I just found out my ex is having other baby when he dont even support our two kids we already have what can i?

Question

do i feel so bad for my children that thier father is not there for them at all...

Answer 1

I,ve worked for family services before & have first hand knowledge and experience in this situation. This is a very, sad but common epidemic that is on the rise, now please dont take this the wrong way & think that Im bashing you because Im not, Im only trying to express to you my personal thought on men, or shall I say, boys who run around making babies & more babies & never seem to understand their actions, or not care because their main priority is getting down a girls pants, they dont think about pregnancy & whos gonna support their future children, this is all about them getting their own selfish needs met, and 9 times out of 10 these type of men, { your ex }, tend to be from broken homes, they also have low IQ,s, alot of them dont have High School Diplomas, much less a college education, & number 1 most of them have grown up without the benefit of having either a father or a father figure in their lives, so when they grow up in the real world & its time to suddenly be a man, they havent the tools or the know how to achieve this, they lack structure and balance, & so the torch is passed along to your children, this is why it is up to you as a mother to not have this man in your kids lives, he is a bad role model, who is nothing more then a sperm donor to his own children & future children, but what you can do is to make sure your kids do have a father figure in their lives, it can be anyone from your brother to a uncle or grandfather, good parents are not born into the world, they are molded by us as a society, its up to us to ensure that our children take care of their children, if not, then we have a society of deadbeat dads, just like your ex.

Answer 2

Do u get child support? If u don't go to your local family court and file an order so he can pay. If you still live with him and he has went out and cheated and made another child I would leave him. But if you 2 aren't together there isn't much you can do. A man that doesn't take care of his kids is a sad thing but in the end the kids will one day be adults and they will see for themselves the light and the truth about dad. As long as your there for them do your best, be strong and safe.

Answer 3

Get over your feelings and understand that sometimes it is best that the sperm donor is not involved. He just wants to have sex not be a Dad. Just because he did give up his sperm does not make him a Dad. Now, get with Friend of the Court and let them help you get some support. Even if he is not there he needs to help you support them. There are some amazing men out there that want to be good Dad's and will tak one someone elses kids. Be independant and take care of your family. A real man will see your strengths and want to be with you, all of you, not just to have sex with you. Another point. Don't have any more kids until you have someone that is willing to stick around. A marriage license is a good indication. Not perfect but better than you having more kids and all alone.

Answer 4

You might be able to have his child support taken out of
his paycheck before he gets it. (It's called garnishing his
wages...) Other than that you can't make him be in their
lives, but the thing is, if he's that big of a loser, you really
don't want him in his kids' lives anyway. They will be better
off without him, and some day when he realizes what he's
lost by not being in their lives, he will regret it. Some people
have to learn the hard way...

Answer 5

All you can do is keep after him for child support. Make sure your local child support enforcement agency has all his information. I had an ex exactly like that. He had 5 kids from 4 different women. Men like that are pathetic. Good luck hun.

Answer 6

You need to file for child support and full custody. Doesn't matter if you never married, he's the father, lived in the house, or not, on the birth certificate, or not. You can ask for DNA test. Then he will HAVE TO pay child support.

The problem is your children will want to have contact, will have to deal with his new gf/wife and child in the years to come.
So sad.

Answer 7

There's nothing you can do. It is his life and he can reproduce as often as he wants to unfortunately. You can try to go after him for child support, but if he's a dodger, good luck with that. Just get used to the fact that you are on your own, and take care of your kids by yourself. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it in the end..

Answer 8

if you are divorced then you should have an order for child support. if this is true, collecting child support is very easy, in most cases you just need to file a contempt charge with the court and let the judge have him.

some states have child support enforcement agencies that will assist you.

good luck

Answer 9

go after him for child support. i personally think men that keep having babies they can't or won't support should be fixed. my sister had 4 kid with a man and he went and had 3 kids with other women 2 with one and 1 with another. and he didn't support any of them.

Answer 10

child support recovery.. go to dept of children services and file for welfare..they will take care of everything on that end.. taking him to court and all..they don't want the children to go with out.. so they will send you a check.. food stamps.. and medicare.. then they will take him to court to get it back from him..I have seen it happen.. to my ex who walked away from his child.. actually he did not even know she was his.. but year later he found out she was and had to pay it all back.. see the mother told him that she was his but because she would not give him a DNA he did not believe her.. well turns out she was telling the truth.. he met his daughter when she was 16 and pregnant