2007-12-03 07:29:39 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I try to hear their side of the story before completely freaking out.
I have been cheated on and it hurts...but I live through and am okay.
2007-12-03 08:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Music 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I am very much in love and intensly love my finace...but if he ever choose to cheat, I would leave. And it is because of my intense love, that I could not be with him, if there was cheating. I could not look at him every day, touch him, kiss him, hug him, hold him, go to bed with him, talk to him, make love with him, because I would forever be reminded of this other woman, who kissed, touched, hugged and took my finace to bed with her. And especially if we were having sex, I just couldn't do it. I would always wonder if he used a condom with that other woman? Now that is just pysical cheating. There are other forms of cheating and they would be just as hard. I have had an incident already and I have never been more angry about it. More upset, I was ready to take off for a while. And I was 9 months pregnant. It was a very close thing for me. I will not tolerate lying, cheating, being decieved, being walked all over, being taken for a fool. I absoultey refuse to live in a relationship where there is no honesty, respect, fidelity, committment, loyalty, love, I am far better then that and I deserve nothing but the best. I have not entirely gotten over the being lied to but I am moving on. I do love him very much, and I do plan to marry him and have a LIFE with him. And he has never done is again and was very sorry for what he did. Very sorry. He first handly saw what it did to me. He saw the pain, and the sorrow, and the hurt and I believe him when he says that he won't do it again, and that he is sorry about it.
Cheating is a huge mistake. And there is no excuse for that. None at all. I think cheaters should rot in hell. That is my opinion. I had an ex who cheated on me, and because he did, it was over. But he was a true cold heartless a**hole, who I hope gets axed one day. I have not one good thought about that poor excuse for a man. A waste of skin, a peice of s***t. And that is how I feel about cheaters.
2007-12-03 08:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maria, I can only imagine the type of answers you will get with this question. But I will try to tell you what I think. "Cheating" is tricky. It brings pain, mistrust and lots of headaches for all involved. But for me to take sides on weather to leave him or not it will not be fair. So I can recommend you the best book I know about marriages and relationships,,"The Divorce Remedy" by Michele Weiner Davies. Now, you don't need to be married to read this book. It will address the question of Cheating. I wish you luck and I hope you will find your answer.
2007-12-03 07:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is he/she cheating and doesn't care, or is he/she cheating and feels remoursfull? If you want to keep the marriage alive, go to couples counseling, and both of you go to individual counseling. It will be a long and difficult treck, but if you are determined to keep your marriage alive it's almost the only thing possible.
If he/she refuses to get help, and if he/she doesn't really care about your relationship I'd get the divorce papers in order real quick. There is no reason you should be sharing your man/woman with someone else. Be good to yourself and treat yourself the way you know you deserve to be treated.
2007-12-03 07:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is why did they cheat. Until you determine that, all you can do is react selfishly. Which by the way, is the standard reaction to this as shown by the rest of the answers here.
2007-12-03 07:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being it is in Marriage and Divorce, then divorce them. It as I've seen does not work out even though you try there is always some doubt to where you spouse is, are they really out with their friends or what??? It is a very sad thing but it is what it is, if your spouse respects you and something is wrong then don't you think they would tell you about it. Your vows are what they are, one person for the rest of your lives.
2007-12-03 07:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by TIMM M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends:
1. Are you two married?
2. Was it a one time drunken thing or a long affair where he is inlove with the person?
3. Is he remorseful, does he want to work things out and is asking for forgiveness?
4. Are there children involved?
5. Do you still love him?
2007-12-03 07:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Partner cheated on you in real life, you need to dump him. If he cheated on you in a game then just let him have his moment of glory and let him think he won the fair way.
2007-12-03 07:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends upon several things. Did he initiate the cheating or did she? If he started it, he may not be worth trying to save the relationship but if she did, it may be a poor judgment on his part. You need to talk to him and get counseling before you decide to give him another chance to either fix the marriage or file for divorce and whether to be more upset with him or with her. If he is the one who started the affair, he has to decide to save the marriage or that will not work and the divorce is the next step..
2007-12-03 07:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd feel like collapsing into a sobbing mess...
But that's not how I do things. I am stronger than that -- as should you be, if you were recently cheated on.
I would imagine a huge, magnificent, unbreachable wall between me and that person. I would cut her off from me forever. Not even a goodbye.
2007-12-03 07:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by whimsy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, by saying good-bye. And never looking back, I personally know I deserve better... I demand the same respect i put into a relationship... Cheating is a deal breaker. God bless****
2007-12-03 07:34:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋