My girlfriend is going through a really bad time. What I mean by that is she is going through hell and back, more than once. We were talking on the phone and she got another call. She didnt call back for 3 hours, but she was talking with one of her guy best friends who has feelings for her. I know she was spilling everything thats on her mind, but for 3 hours? When she called she was telling me how much she loves me and how she wants me to be the one she gets married to. Would I be out of line to ask what they talked about?
2007-12-03 07:22:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think I would ask flat out "what were you talking about", but I would make it clear that it made you uncomfortable and that you understand she's going through a lot, but that she should be able to come to you, and not go to a guy friend that has feelings to her for comfort. Simply put - it if makes you uncomfortable, it needs to be discussed.
2007-12-03 08:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know what they were talking about. you said yourself that she was spilling everything that is on her mind. how do you know that she was on the phone for the entire 3 hours. maybe she got off the phone and did something else and then called you back. however, if her friend is going to be this big of an issue, maybe you are not meant to be.
2007-12-03 15:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch. And be careful. She walking on some slippery ground and either you need to be super strong to catch her when she faulters or you need to let her tred this path alone. "She says" is one thing. Talking to the guy she KNOWS has feelings for, and telling you she wants YOU, yeah, it may sound flattering, and she's probably pretty elated to have two men who really like her tagging around. Tell her this makes you uncomfortable and if she does it again, don't warn her again. The minute you say "I am uncomfortable with this" is her first and only warning. She does it again, then you need to stop wasting you time.
2007-12-03 15:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you, why was she on the phone for 3 hours? How do you know she was actually on the phone? I would put that in check!
2007-12-03 15:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she love you ,what are you worried about ?If you ever get married you shouldn't try to change her,otherwise she's not the one for you.Love means you know and love the person the way they are.If you are insecure in your relationship, talk to her.
2007-12-03 16:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have reason to believe she is cheating on you or forming an emotional attachment to him that could endanger your relationship, yes. But if you are worried, then you have the right to ask.
2007-12-03 15:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it would be out of line, bc ur her bf u should have the right 2 knw but dont force her to tell u, bc then she will thnk dat u dont trust her talkin 2 her guy friend
2007-12-03 15:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by crazysamantha_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, you ain't gonna like what I say, but I'm saying it.
Run.
Run like the wind.
No foundation of trust, no good marriage. I know. I've been there for 20 years.
Run, my friend, and don't look back.
2007-12-03 15:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by ksdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think so. And I would find it offensive for her to talk about me to someone who has feeling for her. I find that to be an innappropriate relationship innocent or not...
2007-12-03 15:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new girlfriend.
2007-12-03 15:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋