Marriage & Divorce - 5 December 2007

I admit I do not help with any work at home. My wife does it all and she does work full time. I work 4 days a week and have the option of working any overtime I want. My wife on the other hand does have to drive around 500 miles a week to/from work while my commute totals about 80 per week. She also makes a lot less than me. She sat down with me & gave me some options that I don't like but she is being stubborn. Either I start pitching in and helping on my days off OR she is quitting work and I can work 2 days of overtime a month which will make up for what she was bringing home. She says that it would beneift us more if she stopped working and I worked 2 extra days because it would cut back on insurance since the mileage would go down & with the cost of gas right now it is eating into what she makes. But she said she would keep working only if I help around here. I work hard at my job (physical) & I don't want to work at home on my days off & I don't want to work overtime. Am I wrong?

2007-12-05 23:57:06 · 39 answers · asked by Love_to_Fish 1

2007-12-05 23:42:26 · 24 answers · asked by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4

We have been seperated for a year now, she get maintenance and extras frm me to keep the house and children.
I also do favors and do more than my share regaurding child care.
The other day she got stropy with me for not doing mainenance work ( bathroom lights not working and a problem with a tap ) This year I painted 200ft of fence with hardley any reconition for this.
Do you think I should pay mainetenance and do all the repair work to the house ?
Or should she get a man in to dothe work ?
What should I do ?

2007-12-05 23:34:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

They gave told her to hire an attorney and that they would send him the money for court.....she is not good with money so they sent it directly to him. We are court ordered to pay an amount every month and have cancelled checks showing what we pay. My question is this....since she lied, are we going to be able to recoup the court costs and attorney fees for this? This is not the first time she has pulled this.....$1,000 - at Christmas time no less......realy very wrong.

2007-12-05 23:31:37 · 14 answers · asked by Ali C 2

2007-12-05 23:20:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi I have been married for 2 years and my husband has being married before,
when he divorced his wife they had some outstanding debts she had a personal loan of 8,000 and they had a joint loan together of 30,000 my husband said he would keep up the payments on the joint loan, this was not listed in the divorce it was just a mutual agreement noting was said about her loan as it was in her name.

he pays csa to his ex which she only receives £10 per week of as she is on benefits (which really does my head in ) as we pay nearly £400 per month!!

Anyway yesterday we received a ltter from her solicitor saying that she had being sent a letter by a debt collection company for the outstanding amount which she has told the solicitor my husband agreed to pay and they now want the money from us!!!
They have being divorced for nearly 5 years he never agreed to that can they really make us pay it??? I can't believe she has done this as we all get on well now she has blown that for good.

2007-12-05 23:14:44 · 10 answers · asked by shala 2

we are friends... i wont say we are a couple but just hanging around and stuff.. and he wants me to meet his family .. is this a good thing? is it a sign that he want to pursue more than being friends.

sorry i'm not really good at relationships and stuff
thanks

2007-12-05 22:34:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

It obviously depands upon the couple on how to go about it. However if a Spouse wishes to have it wild do they have the right to demand it from the other. You know what I mean!!

2007-12-05 20:39:53 · 14 answers · asked by the_young_bride 1

In UK today, the "government" of Mr. Bean (no offence to the real Mr. Bean) wants to do tabletop or "desktop" abortions in GP surgeries with only one doctor needed.
THIS IS MURDER at the doctor's surgery !
Incredible ! and WRONG !
WHAT A SADISTIC COUNTRY !
WHAT A HEARTLESS AND DESPERATE PLACE !
Kill in Iraq, Kill your enemies, Kill your unborn defenceless kids !
My question is about the wish of GB to save on benefits and promote a TOUGH society where people WORK and PAY tax to HIM WHO MUST BE OBEYED and kill their unborn kids as they might in the first few years of LIFE drain HIS CASH from the WORLD FAMOUS HMRC !
In UK we have the WORST record in any OECD country for bringing up kids it is the most TOUGH place to raise a child.
INSTEAD of trying to do his JOB to improve UK he is telling people to get abortions !

So my question for all of you good honest hardworking and GODFEARING people:

Does the shameless and immoral UK government encourage abortion to evade it's responsibilities ?

2007-12-05 20:37:59 · 13 answers · asked by Love life and share happiness 3

i've been with my boyfiend for 3 years, both of us have being married before, not living with him, as met him soon after i seperated and he not in a position because of fininical obligations, when i found out i was expecting he wanted me to get a termination as he felt it would upset his previous family. after alot of soul searching i decided to carry on with the pregnancy without him but he then made the decision to stay with me, i've 1 previous child nearly 10 who was born with problems due to a difficult pregnancy and ended up in scub. he told his ex wife 3 months ago and she went mad, hates me and is threating to make his life hell if he has anything to do with me or this baby and is using his teenage kids as a weapon, he's lying to her about still seeing me and he because he feels guilty about how devestated she is is now going to couselling with her to get her over it and making me feel like its all my fault, i love him to bits but feel like i'm wasting my time, i'm scared

2007-12-05 20:31:06 · 11 answers · asked by car 1

2007-12-05 20:01:00 · 26 answers · asked by ej974 2

I'm an old-fashioned woman once it comes to love. Not as naive as i used to be - i got my heart broken over puppy love in high school and i've learned to become realistic. When i got to college, i met this person who ended up being one of my close friends - probably the closest i've been to anyone for a long time. I never thought i would fall for him nor would he fall for me. We had a good relationship - nothing i've ever experienced. I was so comfortable with him - we could talk openly and trust each other about anything and everything (rare nowadays) and we could also laugh and understand each other. For a friendship, we were very affectionate - taking care of each other if one was heartbroken or not in a good place. Looking back, i'm surprised we kept inside the boundries as friends. He was always respectful and a gentleman to me - this was truly a special relationship no one can understand except for the two of us. Close for about three yrs...

Early this yr, we fell for each other year very deeply (hes always had feelings and i never caught on). We were "together" for a little (cuddles, give him first kiss) - i KNEW it would be potentially a good relationship. It was always my ideal relationship to end up w. a best friend. I could see myself being with him in the future for a long time but not at the moment. I had that "gut feeling" that kept telling me, "yes, be with him but wait. not now in your life." Very strong feeling and i agreed. I'm at the pt in my life where i want to start a foundation and finish my studies first. He understood completely and it was hard for both of us. For the next couple months after that, we tried being friends but i think it was harder for him than me. I told him back then that i would get over the situation of us not being together someday but i would never get over him. It's almost been a year and who knew i spoke the truth back then. I've met and hung out w. other guys but NOTHING compares to him. I respect him as a person and it's hard to shake him off. After the past few months, i've learned to not force feelings - to not force getting over him and not getting over him. It is what it is and let your feelings be. It's been months and i STILL feel the same way. I know for a fact the only way i'll get over him is if God allows me to meet my future husband. Other than that, i don't think i'll ever get over him.

WHY? Why does it SEEM like everyone's moved on including him....except for me?

2007-12-05 19:55:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 6 years now and have 2 kids. I love my family very much. My husband is travel alot for the business, and 2 days ago he asked if I want to have someone to acompany me and the kids while he wasn't around, he mean a boyfriend. I don't know what to say. Then he convince me that it's ok with him, he wants me to have a boyfriend who really love me and the kids and willing to accept the fact that I have a husband and doesn't want to take me for his own, and also I can't be pragnant by him. He said that he knew I have a feeling for other man, and his right, and again he said as long as it wont make any change in my love to him and the kids, its ok. I don't know i'm going to happy or sorry with it, it's all mix up. he said he love me so much and don't want me to get sad or lonely. please advice, I'm so confuse.

2007-12-05 19:37:09 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife will suck me but never to completion
i have wanted to ask but think it may be rude to.
she uses it as forepaly and thats ok.... but i cant help but want ther to finish. so how do i ask?
should i ask?

2007-12-05 19:23:10 · 12 answers · asked by rufstuff 3

ive been married 2 years and would rather wack it by myself than have sex. whats my problem and how do i fix it?

2007-12-05 19:15:15 · 14 answers · asked by danrmar29 2

Im not currently married but I have heard so many stories about how after a couple has children their sex life fizzles to nothing. I enjoy having sex multiple times a day with my partner, but Im afraid of that ceasing once we decide to have children. Is this something every couple goes through or some and how can I avoid it?

2007-12-05 18:54:33 · 33 answers · asked by Jlnwhly 1

My boyfriend and I having been dating for around 3 years now. We both have two years of college left. Both of us see our relationship ending in marriage if all goes well. The only major concern I have is not in him, it is his family. First off my family loves my boyfriend. Everyone is very kind and inviting to him.Then comes the problem..his family is does not include me in hardly anything. They barely talk to me when I go to their house. I do not feel welcome. Their house is also a very messy place, which my boyfriend and I greatly dislike. I cant see my future kids being in their presence. He had talked with them about it. Nothing changes. He feels very bad about the way I am treated. His mother is very protective and I think this is the cause but it really hurts me. I'd like to be close. What should I do..continue being friendly and try to make a good relationship with them even though it doesnt seem to work? Should I try to give a little distance and accept that we wont be close

2007-12-05 18:52:50 · 9 answers · asked by sjtwae 2

Is it a reciprocal or dose women wants to a men.of lower age.

2007-12-05 18:46:24 · 27 answers · asked by Jayanto M 3

Everyday I come home from work I usually tell my husband about my day and how it sucked and tell him about the mean customers i get. It seems like my husband is always aginst me when I tell him a situation. Tonight I told him that (btw I work at a arts and craft store) I got this customer who got really pissed at me when I explained to her about a return policy. She was buying a hand crafted bow topper for her xmas tree. Hand crafted items are not refundable. She flips out because she is not understanding me correctly and starts to call me a smart @$$. So I was like "Mam you need to calm down" and then customer says "your a dumb *****, and your are EFFIN RETARDED" and starts waving the stupid bow in my face and she got freaking glitter in my eye. I then say "F YOU. Get out of my line" I shut off my register light and go to my manager. The customer denied calling me all that... so I denied saying "F u" because no one heard me

2007-12-05 18:33:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

my new boyfriend who moved in a week ago (with five suitcases not to mention-who has that many ??) and I thougt everything was fine until I started hearing rumers about him. At first I thougt maybe it was win he was a juvinile..."?" But then I find out he goes out sometimes with his friends and they steal cars and brake into them, and one time they did "THE BIG DIRTY" wich was supposed to set them to retire for a few years. I fine out that THE BIG DIRTY takes place onse a year and I found out who and when and where this one takes plase at.....so im having a hard time to discover to turn him in?????????? Do I be the one to set them all up and send them to jail??? Or let him get away with one last big dirty and then have him not be friends with them anymore and get a job in the real world? What to do. I am scared and confused
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Also If turn them in, what if the familys do a drive by on me. I have a doughter to think about. Let me no your info ASAP it takes place 12/12/07 at 2AM

2007-12-05 18:27:45 · 28 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4

pls answer it tnx . . .

2007-12-05 18:24:22 · 10 answers · asked by Gwapa 1

my husband never helps with anything -chores or raising kids we have 9) im in my late 50's i wokr to help out with the money issues, how do i get rid of the resentment i feel with all the responsiblities i have on my sholder and his lack of help. hes not even there for me.. he never even says i love you or how can i help u. hes very self absorbed. what should i do?

2007-12-05 18:22:12 · 6 answers · asked by Smelly 1

my exhusband has a new girlfriend and has decided that he is going to spend time with her away from our kids. The first time was 2 weeks ago, he went to New Mexico on vacation with her for 10 days then he's leaving tomorrow for five days to go to Mississippi with her. Granted I am happy for him that he's moving on but my 10 year old is pretty upset that Dad keeps leaving and in her own words hates this woman because she is taking her Dad time away from her. I have NEVER said anything cross or bad about this woman. I love the extra time I get with the girls, I really am not complaining about that. After about 2 days, my girls begin to ask for their Dad. Honestly, I could never leave my girls for an extended amount of time like that to be with any man, my obligation is to them. Tonight, I finally told him I had enough and I was worried about the girls and his constant leaving. I guess fathers are different than mothers. We have joint custody.

2007-12-05 18:18:47 · 13 answers · asked by ooolala 2

Should I tell my friends that I am a virgin. I am 19 and in college. I don't want to lie to my friends, but I think if I told them that I was a virgin they might think I am a loser and not want to hang out with me or they might think I am gay. I just dont know if its a good idea to tell them that on top of that I have never kissed a girl and I know if I told them that they would think I was gay when I am not. I am asking cuz they like to talk about sex and all some times and I kinda just sit there and I got nothing to say.

2007-12-05 18:18:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-05 18:16:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-05 18:12:29 · 12 answers · asked by Steve F 1

my wife and i have become roommates. roommates with a son and thats about it. she asked me why i was even still with her and i didnt have answer for her but in my head i was thinking "i dont know". is my marriage over? i think if it ended and we seperated we would still be very close, probably too close if you know what i mean. so its not nasty and we dont hate each other. we have no mental connection. can we get that back or is it to late?

2007-12-05 18:10:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-05 17:59:18 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married only a few months. We fight almost every day...usually about some little thing I get upset over (I know it's a bad habit and it's my fault!).

But anyways, he never really listens to me. He comes home from work and I get like maybe a kiss and that's it! I have moved across the country and left school and my family for him and I just don't feel assured. I feel that I need a little more attention just to reassure myself that I made the right decision moving here.

Sometimes I feel that I care for him more than he cares for me, and he really just doesn't care when I'm sad. Tonight I was balling my eyes out and he just fell asleep.

He just never holds me and tells me I'm special, has never done ONE romantic thing, etc. and I do those things for him all the time.

I made the mistake of threatening to leave...and he told me if I would be happier that way then to do it...which makes me feel like he REALLY doesn't care. I need help!

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2007-12-05 17:57:16 · 17 answers · asked by Marie 2

working hard at trying to solve their problems?

2007-12-05 17:57:12 · 29 answers · asked by Peace 3