) an he would either be an *** to me or brush me off then on thursday i asked him if he had the money yet and he was being all nice an we ended up chatting for almost 3 hours and he said he left cuz when we gained weight we stopped doing things (we also had financial differences). I asked me to meet me somewhere and tell me to my face its over and he wont he said 'i never said i didnt care and i never said i didnt love you' and i asked him about coming home and he said his parents told him they would never speak to him again and theyre his only security and he cant since then he hasnt been online at all and we havent talked and im so confused hes 28 and im 21 hes renting a room from a stranger cuz he doesnt know anyone here his whole family is accross the country what am i supposed to think and do

2007-12-09 17:03:37 · 21 answers · asked by mikki.mouse87 1

I was cleaning the bookshelf and my husbands old cell phone bill fell down. I noticed he had a different address. i asked him about it and he snapped!!!!!

2007-12-09 17:00:50 · 20 answers · asked by what? 3

My friend's husband has recently turned into a coke head. He brings people into the house at all hours and told her that if she doesn't agree with his lifestyle that is her problem. She asked him to leave and that she wants a divorce, but he said the earliest he will move is February! His check for the rent also bounced. She doesn't know what to do. I told her to call the cops. I don't know what else to tell her. I'm very worried.

2007-12-09 16:55:20 · 16 answers · asked by ? 7