We have only had sex once because I am also married and time does not permit it. I am in love with him and he tells me he is in love with me. His wife recently found out that him and i were still in contact and she told him to end it. He told her he would but told me he couldn't, so we have still been talking everyday, we talk about everything, even things that go on in his home. he has never told me he was leaving his wife, and i am not planning on leaving my husband. Has anyone else been through this?
2007-12-09 03:56:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is never going anywhere. Get out of it.
2007-12-10 05:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...its called cyber cheating and it sucks. Don't do it. You are taking away from your own family, and you are taking part of him away from his family. Make a clean break is the best way...it will suck for awhile but you can get through it. Constantly remind yourself why you love YOUR OWN husband...and leave someone elses alone. If your own family and marriage were to end because of this selfishness (and you know thats what it is) then how would that make you feel? How would you feel knowing you inflicted THAT much pain upon your husband...for what? For some self centered good feelings? Seriously.....think about the OTHER side of things...
2007-12-09 04:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the age old story about my husband/wife doesn't understand me.. so I found someone who is giving me attention and that attention becomes infatuation and now because he had sex with me.. I think we love each other? Give me a break.. Learn to talk more with your spouse.. I hope the hell you both don't have kids too? You'll really mess up your families.. I can tell you.. He doesn't love you..8 out of 10 times, the guy breaks it off and goes back to his spouse leaving you to pick up the pieces.. Good luck.
2007-12-09 04:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my wife once and hurt her beyond belief.
You and hea are each other's booty calls, plain and simple. You don't love each other, hell it's not even easy to tell if either of you love your spouses. The thing is that you're both weak and you're both going to have a hard time trusting each other if you ever did end up with each other.
The thing is that once you cheat, you ARE a cheat. Before you cheated, you were deserving of trust abd for whatever reason you had problems in your own relationships and never dealt with them.
With experience, I can tell you that my marriage had problems. We fought about everything and I made the wrong decision to cheat and that decision was made for my own selfish reasons and all it did was create an additional problem.
Now years later, when issues and problems arise it is even more difficult to deal with them because my wife has to be even more patient with me because she has that fear that because I once forsake our vows then I'm capable of doing it again.
Trust me, you're not making it easier on yourself, you're making it tougher on the people you married - the people you DID promise to forsake all others for.
Go home and repair your marriage
2007-12-09 04:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he loves you, he sees you as a good friend to talk to and nothing else will ever come out of this. Both of you should focus on rebuilding both of your families and stay away from each other unless you're planning your future together, other wise all this is wrong on your and his side, you will really end up hurting yourselves and the people you married.
2007-12-09 04:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by acia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him stay with him. There is nothing normal in this world so if you believe you have love keep it.
Here are the facts of life you obviously haven't learned yet:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage ruins relationships(moving in is the same)
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth if not just
keep believing the lies you hear from
everyone around you.
2007-12-09 05:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not love you. He's not dealing with issues in his marriage and neither are you. Get some counselling with your own husband and dedicate yourself to working it out. If it turns out that you can't work it out, then get yourself separated. But stop messing about with this go-nowhere relationship before you get caught and lose any chance of mending your marriage. What you're doing a really a recipe for disaster.
2007-12-09 04:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you, he is just seeing if he can get some on the side (and he did) but he'll never leave his wife unless she kicks him out, but you wouldn't want him because he'd find someone like you to cheat on you with.
2007-12-09 04:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by bad_timing2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have feeelings for you. You are a pleasant distraction from his daily grind. However, he does not love you more then his wife or he would be with you. You aer probably using eachother for the same thing. Think how it would hurt if your partner were doing that to you? I think you should devote yourself to one relationship, and that is the one with your husband.
2007-12-09 04:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's just say yall left your significant others for each other. what makes you think that he wouldn't find another woman on the side like you were?
technically, honey, if he is telling you honest feelings, just like he would his wife, don't you think that's a form of cheating? of course, yall also had sex which is a definite cheat.
get rid of him. you're going to get hurt in the end if he's the one who nips yall's relationship in the bud.
2007-12-09 04:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by kmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you continue with this you will be divorced, if you do not plan on leaving your husband you should cut off contact, as stated above this is cyber cheating and is admissible as grounds for divorce.
also how would you feel if this was on the other foot and your husband was doing this to you?
2007-12-09 04:13:33 · answer #11 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋