I was cleaning the bookshelf and my husbands old cell phone bill fell down. I noticed he had a different address. i asked him about it and he snapped!!!!!
2007-12-09 17:00:50 · 20 answers · asked by what? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe he felt you were spying on him, and felt violated. It was on OLD cell phone bill, right? So it is a part of his past that he did not want you to know....
2007-12-09 17:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ben YY 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are the billing dates during the time you actually lived together? If not then there's probably nothing in it. However if it is, it sounds like you may have proof of him cheating, or perhaps phone gambling, perhaps having even another "household" with someone else? Something anyway which he wanted to hide. Otherwise why get his phone bill sent somewhere other than his home address?
His anger was at getting caught out. You do need to talk to him about this, and DO NOT let him fob you off. If he won't talk about it at all, you may have to see what else he has been hiding, and find out why.
You need to take care of you first, and your marriage second.
2007-12-10 01:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that is not good. If it is a bill to the phone number that he has now, it sounds as if he is sneaking behind your back. Maybe he has a second life you don't know about. Does he go on business trips very often? If so, I would be concerned by that. Ask him about it? A relationship cannot be based on secrets and lies. And you did nothing wrong, you were merely cleaning a shared bookshelf between you both. so, don't listen to anyone who says you were snooping around, because you werent. Good luck hun.
2007-12-10 01:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the defense?
When people are hiding something there are different things they will do to avoid answering the real question. Snapping gave him an out to avoid the topic all together.
If you think he is cheating, were you able to get a good look at it? #'s on the bill and such? Where was the address, have you ever heard of it before?
best wishes
2007-12-10 01:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't make sense. Either something else is bothering him that made him snap or he's hiding something from you. Wait until he calms down and then approach the subject again. There shouldn't be cause for secrets in a marriage (not this necessarily is a secret) and he should be able to answer any questions you may have. Rather than fueling the fire though, wait a bit before you bring it up again.
2007-12-10 01:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by RomanceStuck 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nicole,
Ideally he should not have snapped and it is very natural for you get concerned or worried. But unless you have some more solid reasons to worry whether he has been cheating etc, do you want to think in those lines? If it is the first incident, just leave it. Even you might have behaved like this if you felt he was going through any of your things, what do you say? You can probaly tell him that you got worried when he snapped at you and that you have such trust in him and felt like asking whether you did something wrong for him to shout at you. The issue with such talks is they get easily diverted to another shouting or blame game. Do it if you really feel so, or else, leave the issue.
Dont worry. And live happily. Take care..
2007-12-10 01:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's either 1 of 2 things:
1) He's hiding something. People who snap over little things for seemingly no reason are hiding things and get defensive when you ask them anything at all about it.
2) It could have been the WAY you asked. If you had a very accusatory tone, then that's why he got angry. If not, then I'd be suspicious as hell.
2007-12-10 01:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he over-reacted because he had no legitimate explanation for having a different address on the bill. The best defense if a good offense, so he turned the tables on you in an attempt to make you feel guilty for prying or being suspicious. My guess is that he has something to hide.
2007-12-10 01:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would say you just busted him cheating.
Some men who cheat will have a HOT cell phone or a secondary cell phone that is not the normal phone. This way he can do his business on the HOT phone without drawing attention by having someone calling at all hours on his normal phone. The hot phone will normally have a phony address or a safe deposit box address.
2007-12-10 01:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and study this phone bill really well when hubby has gone to work and maybe phone a few numbers to see who answers. If they answer just say "sorry I think I have got the wrong number" and hang up.
2007-12-10 01:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This could be a sign of cheating especially if he snapped on you for finding it.
Discuss it with him and if his story doesn't add up I would suggest some separation.
2007-12-10 01:07:12 · answer #11 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋