Tell me if you think this is "BS" or Not....do guys really need time to heal. I like this guy. Instead of telling him right off, i told his roommate (to see what the deal really was. (the roommate said this below)
"Well I mean I don't know what to tell you. Honestly I think he is just looking for friends type of thing. I mean he is just getting out of a relationship a couple months ago. I would just give him time and be a friend."
What should I do, leave or stay?
Im 22 the guy is 24, the guy is really nice/sweet to me!
I'm not looking for a relationship, I just like him. Its too soon for me to say if I really really want a relationship with him anyways
2007-12-03 06:06:12 · 18 answers · asked by LovelyMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know why women persist in thinking that guys are so devoid of emotion. They can and do get hurt, and he may need time to get over a relationship. He sounds like he has some common sense and knows it would not be a good idea to jump back into a rebound relationship just to get over a failed romance. You wouldn't want to be the one that "fixed" him up, only to have him leave.
You ask should I leave or stay....leave what?
You said you just wanted to be a friend so be one. When you see him be friendly and chat about everyday things. When and if he is ready for dating, he will probably let you know.
2007-12-03 06:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what's wrong with being a friend? I don't really see any BS here. Guys have deep feelings too.
Guys do need time to heal, and your friend is very likely sensitive about the possibility of any kind of relationship. So why not tell him what you've just told all of us? That you like him and would like to be a friend to him, and that not having a relationship is okay with you.
2007-12-03 06:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't "looking for a relationship", then what is the problem? You might start by being honest with yourself first.
I mean, the main reason most people date is they are hoping to find somebody eventually who they can date exclusively, and that's OK.
If you are just into messing around, why would you even care?
2007-12-03 06:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If you like him and want to be friends with him then just be a friend. If you go out of your way to be extra nice, then you want more than friendship. Men do need time to "trust" again. If his last relationship ended badly then make sure you use your knowlage of your own past relationships to understand how he feels.
2007-12-03 06:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by da_catcar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Ask him. You are not in grade school anymore. Why base a decision on what someone else thinks he might be going through. Yes they do need time to heal.
2007-12-03 06:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused, He just wants someone to be friends with (according to his friend) and you say you do not want a relationship (as in you only want to be friends with him).
So whats the problem?
Just be friends and see what happens
2007-12-03 06:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should disregard what his friend has to say and see what he has to say instead. His friend might have motives you are unaware of. Ask him if he is looking for a girl friend. If you don't some other girl might and then you are the "friend" while someone else is the girlfriend.
2007-12-03 06:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
agreed, lestermo. another move like that and you should probably take your "workout and stuff" and knock this guy senseless. he wont say anything, because then he would have to explain that he grabbed your junk. so you get a free shot if he ever does that again. pop him one right in the nose. dont press charges. take the man's approach and cold clock him.
2016-05-28 00:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only sensitive men (the only kind worth having) need time to heal. But let him be the judge of that. Tell him how you feel, when you are ready, and if he needs more time, he'll let you know.
2007-12-03 06:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Damocles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take it in stride you r young. continue to see other guys then maybe he might he might try harder to keep u close. When r to ready available men get little scared.
2007-12-03 06:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by hmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋