why do i enjoy masturbating more than sex?

Question

ive been married 2 years and would rather wack it by myself than have sex. whats my problem and how do i fix it?

Answer 1

Two reasons: One, you're addicted to porn. You're whacking off with pictures right? Research has shown that men who view multiple female images become very bored with their partners. Two, you're self-centered and it's easier to whack off yourself than it does to please another human being during the process. Self-centeredness is a major trait with porn addicts. Basically, life and feelings are all about YOU. Marriage won't work for you in the long run.

Answer 2

U dont have a problem. Fixin it is simple, if u and ur wife r comfortable talkin about sex then tell her some of the things u fantasize about, start with light things 1st and then take it from there. U know u fantazise about some reeeeeeel sexy stuff but some of those u will NEVER tell her, those r the things u sud keep 2 urself and enjoy by urself and there is NOTHIN wrong with that.

Answer 3

Heck no! Don't stop!

Keep doing BOTH.

As long as one does not interfere with the other.
I look at M/B as "exercise" that keeps me "in shape" for the real performance!

It's good for your prostate, keeps your sensitivity under control, reduces your Male Refractory Period, it's very healthy! You are doing your partner a favor if you do this once a day. I'd say that the only downside is that you'll end up taking a little longer to finish, on average, if you do it too often, because of desensitization. Though - for regular sex, this is a good thing!

Personally; I find that for m/b, there's no politics, no negotiations, no scheduling, no mess, no anxiety, no ambiguous signals, no disappointment, no pregnancy, no disease, no smells, it's easier to do it quickly and discretely, there's a lot to be said for m/b over regular sex.

But I'd really hate to ONLY m/b, and not have regular. There's nothing like that contact, that warmth, and watching that look on her face when she gets off.

Answer 4

Although I can't answer specifically for your situation, I can say that masturbation is much more controllable and predictable than shared intimacy. Much less risk, much less possibility of problems or failure, more ability to fantasize. Aside from that, experience in masturbation generally insures that you know what pleasures you easiest and quickest.
What you might try as a solution is to relax with your partner, spend time discovering what you can both do to give each other pleasure, and get to know each others likes and dislikes in bed. I can promise that this will help add a whole new and interesting dimension to your sex life. Meanwhile, feel free to feel free---you don't have to abandon one way of pleasure for another.

Answer 5

You know yourself better than anyone else. The only way to fix it is sit and talk to your wife about the things you think about or watch while you masturbate and try to add them into your sex life.

Answer 6

You're bored... Happens to a lot of people.

You enjoy the feeling and want to'get it over with' without having that whole foreplay, cuddling, warming-up stuff before you get to the main event.

The only way around it is to maybe try something new with your partner, get a bit of spice back in your life...

Does she know how you feel? - Safety tip: Don't tell her, she'll think it's all her fault or that you're trying to cover up having an affair.

Start some conversations with her that start with the words 'How about if we try a bit of role-play?' and, 'What are your feelings about being tied down?'

Or just start wearing her pants to work like everybody else does...

Answer 7

I have once read a book says that masturbate is what we do to our self,and sex is another person do it to us,when we compare it,of couse,we know our body better than anyone else,we know where to touch,where to enjoy. in this case,the partener is doing things by assuming the placement.....

at ur case,it also depending on how is ur preferred before marriage,if you were prefer sex,then it has to do with ur sex life after marriage...

Answer 8

it simple, u know what feels good and your hand controls that feeling. it is said that the best sex u have is with yourself. when you do it with a partner, the partner is not a mind reader they can assume what u like and what you dont. Have more communication with wife during sex about what feels good.

Answer 9

You just need to be with her more often, stop the masturbation, next time you want to do that by yourself, stop yourself and call your wife in fast.

Answer 10

You should try telling your partner what does and doesnt please you, tell him what you like and if you could fire up your sex life alittle. Maybe make it a little kinky if find that u like that. ;D good luck