He has been out nearly every weekend since we found out I was pregnant, he is working away at the moment and only comes home once a fortnight even though I am coming towards the end of my pregnancy, he goes out in London where he is working and turns his phone off and lies to me constantly, I always find out when he's been lying about who he's been with ECT. Just to top it all off he has just found out he has genital warts, he swears to me he has never strayed in the 2 years we have been together but I just cant trust him, he says the warts could of been lying dormant for sometime (we have been together 2 years) I love him so much and feel like im being made a fool of, we have a beautiful house together and a puppy with baby number 1 on the way, why am I feeling like this? Is it all in my head? Please help as im not sure I can take anymore....
2007-12-09 04:42:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All the signs are there that he is cheating. You already know he has an std....So, if I was you I would be getting checked also. He is putting you and your baby in danger and, that is not good. He has no respect for you.
2007-12-09 04:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
You need to get checked for an STD NOW!!
Women rarely show any symptoms of an STD unless they get checked at the hospital. But if you are pregnant and have caught an STD, you're baby's development may be affected.
Go to the hospital and get checked out for STD. Drop this guy ASAP. And don't take him back. Trust is a major issue in a relationship. Just because you have a nice home, puppy and child will not make for a happy home if you can't trust him...especially if he brought you an STD. If he does this now...imagine 3 or 4 years from now...are you willing to be a slave to this kind of daily hell? When I say "hell" means that for every time he steps out that door, you're going to wonder every hour of every day if he's actually at work or having sex with someone...and that is hell.
Best of luck. Make the right choice from your head, not from your heart.
2007-12-09 05:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by stonehands 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM AND LEAVE HIM NOW. IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE HE DOES SERIOUS DAMAMGE TO YOU OR KILLS YOU. ONCE AN ABUSER ALWAYS AN ABUSER. AS FAR AS GETTING THE CHILD. IT ISN'T UP TO HIM, THE JUDGE WILL DECIDE THAT. THERE ARE MANY MOTHERS OUT THERE THAT DON'T HAVE A JOB AND ARE LIVING ON THE WELFARE SYSTEM. HIS TELLING YOU THAT HE WILL ONLY PAY $300.00 IS ANOTHER FAIRY TALE HE HAS YOU CONVINCED OF. HERE AGAIN THE JUDGE WILL DETERMINE THE AMOUNT OF CHILD SUPPORT HE WILL PAY. THE STATE ALSO HAS GUIDELINES FOR THAT TOO. IF HE INDEED DOES MAKE A HUNDRED GRAND A YEAR, I WOULD BET THE COURT WOULD FIND THAT $300.00 WAS INADEQUATE. HE CAN PAY UP FRONT OR THE COURT AND THE WELFARE PEOPLE WILL COME AND GARANSHEE HIS WAGES. SO HE WILL PAY EITHER WAY. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND MAY GOD'S LOVE AND BLESSINGS BE WITH YOU. YOU HAVE HAD A ROUGH ROW TO HOE SO FAR AND YOU NEED THE BREAK BY GETTING AWAY FROM THE BUM YOU ACCIDENTLY MARRIED.
2016-05-22 07:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a STD he has been cheating on you, and your best bet is to get rid of him before you contract a STD. And as a mother your first instinct should be to protect you and your child, and exposing either one of you to someone who has a STD is not a good thing to do. Also you have a better chance of winning the Lotto than a STD lying dormant for over 2 years. if that is true then you are due for a outbreak at anytime
2007-12-09 04:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by john d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go on WebMD and look up genital warts. You can get cervical cancer from genital warts. It is highly contagious. People get it from sexual contact, even if they don't have intercourse.
He's cheating on you and he has the warts to prove it. It's not all in your head. He would like for you to think it is. Cheaters are secretive. Cheaters don't tell on themselves, they lie their rears off to try keep you from finding out. If you believe his lies you are being made a fool of.
Dump him before he brings home HIV/AIDS.
2007-12-09 04:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor can help you the most in this situation. Speak with him or her about the facts of genital warts and whether your husband's explanation is remotely plausible.
Your doctor can also help you understand the changes your body is experiencing since you are pregnant.
Start there. And best of luck.
2007-12-09 05:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to stay confused so he can have his cake and eat it too. Why sacrifice your self worth and time for a low life that doesn't appreciates you? My friend did the same ignored her husband and believed everything he said now he has contracted herpes simplex II and blames it on her when she never went no wheres cept for work and home. Just because you love him so doesn't mean you have to accept what he dishes out. You deserved to be loved and respectedd. Do you feel loved? And what do you want to teach your unborn baby when it arrives that everything daddy does is right, that women should be treated like that. We teach our children by examples, so stand up for yourself it is not the end of the world.
2007-12-09 04:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look i got left when i was 7mnths pregenant and jus married for a few months.As much as the guy can swear and put it on his own kid he is still lying.every single friend that i have when the got pregnant there b.f. cheated on them at least once throughtout and it happend to me.it hurt but i tried not to stress myself out for the sake on my baby life especially if ur just a few mnths pregnant.i know its hard especially if ur by yourself not stressing and constanly thinkin about what hes doin and if hes telling the truth.All i can say is that ive been a single parent and was living with him also at the beginnig also but i went back to my parents and have they have been here.If u feel later on that hes changed them mayb give him a chance but i did twice to my husband and it was all lies.what got me here is faith and strength.i dont nebody in my life as long as i have my son cause everything that i do is for that little boy and hes what keeps me going and looking back. so hopefully ur baby can do the same for you jus be strong and dont look bad
2007-12-09 04:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what hes been doing and currently doing and start making a plan for you and the newborn to better YOUR situation.
He came home with warts and you are STILL wondering??
2007-12-09 05:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the hormones drive you to doing something insane. Unless the proof is there, there's nothing to worry about.
That being said, be careful. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship where you aren't trusted. That happened to me. He didn't trust me and I felt as though I wasn't valued in the relationship.
I left him for a woman! LOL
2007-12-09 04:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tall Chicky 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋