Is it normal to feel this way?

Question

My ex and I had about the worst break-up imaginable (about a month and a half ago). We're both law students who made the poor choice of arguing outside. Someone called campus police because we were so loud, and we both had to sign agreements promising the Dean we won't speak to each other for a year. Most of my "friends" sided with my ex, so now I find myself with a new group of friends and no boyfriend (I had thought my ex and I would get married - we'd looked at rings, etc.). Looking back on everything, I realize that it's for the best that we're apart (we argued a lot, and we're both incredibly stubborn. Not to mention, I was never quite sure if he had been completely faithful). But, I still miss him. I find myself missing him a lot and counting down the days until I can talk to him again. Is it normal to still feel this way? How can I help myself move on from this lost love?

Answer 1

If this is true (which i doubt) tell the dean to shove it were no sun shines only a court of law can make a legal binding agreement like this.. I guess you could be living in the mid east were they jail teachers for naming teddy bears..lol

Answer 2

If you are plagued with sorrow, try getting something out of it. Part of the reason your relationship ended was because you were unwilling to compromise. Of course he had his faults, but it's you asking the question -not him. So let's talk about you. If your break-up was so nasty and you still miss him, you are giving him exactly what he wants. He gets to move on and keep his friends, while you sit around regretting the whole thing. Try learning from this experience. Relationships take effort. And I'm not talking effort in trying to change the other person or trying to get them to see things your way. I'm talking about learning to compromise and sometimes letting things go. UNtil you can do this, you will continue to be miserable whether you be single or with someone else. In this case, the feelings you have of missing a lost love, these feelings represent your inner self screaming out to you to learn from this and become a better partner, so you won't have a repeat.

Answer 3

I think it takes a lot of the same in personalities to be a lawyer! :) You were both so much in attitude, but had your own beliefs and perhaps that made it hard to not argue. It's normal, honey. And maybe this "forced" separation will give you both the room you need to grow into adults with a sense of what's worth fighting for and over. Who knows what will happen at the end of the year-long exile...You could both be on your own path, heading in opposite directions, or you could be on your way to meeting half way down the same path! Take this time to find out what you really, truly want from a man.

Answer 4

It's usually tough getting over an ex, especially someone you truly loved. But, if you're trying to get over him and not back with him, I'd suggest finding a rebound guy. Either that, or put yourself completely into your work, get a make over, go to the gym, do whatever it takes to distract you. Hit up a hot club and flirt your shirt off. Good luck.

Answer 5

thats a good question. i wished i knew the answer, people on here make it sound so easy to move on. i think i feel your pain, cause i am going through it too. i try to just make it through the day, and pray alot, but more than anything i think you miss the companionship. which can only be replaced! the odds of an ex are favorable, but only after THEY go through a lousy relationship, then they remember the good in you. but you cant wait, neither can i, but somehow we are doing just that WAITING. meanwhile life is just passing by. i cant give you the best advice, only let you know that you aren't the only one who is hurting here .your ex will come to the senses, but it may be too late then.,

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Is that agreement legal and binding? (you should know...) It sounds very wierd to me. All you were doing was raising your voices, and this is the result? Geez.

It's possible that the two of you were rather enmeshed - hence the constant arguing - and it's difficult to be separated.

Answer 8

If you're not quite ready to jump into another relationship, focus on other aspects of your life...
...school, going to the gym (or other hobbies), family...
...everything but relationships. This has helped me in the past.
Good luck girl.
And yes....your feelings are normal.

Answer 9

It's normal to feel this way. Only time will help you move on.

Answer 10

of course this is normal, you looked at rings, thats pretty serious, he was a big part of your life. it will take a while to get over it. but let your heart heal before you try again. take your time! good luck.