I was contemplating if I should continue an intimate relationship with my daughters father when he comes to visit on the weekends.Thanks to you listeners out there I have decided that I am better than that and should wait for a real man to come along. So what I need from you guys, is words to give me confidence to stand up to him and say no (and actually stick with it), because like you have said in the past.I deserve better.
So bring on the words of wisdom
2007-12-03 19:42:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hon, just tell him that it's over.. and if he wants to be a father to your daughter, well, ok.. beyond that he is overstepping your boundaries.
You really need to set personal boundaries with others. If you don't know what that means, you can do a yahoo search for SETTING PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.
Yes you do deserve better... don't lower yourself to a guy who is the ex...
I'm sure there is someone nice out there who wont' use you for just sex...
take care.
2007-12-03 19:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not unusual for a married couple that is separating to carry a romatic relationship after they separate... its normal when you are so use to each other... its not like a one night stand its more like the last hoorah.... from what it sounds like you dont mind... but in the interest of confusing to your daughter... best to put it this way... lets say your daughter grows up and gets married and for some reason or another her and her husband decide to divorce... what advice would you give her if you constantly saw them cuddling and loving each other from week to week and then others he wasnt there.... and your grandaughter was there... try looking at this in a different perspective to gain confidence in yourself and your actions, but if you continue i would treat it like an affair so your daughter doesnt see mommy and daddy making up all the time and then daddy leaves again....
hope it works for you.
2007-12-04 03:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by my_huckelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you two get married and stay committed for the kids sake? I think you both love each other. You two belong to each other, you just need to compromise, work out your problems together. The kids need you both to be really happy.
Go to Dr. Laura, she'll know what you should do.Email her.Here's her link:
http://www.drlaura.com/main/
2007-12-04 04:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋