working hard at trying to solve their problems?
2007-12-05 17:57:12 · 29 answers · asked by Peace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because its the easy thing to do. I mean when you marry someone for just sentiment and emotional stuff like love, a relationship be it a marriage or not won't last. Because there is no real back bone and meat to the relationship. And emotions change all the time, I mean that love can turn to hate or dislike very quickly and if there is no foundation of friendship or ways to work out the problems, because the emotion of being so in love stopped the couple from learning how to work on their issues before they got married, then there is another reason why the marriage won't last because the two people involved just don't know how to sit down and communicate and talk and work through their problems, because they don't know how. So walking away from the marriage is so much easier than fight and figure out what can really be done to keep the relationship going. Very sad but true. Its not about people not being able to commit, though there are some very unmonogamous people out there, its just that people turned a blind eye away from the real issues before getting married and thought their love would conquer all and that is just not the case. Friendship, communication, and love are the real keys to keeping a marriage going. Other such words as respect, honesty, even compassion is spawned from these three keys. Have the base keys, you have what will really hold your relationship together.
2007-12-05 18:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some have worked hard at solving their problems, and find that they are incompatible anyway.
Some got married way too young, and had a kid within 9 months, and if they are still together after a long time, it is a miracle. But they may have grown apart as time wears on, and only stayed married because it was easier on the kids than divorce, more affordable, and they got along well for the most part.
2007-12-06 02:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by CSmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All lot of us have tried to work things out, but When you try to fix the problem it seems to make it worst. And alot of people can't handle liars, cheaters, or channge. In mine it was all the above, And women know a days can help and handle the own problems.... That not to man hate....... I have a man know who is great it just hard to find the right ones.....Plus it almost works the second time around cause you and the other person don't have to try so hard.....
2007-12-06 11:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Will and Priscilla F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about everyone else, but I tried for 17 long, hard years to make the marriage work and to solve 'the problems.' I got sick and tired of the abuse of me and the drugs he was using, the lying and cheating he did over and over, and many other things. Would you put up with all of that crap, and more, for that long--or longer? Most wouldn't put up with it even that long, but I did and tried everything imaginable, but nothing worked.
2007-12-06 02:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it has something to do with to much crap on tv feeding the general population bad views on life. I will say technology plays big part in relationships. So instead of trying to be a man they become a mouse and run away. And i will say people hurry up and get married and later discover that they weren't meant for each other. Pop culture is teaching us a bad thing.
2007-12-06 02:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just to easy now to get a lawyer and end the marriage. Vows don't seem to mean what they did back in the 40s. Of course, times have changed, too. Women work now, and sometimes she makes more money than her husband. That makes a lot of men really mad, and they divorce because of it.
2007-12-06 02:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause once damage is done....
it is hard to repair. More damage is done by staying around.
ONES HAPPINESS IS MORE IMPORTANT!
Look, even religious people walk out. I just saw this preacher on Larry King and I was shocked to hear that she divorced. I thought...
if she could not work out her marital problems, how can the average JO!?
2007-12-06 02:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - that's the ticket.
Blame society.
Blame them for not reading the Bible.
Blame them for watching TV.
Whatever.
The problem is BLAMING.
If you read the freaking Bible you'd know that.
Forgiveness triumphs over Judgement. If you give it a chance.
But just ask Jesus. Forgiveness hurts. A lot.
2007-12-06 03:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by fnyunj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I walked out on my ex after 6 years because he was Norm the Couch Potato. I was so fed up!!! I have never looked back - I am much happier now as I've moved on...
P.S. Washing his filthy undies - good riddance... That is one less to worry about!
2007-12-06 02:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by RoseyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard for 2 ppl to get along and ppl nowadays are very impatient. I agree that ppl should try to solve their problems peacefully. The kids always get hurt.
2007-12-06 01:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋