A woman selling her eggs to pay the bills?

Question

I have a friend whos husband cheats on her, spends all his money on himself, (she says he pays the bill) He hasd to . He lives there too! Anyway he tore out her kitchen over a year ago.because he found some mold in one wall. He tore out everything.including the kitchen sink.. I got him $10,000.00 from his insurance company and he spent most of it on things other than the kitchen. Now after a year she's selling her eggs for $7,000. a pop. That means they are taking out up to 36 eggs a pop. Thats alot of her kids walking around .She has s said shes doing it because she just wants a kitchen. He took the money from the 1st eggs and did some work but didn't give her a sink yet. So she in the process of doing it again. That means up to 70 of her children are being sold off for a kitchen. There are a lot of risks involved . One of them is death. I have gotten involved and put myself in the middle over the anger and fears that I have about the moral and health issues. Now she hates me!

Am I the only one who thinks this is totally imoral as well as dangerous?

Thats what I say! This is much worse than prostition. If you read my past questions you will see how this has devoloped in the last year. They are all about this girl!!!

Once she donates the eggs they are no longer her property. Sure a couple my have her biological child and raise it in a good home, Or maybe have incest with it. Who knows for sure. The remainder of the eggs can be sold for stem cell research where they start life and take the fluid outta its spinal cord. Wrong, wrong wrong. We are resorting to putting humans on the guinie pig chain

Sperm donation and egg donation is the same to me. The big difference is a woman has to have them surgically removed and has had her body altered to produce alot of mature eggs at once instead of 1 per month. The complications and risks that include death are real. Thats what scares me the most.

Answer 1

You are a good friend. You have put yourself in a position of defending good. Your friend has lost her mind is stupid for letting her husband use he this way. This is worse than prostituton.


She knows you are right , but defends her worthless husband.

Answer 2

It is not immoral nor, under todays medical procedures, dangerous.

This situation is not your business. You are a classic example of people butting into toher people's personal affairs and imposing you morals on them.

By the way - what is all this "Pop" that is going on.

You are highly presumptive when suggesting that 70 of "Her" children are running around. Is every egg viable. Will they all be used. Are you suggesting that she would have produced 70 children by her own efforts.

These are not "Her" children. It takes the genes of 2 people, not one, to make a child. Also - she is not carrying the egg to term.

What she is doing is not your affiar. It is her personal choice, not yours. It does not affect you, your family, or your life. Mind your own business and take care of your affairs. You have blown this whole thing to the point of making serious and erronious presumptions and now have angered and aleinated you former friend by your interferance.

Did oyu come to this forum to seek support for your attitude and interferance in someone else's life? That is immoral. Live your life as you want and let everyone else live theirs.
Son't come here and suggest that death is a risk int his procedure. You are using a fertile imagination to justify your intrusion and, in return, have gained the emnity of your former friend.

Did you learn a lesson? No, otherwise you would not be seeking justification in this forum.

Answer 3

Actually I looked into it too lol You have to inject your body with hormones, and there hasn't been much study on the person who is harvesting the eggs - so it could be dangerous o.o Though you realize that you would have no real right to the kid? You're just giving your egg to someone who is unable to produce eggs. So I don't see that as a drawback. I think people just put too much value on body parts. It's kind of like.. what was his name.. he was famous.. well whatever his name is didn't want to get rid of his cancer because it was a part of his body (it ended up spreading and killing him); it's that sort of mentality. Just because your egg is helping a couple conceive a child of their own, doesn't burden you in any way. I hope that some 'comfort' on the drawback.

Answer 4

Well first of all, they are not her kids. They are eggs. Women loose an egg every month. You don't call that miscarriage, it's call a period. There is no guarantee that those eggs will turn into fetuses. A lot of them fail before the fertilization. So you can't say that over 70 of her kids are out walking around. And she didn't sell her kids, just like you can't say a man is selling his kids when he donates his sperms. She has no responsiblity just as he is not responsible for what comes of the eggs and sperms. They are there for people that needs them. Other people that made a decision to use those eggs and sperms. The babies that comes out of that are their babies and their responsibility. However, I agree with you that she should not stay with a husband that is like that. But you know...you are just her friend. She has to make those decisions. If you want to help her, be there for her but don't try to tell her what to do. If you don't want to help her, then don't.

Answer 5

What exactly did you really expect to happen here getting involved? This is one of the risks you take when you venture into where even Angels fear to tread. Unfortunately,as our economy gets worse next year, theres going to be a whole more foolish things,like this, that people will be doing to survive and not just for remodeling money. She obvisiously doesnt appreciate your assistance so better just back off and let her solve her own problems as it is her own life and you alone wont ever change the stupidity of mankind. Good luck and Happy Holidays

Answer 6

She's married to a real prize, all right. He spent the insurance money and she is peddling her eggs to replace what he spent. She has her priorites and even though you do not agree with them, it is not your place to judge her.

Fortunately, we still live in a free country and are not dictated to by what others think. We still have the ability to make choices for ourselves and the fact that you did involve yourself and to a great extent, it seems, you placed her clearly on the defensive with your self righeous rant. That's a real friendship killer.

I don't know if you will be able to salvage this friendship or not, but it may help you in the future to learn to keep your scoldings of others to yourself. Nobody wants to be preached to.

Now before you start thinking I agree with your friend that it's okay to peddle your eggs, I'm not real comfortable with that one. It's not something I would do for myself, but by the same token do you look upon sperm donors with the same disdain?

Answer 7

well the best thing to do is stay out of this if you would like to remain friends,, and also to help you deal with the problem your having with her selling her children, most of her egg's will go to deserving couples who can not concieve children, so what actualy looks like a curse may be someone elses blessing

Answer 8

That's a sad situation, but it might be best to stay out of the middle of it. She needs to decide if that's the way she wants to live her life. You have already told her your views. Just let it go.

Answer 9

(shaking head) this woman is nuts! She is selling her eggs for a kitchen and staying with a guy that is a bum and cheats on her! She is a FOOL! They just might deserve each other!

Answer 10

I suggest you stay out of this one. You need to let her deal with this one on her on. She is in a relationship that may be less than stellar and having any outside influences may not be a good idea. She is gonna have to learn to deal with this one on her own.