Marriage & Divorce - 5 December 2007

My husband is grumpy, irritable, moody, changes his mind about vacations, and even cant decide what he wants for dinner. He has no drive anymore, is not motivated. He doesnt get things done around the house like he use too. He is always feeling sorry for himself, and now he even dislikes his current job. He is 57 years old. He doesnt want to go out with our friends anymore, hes just too tired or not in the mood. He is upset about the weight he gained, and is loosing his hair which has him upset too. He may be loosing his hair, but Im loosing my mind! How do I cope with all of this? Im on hormone replacement myself, and it has been wonderful. What can he do, and how do I handle all of this?

2007-12-05 12:03:17 · 8 answers · asked by autumn wolf 4

He is so disrespectful. He screams at me and threatens to hit me. He has hit me in the past. He treats me like I am his child and not his wife. He works away and takes all his stress out on me. I stay home with our kids and he always throws it in my face that he is the one that makes all the money and I am questioned every time I spend it. I am fed up. He is a GREAT dad. I just wish he show me he loves me instead of fussing all the time. I do everything for him.....I would give up everything to make him happy. But I am not happy....why is that? Would you stay and work things out or would you go?

2007-12-05 11:57:08 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband does nothing but cause havoc in my household. He doesn't work half the time, and I have lost most of my stuff because of it. My money can only go so far. When he gets home from work, when he finally does work, he gripes and gripes about every little thing. My kids hate him. How do I get him out of my house when his name is on the lease. He mentally abuses me only a daily basis.

2007-12-05 11:55:29 · 15 answers · asked by missyblondness35 1

well im 14 and im a virgin im thinking i should lose it when i get married wat do u think???

2007-12-05 11:53:47 · 20 answers · asked by cuttiepie 1

do i feel so bad for my children that thier father is not there for them at all...

2007-12-05 11:49:52 · 16 answers · asked by Roxy 2

I have worked my rear end off since I was 15 yrs old. I have always had a job and felt like I was not doing my part when I was married unless I contributed to the household financially. I have been divorced since my daughter was 11 mo old. Not working has never been an option for me
My significant others daughter has never worked more than a couple weeks at any job. Her husband works full time and she is a stay at home mom. They scrape by financially, and have moved in with ole dad about 3 or 4 times in the last 5 yrs. I told her dad, she needs to get a job and help out with the expenses instead of trying to get pregnant again which she is doing now. When she moves home its a mess. Her dad says she is a married and its her decision. I think she is basically doing what she wants and is being irresponsible. Her husband works for a company which notoriously goes on strike. If he would lose his job, they are in trouble. She doesnt pay bills. Whats your opinion?

2007-12-05 11:40:45 · 23 answers · asked by happydawg 6

This fake newspaper front page needs to look as real as possible and will consist of his life events and milestones...It needs to have my newspaper emblem also.....help would be appreciated. Thanks.

2007-12-05 11:29:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 4 yrs. and my marriage has been rough since the begining. I have suffered alot in this marriage, but just recently I have suffered a tremendous blow, my husband had an affair and the girl ended up pregnant. and I have been depressed and crying alot. And my husband moved in with his girlfriend for a while then he ended comming back home. We are trying to fix our marriage but I am still depressed and suffering alot because I dont trust him and he hurt me very badly. I want a divorce but he wont give me one. And he wont leave. does anyone have any suggestions? signed depressed and hurting,

2007-12-05 11:22:14 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-05 11:21:09 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my husband drove by to grab the keys from me since i decided to work 4 hours over time today (we have a mortage down paymen due soon and not enough cash) Now he cant get over time at work so to help things out I've got a second job now and during the week I do ot here at work. So when he pulled up I asked him to fry up some brats for dinner it is the first time he has ever had to cook in our marriage. He has the nerve to tell me he can wait till i get home because he doesnt want to cook and it will only take me a couple minutes to do it. I'm tired I'm planning our house warming party this weekend worked 12 hours and he cant fry up some freaking brats. I do all the house work, I work more hours I make more money and I take care of him help out with little thing like lay out his clothes pack his lunch handle the bills. This really made me feel like I'm not even important to him. I want to be a good wife I like to take care of my family am i wrong to want him to have a dinner for me

2007-12-05 11:14:30 · 17 answers · asked by sarah W 4

2007-12-05 11:12:57 · 11 answers · asked by Dean P 1

Today is my birthday and my Husband has been at work all day long and then says he's going to take me out to dinner. He gets home and decides to cook me dinner instead. He gave one option for dinner and then got mad and decided to eat dinner by himself (right in front of me) and went right to bed. I am sorry but I feel he is a big jerk for doing this especially on my birthday.

2007-12-05 11:09:47 · 20 answers · asked by Jennifer G 2

husband is to old and boring..im 19yrs old he is 9yrs older..i need tips so i don't get cought. i want to do a over night thing. i have it all planned for the most part..give me all the advice u have..

2007-12-05 11:07:29 · 20 answers · asked by kyras_mommy121205 1

2007-12-05 10:48:40 · 12 answers · asked by Heather R 2

we were married 6 years and i left him for someone who was a lot better for me. but now i realize that there were alot of things i could have changed about myself and i regret my choices.he says he still loves me but doesnt know if he could trust me again.

2007-12-05 10:24:39 · 18 answers · asked by VANESSA H 1

i think its terrible

2007-12-05 10:19:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have left my home town, best friends, family, EVERYTHING for my husband and his career. i knew his career being in the military was going to be like this. but now he tells me that girls from his past are asking for his number and they are talking....with excitement.... we have been married and i have like i said left and lost a whole lot for him. i have lost trust from him from females that he called friends...no sexual encounters were made distance kept that from happening. but i thought husband and wife were to be committed to each other and weren't to bring past female crushes back into the picture. worst of all he is secretive...i have no idea what the heck is being said, in email, texts, phone convos. im not here. what should i do having left everything for this person? i cant keep telling him over and over that he hurt my feelings...and where do i leave to? im in California...and my hometown is Maryland....im sooo lost and confused. should i see a professional?

2007-12-05 10:16:07 · 25 answers · asked by KellyJean 2

I have been married for 7 yrs and we have 2 children together. I know for a fact that he has cheated and been with one particular women for 2 yrs and I believe that there has been more affairs. You're probably wondering why I haven't left but its due to a number of reasons. We have alot of positives in our relationships. Its actually great with the exception of infidelity. We get along great, work together financially and with the kids great, we're supportive of each other and motivate the other to achieve our goals. Another reason why we dont want to end the marriage is because we don't want to take that time and energy and put it towards other relationships and waste time on those that don't work. After this incident where he got busted cheating I decided that it may be best to have an open relationship.My husband doesnt want to have one. I'm not looking for advice on safe sex or whether I should leave but my question is how do other married couples feel about open relationships.

2007-12-05 10:14:51 · 26 answers · asked by mypassions4life 5

If so, can i get some details, or a link???

2007-12-05 10:13:23 · 14 answers · asked by HELP! 3

I'm a teen(18) right now and I don't understand love yet but when I think of marriage in the future, I am worried. In my country, the U.S. I see so many divorces happening... I see many children suffering because of their parents' selfishness. It seems that divorce is the only solution for every little argument or if someone is bored of their love...in America.

I see some traditional people who stick together and work things out no matter what, they do it for their children. I think it is hard to find someone trustworthy. Even if I am kind and provide for my partner she will just get bored and cheat on me...

Thank you for reading.

2007-12-05 10:12:10 · 10 answers · asked by Closed 5

if you feel torn between wanting to split up with your partner and wanting to stay what would you do? if the bad times are really bad and the good times are really good? and if you did split up how do you cope, if you have been together for 7 years and have a son together? or do all couples feel like this sometimes? coz i want it to work just sometimes................
i feel like screaming! aaaaarrrrr

2007-12-05 10:11:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

my friend who is a indian guy loves a malay girl and they have been together for about 14 yrs... But nw that it comes to marriage. the family of the guy opposes in letting him convert to Islam... His mum is threatening him with sucide n his grandms is crying n stuff like that.. he too is confused abt what 2 do,,, But he is a very obedient son...
How do u think he can change his parents thinking.......... Plz help>>>>>>>

2007-12-05 10:09:39 · 5 answers · asked by Rina 2

2007-12-05 09:55:22 · 28 answers · asked by confused 1

I usually got based on word of mouth and my own gut instinct when I've met them. My husband's planning to have his vasectomy during one of his vacations this year and I'm not sure who to go to. Men seem to be closed mouthed about their experiences with this and I don't want to just simply pick one out of the phone book. Thank you.

2007-12-05 09:55:01 · 2 answers · asked by mamasmurf_50 3

It's a long story really but, my ex husband I have decided our divorce was a mistake and we are dating again. We have 2 daughters(4.5 months and 23 months old) and we guess it's good for their sake.

He's coming to my house for Christmas and I'm nervous. We have only been divorced a few months. Usually around Christmas time we're so happy and on Christmas morning we have so much fun. I feel like things will be different this year...help!

2007-12-05 09:49:31 · 7 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

Me and my husband have been together for about 3 years and we take showers together about everday. Do you think this has cause my husband to be less interested in my body because he sees it everyday, so it is not an excitement anymore what do you all think?

2007-12-05 09:48:09 · 20 answers · asked by CC 3

I posted this earlier and many of the replies state that I sound "needy" because I am considering leaving my wife when I have asked for counselling, she says no there's no problem, I buy marriage books and read them / she does not. Her entire focus is on the kids !!!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AizNdSFgZJhKgxYotzxRUXDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071205121022AAmTTSK

I love her and the kids, I'm very involved (coaching, school, church) with both her and the kids..... However, unless it has to do with the children, she rarely wants to interact. She goes to bed everynight around 9:00 p.m. because she is "exhausted" from the day. I work FT, help with laundry, dishes, and child care daily when I'm off work, so while I KNOW she has a hectic schedule, mine is no less full !!!

Yet - if I had a chance to be intimate (not just sex), but talk about hopes/dreams/etc... I would jump at it. But she is "tired". She works 2 days a week.

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2007-12-05 09:47:07 · 11 answers · asked by aa889d 5

my husband tells me that while im at work, one of his past ex's has found him through a website. as he proceeds to tell me that she used to have a thing for him as he sounds discussed that she even got in touch with him or found him at that matter, he tells me that she asked him for his number....and they talked on the phone while pretending not to know when he talked to her. my husband and i have been married only 2 years and we are sooo young. im not sure how to even look at this. i found texts to one of his past flings in high school telling her that she was the wisest women he knew not even 2 months ago....i dont know what to do what to think or even how to approach this situation. i have just kept my distance, slept on the couch and for some reason i just feel down about this still. i just thought as a husband, you dont except emails that ask for your number from girls that liked you in the past...i haven't given my number out to guys from my past...am i crazy????or just naive??

2007-12-05 09:42:18 · 23 answers · asked by KellyJean 2

I feel that there is forgiveness - which you can do regardless if the person who has hurt you is sorry or not. It's more to unburden yourself of your anger and resentment toward them. To 'let it go' and move on.
Then there's reconciliation - or re-establishing a relationship of some sort with the wrongdoer. My understanding is that a healthy reconciliation is a two way street. The victim must be willing to forgive, and the wrongdoer must be willing to apologize and make amends.
My husband and therapist want me to reconcile with my mother in law, who has done more aggregious things to me then I can mention. I hung in there for a long time, then couldn't take anymore. She has not apologized in any way. She doesn't even talk to me, it's been about 3 1/2 years since she's talked to me. How can I reconcile? I feel this is morally wrong. The therapist thinks that she is not "the type" to apologize so I will have to suck it up and move forward. Is this not right?

2007-12-05 09:40:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been thinking about divorce for some time. my stepfather has recently told me that he is going to leave me a substantial amount of money when he passes, my husband knows this. can this be considered "separate property" or will i have to share this money with him if we do not divorce before i recieve the money??

2007-12-05 09:39:37 · 7 answers · asked by me 4