2007-12-09 04:45:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd be willing to bump it up to 76-80%.
And I'm not ready for divorce.
2007-12-09 04:51:49 · update #1
superwmn. I gave you advice that you needed to hear. You should be joining your husband on these outings from time to time. Your refusal to acknowledge it is your choice.
2007-12-09 04:55:11 · update #2
For the record, I give her about 94-100% effort every time
2007-12-09 05:01:49 · update #3
confusing time to be in a relationship eh?
Everyone turned it around on you. I agree that relationships are about giving and not taking. However, why did everyone assume that it was you that wasn't giving enough. It's very possible that you give plenty to this woman and you wonder why she doesn't give it back. That's a valid question, but as you see from the answers, men are supposed to shut up and not ask this question. Society is telling you that you should cheat I reckon.
The other answer you got was that you should give back what your receive. so if you are getting 75%, then give that back. Several people wrote that she's probably just giving you what you give her. I guess this is how it works.
2007-12-09 05:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not sure, how much do you give in the relationship? if you give 100% and she only gives 65-75%, I would be asking her if something is wrong. if she doesn/t answer and gives you the run around, there is no way its going to get better. maybe she has problems right now, maybe she has low self esteem, maybe she feels like she gives 100%. have you tried talking to her? if so, what is her excuse? I wish my husband gave 100% . I give 150% to make up for his 50%. can you please add more to your question?
2007-12-09 04:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by chicksmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard to understand why you are putting so much into something, yet the other person does not do the same in return.
Everyone is different ,and perhaps she may feel as if she is puttting in enough but you are not giving her credit.
I would seek a counselor so that you can find out how each other feels and work on bridging the differences.
2007-12-09 05:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how do you know thats all shes giving ...maybe to her shes giving 100% and you are the one not giving ...it is simply a matter of talking to each other and explaining how you feel and if in fact it turns out thats all she is giving then maybe she isnt happy in your marriage and its time to move on ...if it so happens that you cant talk then a good counselor would be helpful to open up and get things out where you have a mediator that way there wont be any unproductive arguing ...i wish you all the best since i dont like to see people breaking up for dumb reasons
2007-12-09 04:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by vkatgol 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? Does she work? Is she sick? Is she tired? Do you always want the same thing in bed? Perhaps she is a bit bored. Try pleasing her first and do it for a while (meaning a few times) see if that gives her a more willingness to do more for you. A little more attention to detail in what you do to your wife will work wonders. For sure.
2007-12-09 04:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Is your effort satifying her? If not you may want to research what does it for her. Maybe your efforts aren't hitting the mark.
A lot of women don't want sex like men do. They don't go around thinking about their parts like guys do all day long.
2007-12-09 05:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come across as rather selfish. Appears you see your wife like a horse or an automobile. "I'm not getting 100% power, how can I tune her up?"
Look at yourself first. Be all you can be and lover her like you did in the beginning. Of course, difficulties can develop in a marriage. In that case, you need a referee. Go see a marriage counselor.
2007-12-09 05:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Tony d:-) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
THE ONLY WAY SHE WILL GIVE YOU 100 PERCENT IS TO ATTEND TO H ER NEEDS EMOTIONALLY, WE ARE GUYS WE DON'T DO THE EMOTIONAL THING TO MUCH WE ARE MORE OF GETTING RIGHT INTO IT WITHOUT THE COMMUNICATION THING HAPPENING BELIEVE ME I KNOW I AM MARRIED FOR AWHILE AND ANY TIME I WANT MY WAY I HAVE TO GIVE IN NO CHOICE YOU WILL NEVER WIN AN ARGUMENT WITH A WOMEN JUST NOD YOUR HEAD AND SAY YES DEARLOL............. SO ON YOUR SIDE MY FRIEND IF YOU WANT HER TO GIVE A 100 PRECENT WELL ATTEND TO HER NEEDS FIRST IN AND OUT OF THE BEDROOM GOOD LUCK
2007-12-09 04:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest trying to figure out why she is giving this amount of effort. That answer will tell you what you need to change.
2007-12-09 04:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by banana6464 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who are you to say she is not giving 100% You get what you give.
2007-12-09 05:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋