Why do so many people want to be tied down?

Question

I just don't get it, why so many people want to be tied down by marriage. I mean most of it ends in divorce anyway, but even if it doesn't, there are so many freedoms you lose once ur married. I personally will never get married ever. I am 19 y/o guy and I know a lot of people say stuff like this when they r young, but I am know who I am and its not for me. So what I want to know is why do so many people get married, cant be just love cuz there r so many negatives that out weigh that?????????????

haha see everyone says that, but u see the fact is I am not getting married, but I guess u got ur opinions so what ever. And what does that have to do with growing up, to many people think you gotta be married and all that bullshit to be grown up haha screw that, but hey guess in ur eyes I will never grow up.

well I am not having kids either so thats out of the picture

ya thats me I do what ever I want when ever I want and dont answer to no one. I could not stand marriage at all, but I guess some people like that kinda thing.

I guess also a lot of people need some one to take care of them there whole life, but me I can take care of myself and dont need no one, I am an island. You might think that sounds like I am being to cocky or something but its just who I am and I guess everyones different and a lot of people must need some one to take care of them.

Answer 1

It take all kind to make the world go round.

Answer 2

Hmm...

"most of it ends in divorce" -- nope. 59% of the population is married. 10% of the population is divorced. Yes, there is a high probability that a marriage will end in divorce, but it can hardly be said that "most" do.**

The thing is, not everyone thinks like you do. In fact, only a small percentage of the population thinks like you do. Most people do not consider marriage as just "tying them down."

Since most people do not think like you do, but instead like the idea of staying with someone they love, then yes, it can "be just love," because those people don't see the other stuff as being "so many negatives that outweigh that".

I'm not saying marriage is 100% awesome, and I'm not saying you are cut out for marriage. There are people out there who aren't.

I do know a lot of people, mainly males, personally, who did not feel they were ever going to get "tied down" in marriage, saying it wasn't for them, just as strongly as you are now. Somewhere along the way, they met the women who made them change all their views on marriage, committment and family, and some of those guys are the happiest married men I know.


EDIT: I don't think you're that cocky because you say you are an island, you don't need anyone, etc. etc. and all that crap. I pity you. I pity anyone who is so self-involved and arrogant that they never need anyone and they never want to be needed.

And you know, it's gonna be funny when you're no longer a good-looking 19-year-old and have grown into a pathetic middle aged man who never took the time to learn how to care about another person. Who do you think will want you, then? At that point, you'll probably WISH you were tied down... then at least you'd have someone want to be there with you and you might occasionally get laid. You think some 20-year-old girl is going to want to get anywhere near your wrinkled, sagging butt?

Answer 3

I don't see it as being tied down to something immobile. I have been married for almost three years and I have had more liberation in those three years than I have ever had before. I do understand those people who get married for the wrong reasons feeling like they are tied down but part of that is routine and you need to realize that not every day is going to be a party. I love my husband more now than I did the day we met. It is true that the divorce rate is staggering but the reason for that is fast weddings or weddings for the wrong reasons. The people who marry knowing that their marriage will have it's rocky points will go into it realistically and understand that there will be times that it seems that you are tied down to that person and all of their stuff that they harp on you. That is part of marriage. Depending on how you want to look at marriage there are more positives than negatives. You have someone there who loves and supports you in what ever you decide to do with your life. You have a person who loves you independent of your family and who wants the best for you. I guarantee that you will meet a girl who will just knock your socks off and you can't imagine anybody else being with you after her. It seems like that will never happen but it does.

Answer 4

I thought like that too. I don't need anyone I do what I want and go where I want with out anyone holding me back. Yeah it was nice while I was young. I loved it, I had a blast. I don't understand why someone would get married in there early 20s. You are young and should think like that.

I'm 25 now and I have had my fun all by myself. Now I want someone to share it all with. I want a partner in crime. Someone that will be there for me and run away with me. Some things are better done with another person. If you are in love and best friend with that person its the best.

You are not tied down unless you let it happen. I am still young and I am not going to get married for a few more years. But I am in an amazing relationship with someone that is my partner and best friend I love him. Now when I want to do something I include him I am not tied down. I think kids are what tie us down not your lover. Besides work can tie you down just as bad. Stuck in a dead end job with no one. Thats got to suck.

Yet I'm sure kids can be the best gift god could give you. I look forward to maybe having one someday.

Answer 5

Honestly, I think marriage is most important for the kids. Over 75% of kids whose parents divorce when the kids are young turn out to be less than average citizens (financially, criminally, etc.). It is the opposite for kids whose parents stay together during their childhood. So if you care about kids or the fate of the world (which lies in our kids hands), you would get married. Unless you don't have kids, than nobody cares what you do.

Answer 6

If I would marry, it is for the right to be able to sign for the person legally. Do you know, that is you live with the person an endless amount of time and the person is in life support, you do not have the right to sign for the person, nope, none. No insurance money, no help from the anything, and most important you can't sigh for them, sad.
Sometimes you know more than the persons parents of what the person trully wants in their end, and yet you have no right to sign for it.

Answer 7

Obviously you have never been "in love" because when you are you will take the good with the bad. Marriage is a promise you make to your partner yes it can still be broken but it makes you feel as if they are yours and you are theirs."It's a nice feeling" Your husband /wife is a witness to your life otherwise when your gone who will truly know you or what you were about.

Answer 8

I think it's because so many of us are lonely. This time of the year is especially difficult too for people who are up in years and alone. Sometimes it's better to be tied down than to just bounce off the walls sitting alone by yourself.

Answer 9

When you fall really and truly in love, you'll want to spend your life with that special person. Maybe that'll never happen for you, but I hope it does so that you'll know how wonderful a good marriage can be. I speak from experience.

Answer 10

because not all women are controlling conniving bitches like you think some will actually take care of your needs and bone you once and a while just because
divorce usually is happens because someone is not willing to compromise and there are allot of people rushing into marriage in the late 70's and early 80's. its also more and more prevalent in the media.

Answer 11

some people like constant companionship, i think.... for me, i never really liked it, although i was married before. i've learned i can wash my own underwear, like it better when no one EXPECTS things from me (like dinner.. hell, i like cereal or just plain fruit or a piece of toast!). and when i go out, i don't want to have to give minute details about where i'm going, who i will be with and what time i'm coming back... i'll come back whenever i please!

I have nothing against marriage, but it's not for me....some of us are just not cut out for having to answer to someone else...