Marriage & Divorce - 3 December 2007

I am 72 and not ashamed to say it. I get tired easy. How much should my husband help me with?

2007-12-03 08:04:46 · 9 answers · asked by ALICE B 3

In May I called off an engagement w/ my ex-fiance because I thought we couldn't communicate and he wasn't listening to my concerns about things we should talk about before we get married. After I broke up with him, he totally understood/ listened to what I'd been trying to say, and started working on things with me.

I thought it might be just to get me back and wanted to take things slow... we've been going to couple's counseling and I see that he is sincere about being a better communicator and working on issues etc., of course we've also worked on my issues including cold feet and fear... I was afraid to get married b/c my parents have a horrible marriage, but I've realized that we are different and that he and I can go the distance together.

I am very sure now that we are ready to get married, and it seems he is, too. My question: would it be silly of me to ask him to marry me since I'm the one who broke it off?

2007-12-03 07:53:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive just gotton a divorce from my husband of 10 yrs. I married him when i was 16 and i just turned 29. Im starting over with nothing only a place to stay. I didnt even finish high school let alone a GED. Ive never had to be responsible for myself now im lost as if i was still 16. Ive been sheltered now im out in the world i feel totally alone and lost. He has custody of the kids until i get on my feet. I have 0 credit and dont know where to start. Can someone point me in the right direction

2007-12-03 07:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by Akasha 2

2007-12-03 07:41:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have become ugly. Try to t/c/o myself, but men still don't notice me. Getting divorced from husband who treated me foul, but he is the winner in everything. God hates me. At wits end. Can't pay bills, have no fun in life. Are men attracted to women 50+ or is it a death sentence? Hate life.

2007-12-03 07:41:40 · 27 answers · asked by joanie 1

Marry someone whom you met online, had been talking with for 10 years, and would have to move across the country to be with?

2007-12-03 07:33:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-03 07:29:39 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 5 years and all 5 have been rocky. We have two children, very young children, one of which has some special needs. Hubby has been both physically and verbally abusive and now I have found a yahoos personal profile by him looking for a girlfriend. He was thrown out of the house last week for violence but has since been able to come back... now this. What do I do? I am a stay at home mom which helps me take care of hospital visits and surgeries, etc... this also means I have no income of my own and virtually no prospects since I never attended college. Should I stay and act solely as roommates and let him do as he pleases or uproot my children's lives in hopes of being able to care for them alone? I'm lost.

2007-12-03 07:29:32 · 21 answers · asked by CC 2

I'm thinking of getting divorced, but I'm not sure who from yet.

Any suggestions?

2007-12-03 07:28:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-03 07:24:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

an evil mad woman when i am around my ex?

We still have to live in the same house until his new house is sorted in January. We tend to say- 'hi' and 'bye', and then just keep out of each others way, but i find myself hating him! I want to keep things civil for the sake of all of us.

2007-12-03 07:22:33 · 11 answers · asked by AnneShirley03-03-07 4

My girlfriend is going through a really bad time. What I mean by that is she is going through hell and back, more than once. We were talking on the phone and she got another call. She didnt call back for 3 hours, but she was talking with one of her guy best friends who has feelings for her. I know she was spilling everything thats on her mind, but for 3 hours? When she called she was telling me how much she loves me and how she wants me to be the one she gets married to. Would I be out of line to ask what they talked about?

2007-12-03 07:22:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive been married for 8 years and have what most would call the perfect life. I have two kids, a house, a wife and all its missing the the picket fence. I work hard...and DO help around the house (dishes, trash and help with the kids bath time and making breakfast every morning). Anyone looking at us from afar would say we have it all. Yet...we have no passion left. None. Its as though all of the wind has gone out of our sail and we are going nowhere. My wife is a very strong texas woman who gets what she wants and would rather win a fight then be fair or right or just. I have been way too passive...trying not to cause problems, and yet. Im more lonely now then i have ever been. My question....when is it right for you to end a marraige when the only thing wrong with it, is that you are lonely and havent had "relations" in a long time?

2007-12-03 07:19:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay...so due to the wonderful world of technology...my husband's ex located him on myspace. One convo led to another and we now have dinner plans with her and a 'friend' (male) next weekend. My husband has showed me his conversations via myspace and they seem innocent enough...but I did check his IMs without him knowing and he made reference to 'smiling from ear to ear' when they first were speaking on IM.
We have had a rocky 7 year marraige and are just getting on the right trach again...is a dinner with the ex and her 'friend' a bad idea or is it being polite and letting the past be in the past?? I am torn to be honest. A part of me understands that she shared in his life and can be a friend to him and a part of me imagines total awkwardness next weekend!

2007-12-03 07:16:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

For instance, you'll be doing ten things at once, and your guy will be sitting on his duff doing nothing....and he'll wonder why you are in such a pissy mood?
I feel that if they would take some initiative, and help out occasionally without being asked, there'd be no need to nag or ask repeatedly.
Plus, it doesn't help that some men call it "nagging" whenever their wife or girlfriend asks them to do something that they don't want to do, or agree with.

2007-12-03 07:12:22 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

I just came about this phrase....."A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek HIM first to find her"

2007-12-03 07:06:16 · 12 answers · asked by gmg2 3

2007-12-03 07:03:05 · 31 answers · asked by Rose 1

2007-12-03 06:46:45 · 46 answers · asked by airforcewolf 4

Well i guess the answers are going to be 99% in the affirmative...i'm looking for that 1% married people who says they've never ever looked at anyone and desired them.

2007-12-03 06:37:10 · 16 answers · asked by tomcruise234234 2

My ex and I had about the worst break-up imaginable (about a month and a half ago). We're both law students who made the poor choice of arguing outside. Someone called campus police because we were so loud, and we both had to sign agreements promising the Dean we won't speak to each other for a year. Most of my "friends" sided with my ex, so now I find myself with a new group of friends and no boyfriend (I had thought my ex and I would get married - we'd looked at rings, etc.). Looking back on everything, I realize that it's for the best that we're apart (we argued a lot, and we're both incredibly stubborn. Not to mention, I was never quite sure if he had been completely faithful). But, I still miss him. I find myself missing him a lot and counting down the days until I can talk to him again. Is it normal to still feel this way? How can I help myself move on from this lost love?

2007-12-03 06:27:11 · 15 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3

Okay, so I asked this question a minute ago and I recieved some responses... Yes, I know it is an immature way of think. I am only 23 and have never been with a guy with children. One major issue with this, is we had been dating for 4 months before he even mentioned them. I had no idea he had kids. This came as shock to me and it's not that I hate the children themselves. It's that I hate the thought of them being his. I hate hearing him talk about about them and I hate to see him with them. If we weren't so compatible together, I would have left a long long time ago. I guess my real question should have been, How do I get over the hate in my heart for him having children or is that even possible?

2007-12-03 06:14:51 · 36 answers · asked by katiebug554 2

If you and I have children then she or he may have olive skin with blue eyes.....

This is the first time he has said anything with regards to children. I'm hoping he's thinking of a future like I am but my friend said to take it like a grain of salt. what do you think?

2007-12-03 06:10:52 · 24 answers · asked by Lily 3

Tell me if you think this is "BS" or Not....do guys really need time to heal. I like this guy. Instead of telling him right off, i told his roommate (to see what the deal really was. (the roommate said this below)

"Well I mean I don't know what to tell you. Honestly I think he is just looking for friends type of thing. I mean he is just getting out of a relationship a couple months ago. I would just give him time and be a friend."

What should I do, leave or stay?

Im 22 the guy is 24, the guy is really nice/sweet to me!
I'm not looking for a relationship, I just like him. Its too soon for me to say if I really really want a relationship with him anyways

2007-12-03 06:06:12 · 18 answers · asked by LovelyMe 2

Does the fact that shes aging affect how attracted to her you are or kill the desire to have sex with her? Im not saying she has to be 50 or 60 but just lets say 30's or 40's & shes not what she used to be.

2007-12-03 05:49:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

He thinks we should be happy because we have lots of "stuff". We have a great house, big tv, all the extras that don't mean much to me at all. Is there a chance to save this marriage?

2007-12-03 05:35:35 · 44 answers · asked by Leo Lady 1

I have asked my wife for several years to loose weight and get implants because I am not sexually attracted to her anymore... Her physical appearance has changed so much since our marrage and I continue to work out etc... any way I had deccided to have afairs due to this.... I warned her for years this would happen and I gave her every opportunity to change... so now she wants me to stop and I think that is unfair.. How can I make her understand this is the only reason we can stay together? I love her every other way!!

2007-12-03 05:28:14 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

We had heated argument with my wife and I accused her of having affair with her brother-in-law because she wants to leave me, outs is 2nd marriage for both of us and she every day remembers her brother-in-law for some reason how he lives his life, what he does etc. after she leaves me she wanted to stay with he brother-in-law and her brother who has his own apartment. When I said she must be having affair with her BIL she said “NO” but right after that she also said “If she has to lie for someone’s benefit the she will not hesitate to lie” what DOES SHE MEANT BY THIS????

My wife always compares me with her brother-in-law. In the beginning I did not care but many times she will tell me even minor things like he went for his car wash today. He bought toys for his kids, because she and her sister talks every day on phone. Now eventually she cares more for her brother-in-law so much so that if she separates from me she will leave with her BIL and not with her brother who lives few miles apart. WHAT KIND OF MESSAGE IS SHE TRYING TO CONVEY ME?? WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO ASSUME????

2007-12-03 05:27:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is not saying each man or situation is created equal. I'm sure there are underlying themes though. Did he make his married life seem pathetic? Did he make you believe he was eventually leaving for you? When it ended did he still try to pursue you? What are some lessons learned that you can share with others BEFORE the affair happens?

2007-12-03 05:16:12 · 9 answers · asked by Perplexed 2

I am a 21 year old (college student)newly wed (september 15)that did something really stupid without thinking.My hubby is 26 yr old a relativley good guy he's a computer programmer with a lot of potential and many people like say my entire family thinks he's the perfect guy.Our romance went real fast with emotions all over the place.I was trying to get over my first love an ex.bf at the.My aunt introduced my hubby to me at church and i jumped at the chance to see someone new.Then 8 months later we got married but 2 weeks before my wedding i had a slip up with my ex.bf before i started the pill.My hubby and i abstained for 2 months before the wedding and choose to use condoms for 4 weeks after i started the pill.I am pregnant my doctor confirmed(ultra sound) it he placed DOC at Sept.3.I feel really bad and confused ?I dont want to hurt my hubby but am no sure if or how to tell him and when?

2007-12-03 05:15:03 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

There are times when my husband just gets on my nerves and I want to talk back to him, but I just stay quiet. What other ways do you hold back anger and the need to lash back?

2007-12-03 05:05:41 · 26 answers · asked by ilovecats 1