So I have been seeing this guy for 2 months and his ex girlfriend just moved out right before i started seeing him. He claims the relationship was over way way before she moved out and that he had already had a rebound girl.
So then he tells me how his ex is calling him and she wants to move back in.. blah blah.. he said he didnt bother to pick up the phone and wasnt answering her calls..
but just last night when I stayed over his phone rang at like 1am and it was her. I said do you want to talk to her? and he replied "no that would be rude of me and I already talked to her earlier as we are still friends."
obviously she wants him back its only been a couple months after the breakup.. what should I do? he calls me all day every day and I love being with him but I think maybe he needs some time to grieve? should I back away or just continue being his friend?
2007-12-09 03:29:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't back away. If he calls you all day, he obviously loves you. He also sounds honest as he told you that he had already talked to her. Best thing to do is to not let him think abaout her. To do this, it's best not to keep talking about her, as this would make him think of her more often. But he must also know that you don't particularly like her phonecalls to him. May be you can sulk for five minutes each time she calls him. But don't ever overdo it.
2007-12-09 04:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Whisperer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I didn't have to read beyond the second paragraph.
WAKE UP CALL HERE! This guy is a scum bag, or can't you figure that out? And NO, the relationship was not over "way way before she moved out". That is his way of saying he cheats! He told you that too, he had a rebound relationship, ha! likely that is what the girlfriend found out about, no rebound, he cheats.
And you see this scum for 2 months and are having sex with him too? Wow, wake up before you and this ex are talking over coffee about what a jerk he is. I doubt she wants him back. Time to grieve? He wouldn't know how, he doesn't have a heart. Why did you figure that out after you slept with him.
Have more respect for yourself, make better choices and decisions. You are really getting yourself into something with a creep that cares less about women in general. You are just another lay, plain and simple.
2007-12-09 11:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your the #2 rebound girl.. I've been there.. Takes time for a woman or man to get over a relationship.. You make the call. You have the tools between your ears to make that decision. I'm a guy who did the same thing 20 years ago.. had many "rebound girls". Good luck.
2007-12-09 12:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back way up here. Its obvisious that this guy isnt over her and 2 months is way too short to get over someone. Words come cheap and these probably are. Before you get really hurt,the time has come to move on and dont look back and find someone who is better suited to you. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-09 11:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't back away because that would open things up for them to get back together. if you really care about him offer to sit down and talk try to help him sort his feelings. he may just feel bad for her and is trying to talk to her thinking it will help her get over him. let him know that them talking is just keeping her hopes up that they can work things out and if he doesn't want her he needs to stop taking her calls so she can move on.
2007-12-09 11:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by inloveinTN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Sounds like he's still hung up on his "ex", who is really only a "sorta ex".
2007-12-09 11:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would move on i sound like he still has some feeling left for her!
2007-12-09 11:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by blizzybella2494 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would back away. and start dating someone else, he could be using you
2007-12-09 11:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by snowman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋