Marriage & Divorce - 9 December 2007

Im 14 and pregnant by my 18 yearold boyfriend and my father wants us to get married. Can we get married? How and what will we have to do . in connecticut...by da way

2007-12-09 06:05:09 · 18 answers · asked by First L 2

Three years ago,i divorced my husband .. Then i met this fantastic fella we have 6 children between us my children get on great with him... But his dont like me because of their mother it`s not as though he left her for me they where split 3 yrs befor we got together..i feel so uneasy when i`m around his children . He as been away from his wife for 5 yrs and i think he is scared to upset his children if he divorce`s his wife ..But i think if we are going to stay together he should divorce her I would never dream of keeping him away from his children but they are now adults ..I don t think i can take anymore do you think i should call it off and get on with my life or should i stay and wait until he is ready to finalise it with his wife?

2007-12-09 05:50:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our marrage was emotionally over, he says he is commited to resolving it. He is still calling her every day...but it is really more complicated than all this. I have found out this affair has lasted about a year. I knew nothing about it untill 6 weeks ago. I made changes to be a better partner and wife. I see small changes in him also. he has pictures of the two of them sexually involved on a sex web site. He has still not removed them. I try not to pry. I think he is/was in love with her. When I ask him why he would want to stay in this marrage he says because of the kids, the house and of course for me. He tells me every day that he loves me, I do not think he is in love with me anymore. I want to give him the bennifit of the doubt. It has only been 3 weeks since he made the decision to commit to the marrage. this was a decision he said the two of them made. After I confronted her. Do I give this more time? or should I simply start planning for the devorice

2007-12-09 05:37:29 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked for the divorce, HIS attorney sent the Settlement Agreement to my attorney. I have signed, but now my ex wants to go for custody instead of him OFFERING and AGREEING that he is giving ME primary residential and HE asked for and I agreed that we would have 50/50 custody. He wants this all changed. Can he do that? (not getting a response from my attorney)

2007-12-09 05:36:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you still carry on the affair or have sex with the married man (or woman) if you KNEW they were also still sleeping with their wife (or husband)

2007-12-09 05:13:25 · 23 answers · asked by busymum 5

During a passionate moment he mentioned having a desire for someone I am close to ... he since apologized and it hurt me very much. Do I need to worry that he is attracted to her? How would you handle this!

2007-12-09 05:10:05 · 15 answers · asked by amy a 2

my wife eats pickled herrings.. eww

2007-12-09 04:55:54 · 22 answers · asked by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6

a friend of mine is going through a really tough divorce. and his soon to be ex wife has a really good lawyer, (he cant afford one) the stipulations say that as part of the divorce he has to get a $250,000 life ins policy and her be made the sole benificiary. can they do that???
he's more concerned b/c what about his mom and daughter (from another relationship) and the lawyer says he'd just have to get another policy for them seperately. i didnt think they could do that, but im not sure. why should an ex be the benificiary? and what if he wants to get re married?
i feel bad for him, she already took his car (because her's died) and at the pre hearing the judge allowed her to have his. he cant even get back and fourth to work. the poor guy has nothing else to give....
any advise as to what can be done?

2007-12-09 04:51:30 · 8 answers · asked by jessi jane 2

2007-12-09 04:45:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has been out nearly every weekend since we found out I was pregnant, he is working away at the moment and only comes home once a fortnight even though I am coming towards the end of my pregnancy, he goes out in London where he is working and turns his phone off and lies to me constantly, I always find out when he's been lying about who he's been with ECT. Just to top it all off he has just found out he has genital warts, he swears to me he has never strayed in the 2 years we have been together but I just cant trust him, he says the warts could of been lying dormant for sometime (we have been together 2 years) I love him so much and feel like im being made a fool of, we have a beautiful house together and a puppy with baby number 1 on the way, why am I feeling like this? Is it all in my head? Please help as im not sure I can take anymore....

2007-12-09 04:42:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm married and been married for quiet sometime now it's been 3 years and it seems like he doesn'nt want me to have any friends everytime i get a friend he already don't like them and he did'nt get to know them everytime i go somewhere he want's me to follow me what do you think i should do

2007-12-09 04:26:49 · 8 answers · asked by darshala22 1

This is becoming a big issue in our marriage. Do other couples also face the same situation? How to resolve it?

2007-12-09 04:23:35 · 31 answers · asked by Whisperer 2

We have only had sex once because I am also married and time does not permit it. I am in love with him and he tells me he is in love with me. His wife recently found out that him and i were still in contact and she told him to end it. He told her he would but told me he couldn't, so we have still been talking everyday, we talk about everything, even things that go on in his home. he has never told me he was leaving his wife, and i am not planning on leaving my husband. Has anyone else been through this?

2007-12-09 03:56:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have no kid. Can I go along with them ? I just want to know.May be nothing happen. No marry

2007-12-09 03:43:43 · 22 answers · asked by Supadan 2

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 6 years and we've lived together the past 4. We recently found out we were pregnant and had a miscarriage after 3 months. He's talked about it but when ever i bring it up he gets pissed so i just stop bringing it up. I know he's not trying to save to get me a ring but im starting to get sick of waiting. I want toget married and start a family and it sucks seeing all of my friends around me doing the things i want and have only been together for a couple years. What should i do just break it off and start looking fo someone who wants to start a life with someone?

2007-12-09 03:35:49 · 24 answers · asked by tasha b 1

I have a friend whos husband cheats on her, spends all his money on himself, (she says he pays the bill) He hasd to . He lives there too! Anyway he tore out her kitchen over a year ago.because he found some mold in one wall. He tore out everything.including the kitchen sink.. I got him $10,000.00 from his insurance company and he spent most of it on things other than the kitchen. Now after a year she's selling her eggs for $7,000. a pop. That means they are taking out up to 36 eggs a pop. Thats alot of her kids walking around .She has s said shes doing it because she just wants a kitchen. He took the money from the 1st eggs and did some work but didn't give her a sink yet. So she in the process of doing it again. That means up to 70 of her children are being sold off for a kitchen. There are a lot of risks involved . One of them is death. I have gotten involved and put myself in the middle over the anger and fears that I have about the moral and health issues. Now she hates me!

2007-12-09 03:32:08 · 13 answers · asked by dan 2

So I have been seeing this guy for 2 months and his ex girlfriend just moved out right before i started seeing him. He claims the relationship was over way way before she moved out and that he had already had a rebound girl.

So then he tells me how his ex is calling him and she wants to move back in.. blah blah.. he said he didnt bother to pick up the phone and wasnt answering her calls..

but just last night when I stayed over his phone rang at like 1am and it was her. I said do you want to talk to her? and he replied "no that would be rude of me and I already talked to her earlier as we are still friends."

obviously she wants him back its only been a couple months after the breakup.. what should I do? he calls me all day every day and I love being with him but I think maybe he needs some time to grieve? should I back away or just continue being his friend?

2007-12-09 03:29:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

professional answers only.

2007-12-09 03:18:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok I am trying to move on with my life and my soon to be ex husban is emailing me tell me that he still loves me and he cant get his mind off of me. He left me for another girl and moved away and now he cant stop thinking about me. I dont know if he really meens it or he is just playing me. What should I do?

2007-12-09 03:03:11 · 19 answers · asked by elaine c 1

So heres the story, Im a 26 yr old lesbian and have been with my girlfriend whos 47for 2 yrs. We live together and all we do is fight. She is very selfish & verbally abusive. We have almost a love/hate relationship. Last yr we were having some problems & with no notice she tells me shes moving to Bklyn & that I should go home to my Mom's. I was devastated. I wasnt read to end the rel. &said I would move with her to Bklyn. Since Ive been here we still fight so much & I resent her for how &what she did to me. Shes always putting me down saying Im immature, she cant wait to get rid of me, I'm crazy, etc then when she calms down she tels me that Im such an angel & I'm so good & that she knows she gets crazy. I cant take it anymore. I am so depressed-I feel dead inside. I go to work &come home &go to sleep. Friends keep telling me to leave but I feel so weak. She even tells me to leave if Im so unhappy. I guess im waiting for her to change. What should I do? How do I get strong?

2007-12-09 02:58:38 · 14 answers · asked by DreamGrl 1

Ok, I found some items around the house that have to do with or near my husbands stuff. I asked him about all the stuff and he swears he did not purchase nothing. Well to i point i believe him but yet i dont.
We now he is being really disrespectful to me and does not trust me any more.
I asked him what he wants me to do so he can trust me and respect me more all he says was NOTHING
I dont know what to do?
any suggestions

2007-12-09 02:48:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

and according to the parenting plan, we are supposed to have one week with the kids then he has one week. Because of his job, he cannot take them during his week and I feel like I should either be compensated as a "babysitter" or he should hire someone to care for them. He has been dating an absolute selfish needy "b*tch" who keeps demanding more of his time. This is tearing my oldest daughter up, she is hurting so bad. It kills me to see her hurt and I've become very bitter with him for doing what he's doing and not realizing his actions effect others. So instead of owning up to it, he's like fine I'll pay you off. Is this wrong?

2007-12-09 02:45:44 · 10 answers · asked by ooolala 2

i am 20 years old. me and my husband just had our first baby boy in september. i was with my hubby for about 2 years before we got married and had a baby. Everything was so perfect. I love my baby boy to death there is no question about that but i had problems with depression after the c-section. My life changed, my body was cut and im still worrying about making it back into my pre-pregnancy body. Im still fighting with the depression. I talked to my doctor and he recomended other things before he gave me med. to help out. Latley i just seem to snap at EVERYTHING. my temper is just off the wall. everything my husband does pisses me off. its not his fault and he tries sooo hard to help but nothing seems to work.
i feel like we have grown apart and im just not happy with anything i do. I dont want to push him to the point of divorce so im just wondering if anybody reading this went through depression and how did you cope? its been 3 months. somethings gotta give.

2007-12-09 02:39:40 · 8 answers · asked by AC 3

Would I be wrong for asking for child support from my child's father? Also, can I ask for Medical bills be paid,and DNA testing?

2007-12-09 02:28:24 · 6 answers · asked by bigbodylovesbigE.T. 1

Is it ok for a person to have people they've been in previous relationships with in their wedding or participate in other family functions around their current spouse? If the former couple are not involved anymore, is there any harm in being friends? Would you allow your spouse/partner to have a friendship with someone he/she has been involved with or cheated on you with?

People visit or call a former lover just to say "hi" even though he/she is involved with someone new. What's the harm in that? People cheat on their spouses and bring their lover to family dinners or around their children. Many people have marriages/relationships where its ok to have outside sexual relationships. If these people are ok with these things, doesn't that make it ok?

Is it ok to keep secrets of events that occurred before a relationship or a marriage? What they don't know won't hurt them?

If you cheated on your partner and later found out that they also cheated doesn't that make it even?

2007-12-09 02:23:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or does she just look like an easy lay if she claims she has one?

2007-12-09 02:10:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married for 2 years and together for 6 years. I love her and believe that she loves me, but we're not IN LOVE anymore. I don't remember the last time that we had sex (and it's my fault, I have no desire to have sex with her). I've found myself questioning whether or not I want to be married any longer. We mostly get along well, but she annoys the crap out of me for no reason 60% of the time we're together. She's not cheated on me (although I've allowed and encouraged her to spend time alone with male friends) and I've not cheated on her (although I've confessed to a woman recently that I have feelings for her and she feels the same way). I'm not interested in cheating on my wife, I wouldn't do that. When we got married it was last minute and only because she wanted to. I didn't object, but it wasn't a priority for me. I don't think that marriage is necessary. I'm depressed and irritable and she's not getting the attention from me that she deserves. Help?

2007-12-09 01:54:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

dying or something like that? Who's gonna take care of me then? I'm gonna be left alone right???

2007-12-09 01:51:21 · 32 answers · asked by Dark Dickinsonian 4

and know its the right choice i made for me and kids..how do i know im not blinded by the stupid insecurity of our trust issue..how do i know that he is telling me the truth..i believe the truth always comes out on way or the other..how can i trust again..how can i let him see he can trust me..that he is the only man i want that i will only be truely happy with him(if he is being honest)..it seems wot im doing is not working and ive asked and he says he cnt tel me..how do i break away from him when everything in my mind body heart tels me not to..how can we help each other to believe in each other again..how can i make him feel save and at ease to talk to me without fearing the worse..how do i stop feelingso helpless and show him that we can do this if we just be honest and comit from both sides..he says he does but i dont feel or see it..is it me..im i somehow blinded by his actions and feelings..am i the prob here..how do i find the solution..how do i know if its me..

2007-12-09 01:44:58 · 10 answers · asked by musicslave 1

ok so the other night i called my husband at 5:20ish to ask him what time he was going to be home, he said around 7. I said, isn't that lovely, you've been working late everynight this week. He said that's what i get paid for. So, I took his daughter to meet her biological mom and called him at 7:10 to see if he was home so he could DVR frosty the snowman. I called both of his cell phones 4-5 times each and I called his office phone. I was starting to get worried. So i finally got ahold of him. I asked him where he was and he said where he was which was right down the road from his work. He said that he had just left. So, I said WOW, i thought you were going to be home by 7, isn't that great. So he got home from work at 8:00, we hardly spoke 3 words to each other. Finally when he came to bed, all i asked was why do i smell alcohol. Didn't accuse him of anything, just a little question. He snapped back, its probably me. I went to the bar after work. so i am left thinking....

2007-12-09 01:32:15 · 15 answers · asked by just don't know 1