Marriage & Divorce - 3 December 2007

i dont want a divorce but dont know what to do

2007-12-03 23:59:23 · 11 answers · asked by carjam1@sbcglobal.net 1

I was with my husband 7 years before we got married 6 months ago. I know we had problems before we got married. We built a house, i moved away from family and friend and we both were under a lot of pressure. But we were strong and we both felt things would level out once married and had our own place. But things have got worse. I hardly see my husband. I am on my own most evening and have spent the last 6 months lonely and getting depressed. I have moved jobs and met new friends and adjusted well but my marriage is a mess. I have tried talking to my husband many times but he won't talk to me then I get upset and he leaves. He spends most evenings and weekends with his friends. I go to bed most nights even weekends alone and our sex life is non-existing. I try to please him and organise nice dinners and evenings for us both but it not working. I am begining to resent him as he always pushes me away when i try to get close. Is this normal 6 months into a marriage. I can't go on like this

2007-12-03 23:52:38 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Got a bank statement saying I was overdrawn by nearly 100 quid today, couldn't understand where it came from so I rang my hubby who claimed no knowledge of it. Being a guy normally sensible with money I assumed we were victims of internet fraud, as the money was going to two seperate websites over a few days. Went to bank, cancelled cards, had a rite good ol panic and tried to work out how I could make up the shortfall being the main breadwinner in the house. Anyways the money was being taken off my hubbys card and the woman at the bank asked me if he had used the card. I stood up for him and said adamantly that he had not bought anything over the internet and I wanted something done. Gets home and tells the hubby, who confesses he bought a free trial (his words) that cost him 1.50, nearly 100 quid ha come out of our account in 3 days. He swears he only suscribed to hustler free trial, yet money is flying out. What should I do? I have no objection to porn, but lies n secrets I do.....

2007-12-03 23:50:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the last year or so I have lost my 'perfect' figure and now have a normal tummy with a little roll and a butt thats cute but not tight as a rock- this is because I have been busy working etc to go to the gym.. My husband just said to me recently that my stomach looked pregnant and "What happened to my butt? It used to be tight and 'bubbly' but now its... well... not..."
I just snapped- BURST out crying and he just tells me to shut up??? WTF??? I told him "I thought you married me for a hell of a lot deeper reasons than my BODY. ANd has HE looked in the mirror lately??? He's NO brad pitt. Has a huge beer gut, a double chin and is half bald and has the nerve to say that to ME? his wife he's supposed to LOVE MUCH deeper than That? Such superficiality????"

But not an ounce of apology or repentance for his attitude. He's gone to bed and I am ere crying. WTF??? I was hugging and kissing him at thhe time- what a shock. I feel so stabbed in the back and confused.How do I deal with this?

2007-12-03 23:42:50 · 22 answers · asked by Renesme 5

2007-12-03 23:31:19 · 10 answers · asked by mizterieouz 1

I am 26/m and looking for a life partner.
I need a partner to reach my goals. I am looking for a girl who guide, motivate and dominate me.

2007-12-03 23:17:16 · 2 answers · asked by guru 1

Hi,
when I met my husband I was really sweet to him and do anything for him but after I had my baby I have been so mean to him always buggin him, and I have gotten to the point where I cant stand him and we fight to much, there time when I had felt like slapping him, and there's time when I feel like he's cheating on me but deep inside I know he's not! I dont always want to see the truth and I always feel that I am right! Thank you!!!

2007-12-03 23:06:43 · 10 answers · asked by Ursula M 2

i respect my family but i am already way past 40. i hate to break their hearts and at the same time, i really want to marry my boyfriend. i am holding a masters deg and he has none. i am in a dilemna.

2007-12-03 23:05:39 · 11 answers · asked by lengneo 1

I have a huge heart and was raised very family orinated. My husband was raised with a family that doesn't support each other. Now my family lately has been for the past 2 1/2 years always asking me for my help in ways that stress me out to my limits. They seem to always want me to go above and beyound for them. which i give them all i got, however it seems its never enough. I get "crap" for not being able to do more. My husband says i need to learn tough love. I help my fmaily every time they r in need. even if i don't always recieve any help at times. I'm so stressed ut because my mom asked a simple request, which i wasn't able to fulfill. she didn't give me a chance to figure it out, let alone try and help....she just hung up on me. its become a normal thing. I have stomach pains from this stress, lack of sleep, depression, crying, i'm an emotional roller coaster. I also have Polycyctic Ovairan syrome. My husband and I are trying to have a child. we both have a small chance. however

2007-12-03 22:45:12 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs.M 3

Australian wants to migrate to India. Will he be granted indian citizenship or will she be granted australian citizenship or both will be granted dual citizenship ? Will there be any legal complications in the future ?

2007-12-03 22:15:13 · 3 answers · asked by Mani 1

My husband has a Cousin female who is very rude to me she does not like me...she has made me feel badly on many family gathering and I have not said anything because I wanted to keep the peace, she has also made my family feel bad and when I told my husband to please have a word with her he bruses it off to keep the peace in his family...how do I deal with her with the upcoming holidays.please help

2007-12-03 21:40:38 · 9 answers · asked by girl g 2

I am married and every Christmas my husbands nieces and nephews give my husband a gift and they don't give me anything.. as a rule we only give all the neices and nephews gifts in his family they pick and choose who they give to, last year I was so upset, I told my husband and he does not think it is a big deal..my question how do I deal with this, with out coming off as a big baby...this CHristmas

2007-12-03 21:33:52 · 24 answers · asked by girl g 2

i am recently divorced and trying to make myself sleep in the middle of the bed, but it's weird, did any other divorcees go through this? if you have been divorced, did you still sleep on the same "side" of the bed that you did when you were married? did you move the the middle? thoughts?

2007-12-03 21:31:42 · 10 answers · asked by jen19music 4

When I am lying in bed at night, drifting off to sleep laying next to my hubby, my eyes are closed, I "see" our bed, from above, I can feel his leg on mine, yet it "feels" like he is millions of miles away, I actually see him drifting further and further away. I don't know what to make of it, I have asked him about it and he doesn't understand either. Anyone?

2007-12-03 21:25:33 · 12 answers · asked by Heady S 3

If my wife was arrested for domestic battery and given 1 year probation for hitting me ( state has pictures )

2 years later....

In Divorce court, could this charge be to my advantage?

2007-12-03 21:20:07 · 5 answers · asked by vmaxrubicon 1

Not actually having sex with the other person but kissing and some touching. You feel guilty and this has never happened before though you know it was a mistake and wont happen again. You are engaged to be married and planning to have children together in the future. Do you tell and risk losing it all and hurting your partner deeply or do you live with the deceit and put it down to a lesson learned?

2007-12-03 21:19:31 · 23 answers · asked by honey 3

ok this QUESTION mainly for Indians to answer but people from other countries are also very much welcomed to answer...
A married guy says that,' its his right to physically hurt his wife, bcoz this this is a male dominated country n this is the culture that is followed here.and a wife should respect and be submissive to her husband'.
though law are here to punish it , domestic abuse is going on. mind u this guy is a software eng. working in an MNC
what do u say? i find it totally ________ sickening

2007-12-03 21:14:33 · 31 answers · asked by pink.wing 2

Why not love your spouse and save the lawyer fees and goto a nice Thai restaurant instead ?
Why not buy your wife a massage and a spa holiday ?
Why are people so PATHETIC to get divorced ?
Please explain and stick together FOREVER !
Uphold your vows !

2007-12-03 20:35:43 · 26 answers · asked by Love life and share happiness 3

My spouse and i are discussing weather or not it is "proper" to have access to each others wallets or purses?

2007-12-03 20:32:00 · 27 answers · asked by jane d 1

2007-12-03 20:27:11 · 12 answers · asked by jane d 1

Last week, my child had a friend come to vist, and both parents came to pick him up.The husband was profusely complimenting us on our home (it's not flash - just a humble, but well-kept home), our kids and how presentable they always are, and their good behaviour.This was all very nice of course, but the compliments came at the expense of his wife. He even said things like that I have 4 kids and look how orderly everything is, she (his wife) has only 2 and can't keep up with things. I was so shocked and embarrassed that I really didn't know what to say.He wasn't drunk, and they didn't appear to have been fighting or anything before so I just don't understand it. I am married,so it's not as though the compliments were to flirt with a single mother or anything like that. I didn't know what to say but just changed the subject, but he mentioned it again, and his wife just said "Oh well we can't all be mrs perfect". I felt so uncomfortable. I cried when they left.How will I face her again?

2007-12-03 20:19:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for 3 years and married for almost 2. We have had many ups and downs, but we always seem to work things out. I am finally getting tired of working things out. All the problems we have had have been due to his dishonesty. He lies about so many little things, that it makes me wonder if he'll lie to me about major things, hence I have no trust for him. I don't feel happy in this marriage because of the lack of trust. This is not what I have ever wanted in a relationship, but I feel trapped. I gave up an amazing career to move with him for his career, & have become a stay at home mom. I LOVE the child that we have created, she is wonderful and the greatest thing that has ever happened to me, but I feel like I do not love my husband anymore. I feel that I am falling out of love, because I am overwhelmed with hate toward him. I don't want him to kiss or touch me, & the sound of his voice just aggravates me, mainly because I feel as if everyword is a lie.

2007-12-03 20:19:35 · 24 answers · asked by Love to Answer 5

When my husband goes working away I find it impossible to sleep no matter how tired I am - is this normal or is there something wrong with me?

2007-12-03 19:52:52 · 19 answers · asked by karla 3

tell me how long did u take to get over a long term relationship.. lets say 4, 5 or 6 years together? does it hurt so bad? i need advice cos im still healing .. i think...

2007-12-03 19:48:19 · 3 answers · asked by Tina J 1

I was contemplating if I should continue an intimate relationship with my daughters father when he comes to visit on the weekends.Thanks to you listeners out there I have decided that I am better than that and should wait for a real man to come along. So what I need from you guys, is words to give me confidence to stand up to him and say no (and actually stick with it), because like you have said in the past.I deserve better.
So bring on the words of wisdom

2007-12-03 19:42:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its been 7 months into my relationship and im anxious to go further? He says he needs more time which is understandable after only 7 months lol I guess i have never felt like this for anyone.

2007-12-03 19:35:46 · 10 answers · asked by Allaboutlove07 1

My husband cares more for his sis,bro,mom than me [ whom he knows for 15 yrs].How do i know? from his actions:Eg: talks to them first thing in morning & last thing before he goes to bed so he will have a good day & great sleep!100% he does not feel for my feelings when i expressed that i am not his priority.he feels guilty if he goes for a vacation/movie with me without his family so he does not take me anywhere.all the pictures will have his sad face.if he does not talk to his family a day he will have bad mood.so all his actions show that he cares for them more.his sis kid is same age as ours i am worried that he shares all the good stuff of mour kid with her.[ his sister ignores me and does not talk to me infact did not even call me when i had baby and did not even inform me when she was pregnant]but just told my husband.his mom & sis asked him not ot tell abt her pregnancy to me and he did as they said.this what makes me think that he will do anything what they say.
i cant sleep!

2007-12-03 19:30:40 · 5 answers · asked by need some decision 1

My husband has him own constuction company and he has to work out of town Monday thru Saturday because, here work is slow right now.We have a 2 month old baby and a 3year old that I am a full time mother to.I love my husband very much and I miss him from the minute he leaves until he walks in the door.When he is home I want to spend as much time with him as possible but, he useally makes other plans to go everywhere else and have everyone over.When I tell him he needs to spend this little bit of time with us, he gets mad about it and will really ignor me.I have to make a big deal out of nothing for him to really pay attintion to me.Sometimes I need that little bit of reasureance on how much he loves me.I don't ask for him to be all over me, just the weekend with us and the babies, a little family time. How would you handle it? Do you think I'm being selfish?How should I handle this when it happens?

2007-12-03 19:26:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

6 months ago. He is paying child support and I am working 3 jobs to get by. The other day he told me I must be doing well for myself since I am working 3 jobs. He never asks if the kids or I need anything. He is still in their lives and sleeps over my house (in a separate room) on weekends. He keeps saying he wants to get back together, but not once has he asked how I am doing. All of a sudden he is spending alot of time with his mother who was never there for him while he was growing up. He has a big family and is always there for them whether it be doing things for them or listening and he is never there for me and not there for the kids like he is for his other family members. Would you forgive him for leaving? I don't know if I can. I want to do what's best for the kids, not me. Yes, I know this is Yahoo, just curious what others think. Friends and family tell me to leave him for good.

2007-12-03 19:08:22 · 6 answers · asked by mishka 2

2007-12-03 18:40:04 · 16 answers · asked by mx 2