Husband is using cocaine.....how to get him out of the house?

Question

My friend's husband has recently turned into a coke head. He brings people into the house at all hours and told her that if she doesn't agree with his lifestyle that is her problem. She asked him to leave and that she wants a divorce, but he said the earliest he will move is February! His check for the rent also bounced. She doesn't know what to do. I told her to call the cops. I don't know what else to tell her. I'm very worried.

She is an elementary school teacher and is capable of supporting herself, but she now has $20 to her name because he has spent all the money from their joint account on drugs, partying, drinking , etc.

Wish i could have her stay with me... but she is thousands of miles away

I just talked to her on the phone, she's with a friend and is away from the house right now, so she is safe at the moment.

Answer 1

she needs to go to legal aid now and talk to someone since if they divorce he will be there and they can't represent both sides so he iwll have to pay for his attorney. I think the fact that he is using coke, is enough reason for her to get a restraining order to keep him away from her and the house. If they are renting, she may be better off just leaving if the rental agreement is in his name. These are questions though an attorney can help her with. One thing she should do first is to close the joint checking account and get one in her name alone. Good luck to her!

Answer 2

Calling the police in wont do anything. They need a search warrant otherwise its considered an illegal search and wont hold up in court.

Calling the police and telling them your husband is a coke head, they would probably give you their sympathy tell you to get help and have a nice day. again cant do much.

i agree with teh user above. go to the police station, get some options from them. Im sure they will point you in the right direction.

i dont get one thing. if her husband is a recent user, how did he become such an addict so quickly???

ive been using cocaine for the past 3 years. I havent done it in the past 2 months. it never once interferred with my personal life or family life. i guess its different for someone who does it everyday or someone who does it once a monht

Answer 3

Your advice to her was correct! She needs to call the police. The police will make sure he leaves since she is demanding he leave the house. She has that right.

A family member demanded her husband to leave (for several reasons, cocaine use was one) and he refused. She called the police, told them she told her husband to leave and he was refusing. They came, stayed there while he packed up his things and didn't leave until he did. They told her that if he comes back, to call the police and he would be arrested for trespassing. However, make sure she doesn't tell the husband this until AFTER he leaves, because the no trespassing wont go into effect until he leaves. If he finds that out he may not leave.

Do what you need too and convince her to call the police. It is the only way to get him out!

-Brit

Answer 4

Instead of calling the police, I would go down in person and discuss options with them. If she calls them and there is drugs in the house, she could be blamed for having possession of drugs. Also, she should discuss the bouncing checks with the poilce. And be prepared for the worst! But she's got to get rid of him!!!

Answer 5

Oh my god. Throw all his **** out and change the locks on the door. If he tries to come back, call the police! He won't be in his right mind (stoned) so he could get violent or abusive if he stays....or if he goes. Once he's gone then she can start to deal with his problem. Maybe he'll go to treatment or at least want to try to work out their issues. It won't happen with him living there and using and not paying the bills.

Answer 6

She needs to leave the house. Is she another woman who does not work and is 100% dependent on this man and can't leave? If she is not then she should just pack up her things and leave, and then file for divorce.

Be very careful offering to allow this friend to stay at your house. Her husband is a coke head and has coke head friends. This is how innocent people wind up dead in drug related crimes. If she pisses him off, he is going to come to your house looking for her or worse, he'll send someone else to your house looking for her.

Answer 7

call the police get him out of house get another account without him on on it. us it to pay bill explane to landlord they might work with her soon as she can file for the big D and move try to not have any contact with him change her name whatever it takes i still run from my EX in preson now they will let me know if he ever get released changed my name moved from state to state got married have kids and job new life but he could still find me if he wanted to you now how it works. men or woman can become dangeris when they turn like that and often get the attuted if you arnt mine you wont be anybdy elses either yes I lived in my car friends what ever i had to do although mine did much worse things and should be in jail for pleantly more years good lck to her.

Answer 8

if she calls the cops, make sure she does it without being there herself, or she'll go down with him.

she needs to seriously get out of that situation. help her look for a place, or offer her your couch for a few weeks or something until she can get things sorted out enough to be on her own. then definitely file for a divorce.

Answer 9

Have her leave the house and then call the cops. She shouldn't be in the house when they are using cocaine....and definitely shouldn't be in the house when the cops arrive. Make it his problem.

Answer 10

She needs to get out of this situation ASAP or it will cost her her job. Does she have a friend or family member she can go live with? Can she go to a woman's shelter?