Three years ago,i divorced my husband .. Then i met this fantastic fella we have 6 children between us my children get on great with him... But his dont like me because of their mother it`s not as though he left her for me they where split 3 yrs befor we got together..i feel so uneasy when i`m around his children . He as been away from his wife for 5 yrs and i think he is scared to upset his children if he divorce`s his wife ..But i think if we are going to stay together he should divorce her I would never dream of keeping him away from his children but they are now adults ..I don t think i can take anymore do you think i should call it off and get on with my life or should i stay and wait until he is ready to finalise it with his wife?
2007-12-09 05:50:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you may need some time apart until he figures out what he wants. He has had more than enough time to get the divorce and he needs to do that and let the kids know that he wants a new life with you, if he does. If he doesn't do that and take steps to make it possible to marry you, you are better off finding someone who doesn't have the emotional baggage that he seems to have. Good Luck to you!!
2007-12-09 06:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His kids are adults and he's been apart from his wife for 5 years? He will divorce his wife when he feels his children (adults) will not be upset by this. That time will be never as they don't like you, and they express to their father, and he accordingly does nothing. If you do the math, getting on with your life may have less heartache then waiting until the 12th of never.
2007-12-09 14:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is in love with you, and wants you to be his wife, he should start the divorce proceedings. you have to remember you are not his wife and he is still married so as the kids look at this even tho he was separted for 5 years previously, the kids still see you as the home wrecker. if you wasnt in the picture the kids think he and his wife could reconcile,. This is always going to be a issue with his kids towards you even if they do divorce and he marry's you,, they will still see you as the woman that kept their mom and dad from getting back together even though their marriage was over.
2007-12-09 14:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by john d 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's been five years and his kids are older, I would think it's time to apply a little pressure. How much longer can you afford to wait for something that doesn't seem to be making any progress? I mean, it's your life and up to you. I'm just wondering how long I would tolerate his lack of moving forward and for myself, I don't think I would have even held out as long as you have already. Good luck, follow your heart, but don't ingore your brain and common sense!
2007-12-09 14:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Priscilla H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
his children are grown they need to worry about there own lives don't let them get in the way of your happiness you need to talk to him about not getting divorced yet though that's kinda weird if they have ben apart for that long
2007-12-09 15:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not even going to ask why he hasn't divorced her yet. but i will ask you why you are even in this situation to begin with?!
facts: you are divorced, he is not. you want something that you can't legally have, so deal with it.
i vote for not staying.
2007-12-09 14:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE SHOULD ALREADY BE READY AND IF HE IS NOT, YOUR WASTING YOUR TIME. THESE CHILDREN HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES SO JUST BE NICE ,BUT DONT BE PUSHED AROUND. TELL HIM TO MAKE A CHOICE BECAUSE YOU DESERVE BETTER.
2007-12-09 18:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by shebae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay
or not
2007-12-09 13:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋