Marriage & Divorce - 3 December 2007

custodial parent? so far its been 4 months since they 1st went to the doctor - and they have gone many times since.

2007-12-03 10:55:58 · 5 answers · asked by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6

We seem to fight about the same issues over and over, and never reach a good conclusion. It seems as if he either gets his way, or we keep fighting. Our fights are very mild, more like a discussion that feels like it never ends. I'm so tired of this. I want to focus on the good points of my marriage, but these issues just keep coming up - how should I deal with this?

2007-12-03 10:40:54 · 17 answers · asked by emmyfair 3

me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and we currently had a little girl. a few years ago he cheated on me and was talking on the phone with other girls. it still is a big arguement between us and now i have trust issues. how do you handle putting that behind you?

2007-12-03 10:38:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband, we've been living apart as he's working in another country (with the rest of his family) and I'm due to go live with him in the next few weeks now he's got a place ready. But I think I've messed up one last time. He is very controlling in that he wants to know where and when I'm going and what I'm up to and to ask before going anywhere (even though he is abroad). I went out 'without his permission' last week (I went during the day with girlfriends and due to some miscommunication I thought it was ok) and he has been angry with me. We finally made peace, but I just think I've pushed him away for good. He didn't want to stay with my family when he comes to 'collect' me and it upset me especially as he made a point of saying it was 'because of what I did' and talked about other minor things I've done he didn't like. I said I didn't think we are compatable anymore and I couldn't live always being reminded of every past mistake. He's said fine that's it.

2007-12-03 10:37:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i've heard this saying that says "little girls marry their fathers". As i see it, it means that if the father is always hitting or abusing the mother, then she will also be in an abusive relationship. or vice-versa. but what does it really mean???

2007-12-03 10:11:55 · 7 answers · asked by That's Life 2

We have been together for 5 1/2 years and things aren't rosy. My husband has been disabled now for 1 1/2. I work, study and look after the house and he cares for our son during work hours. Thing is we hardly talk and he never shows much affection. He is often more engrossed in computers or something and with us both studying we don't get to bed past midnight and hardly ever get jiggy with it. He is very tired and on painkillers etc but am I being selfish to expect cuddles etc as I never get any attention. When I lose it and argue with him he never says much. If we row I always have to make the move to sort it. It's like he loves me but does't want me around really. He says I am beautiful sometimes but never thinks about me etc. I clean and do all the jobs and am exhausted but when I come home he has never done anything even though he could do little jobs. I am so tired of being thoughful and caring but never getting anything back. He says he forgets but surely that means he doesn't

2007-12-03 10:08:01 · 18 answers · asked by squeaky 2

All types - financial, marital, emotional infidelity.

I say yes. There are many different ways to repair perceived irreversible damage. Do you agree? What do you think is the best way?

2007-12-03 09:46:24 · 25 answers · asked by Dr. G™ 3

My wife and I are having some trouble. I don't even really fully understand what it's about but she is upset and boarders day to day on wheather or not she wants a divorce. I don't want to leave my home and my children,( my wife either for that matter). If she decided that was that I know the court would eventually give her the house and she would get the kids more than me I know too.
Question is how long can I hold out if I don't want to go and what can I do to prolong being under the same roof as my children?

2007-12-03 09:46:21 · 7 answers · asked by troubled 1

Just wondering what people are doing for each other to express their love in little ways. Can be simple or grand, expensive or free but has a big "wow - that was incredibly sweet" impact.

2007-12-03 09:38:22 · 18 answers · asked by Kat 1

Is it because divorce is easily accessible now?

Doesn't anyone believe in keeping the flame alive in marriage?

2007-12-03 09:35:11 · 32 answers · asked by Dr. G™ 3

My ex wife in a never ending quest for control bought my 8 year old son a cell phone for his birthday. Now, he brings the phone over the house and thinks up every reason under the sun to use it, specifically to call who is in the address book of the phone. Well the address book only contains my ex's friends, family and she even put the number of her first husband in it(his brothers dad). He is never alone without me or my wife and there have never been any issues until now, with this. Her arguement about him having it for his "safety" doesnt work, because he is never alone. There have never been any allegations of abuse or mistreatment on any side and we have been divorced for 8 years. I think I am going to tell him to turn it off when he is with me, but when he is with his mom he can use it as much as he wants.

My thought is that this is just another way for her to pry into my visitation and exert influence all under the excuse of "safety". Any thoughts?

2007-12-03 09:32:37 · 17 answers · asked by jeffzster 1

speak of your partner when talking to other people. eg use the words we and us instead of me and i. Like would you say I went there on holiday, when really you and your partner did or we went there on holiday - as an example, if you know what i mean.

2007-12-03 09:24:47 · 13 answers · asked by Baca 5

if he doesn't, what does it mean??

2007-12-03 09:24:19 · 10 answers · asked by karis 2

i have been in a relationship for the past 5 years now.the romantic sizzle has faded ,though i feel we are the best of friends, recently i have meet a older man,who i am very attracted to.my problem,or question is?????how do i tell the man i have spent the last 5 years with,that i no longer am sexually attracted to him,and i can not see us being life long partners.......i really do love him,i do not want to hurt him,and i do not want to lose his friendship.....any words of wisdom???p.s..do i test the waters first(with the other man)or should i be honest with my partner????has any one been through a similar situation,on either side of the story?

2007-12-03 09:08:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Apparently in the USA (maybe elsewhere too) there are agencies who you pay to send a hot girl into a bar where your husband drinks and hit on him - and check to see if he responds to them or says "no thanks, I'm married".

Would you consider using one of these agency decoy girls? Maybe you have used one to test him... what happened?

2007-12-03 08:55:56 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

When we have sex these days I always feel that he is faking it. He does it like it is his duty. There is no passion, no sparks.

He is a big fan of internet porn and was a keen customer of strip clubs. He always wanted to see me in sexy lingerie to get turned on. Now even that is not enough to light a real fire. Is he bored with me?

I don't think other men find me dull as I can easily turn a few heads if I wished to. So why is my husband getting disinterested? What can I do to spark his interest? Please help!

2007-12-03 08:41:56 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-03 08:38:39 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mine is filet mignon, lobster tail, & dark chocolate truffle w/ganache, because every moment with him is like a first class main course with a little bit o' dessert afterwards! RAWRRRR!

LOL

How about you?

2007-12-03 08:31:26 · 36 answers · asked by Dr. G™ 3

2007-12-03 08:27:20 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i have been married for a while, but now, i realize ive fallen completely out of love with him. we're totally wrong for one another and i realize it now. How do i break it to him that i just feel nothing for him anymore? i dont want to hurt him but i cant string him along either!! HELP!

2007-12-03 08:26:38 · 44 answers · asked by Jubilee S 1

When you lose trust in your husband and lose faith/security/love - can you ever get it back. I try, but I always seem to hold on to the thoughts of him lying, etc.... Have you ever got the trust/love back and how did you do it?

2007-12-03 08:22:49 · 12 answers · asked by lilwoman 1

I know for a fact she is at her parents house, and that is the problem. Their house is filty, dogs peeing and sh**ing everywhere. My wife at work and so is her mom during the day leaving only her father to care for my baby, and he is handicapped. Im so worried about my daughters living condition, but my wife will not have anything to do with me. And no im not beating her. She does this after every arguement. What can I do? I want my daughter here with me, its so much cleaner at my house.

2007-12-03 08:18:04 · 27 answers · asked by dli 2

Has anyone out there been in a marriage where the husband no longer trys hard at resolving conflict, and instead just avoids it. I can remember when my husband and I would always talk out our problems and when he cared just as much if not more than I did about resolving them. He has always been stubborn though and stood for days in the past not speaking to me.I am afraid that by me most always being the one to give in to his stubborness that I have made him too sure of me and now acts not to care to work on the marriage. He treats me nice and polite but does not even bring up the argument and does not make any effort to resolve it. We just talk as if nothing has happened. I am beginning to feel so sad, alone, like he does not care. How does a girl get her husband to not be too sure of her? My question probably sounds dumb, but I am serious, this is making me feel not cared for and taken for granted. He acts nice but does not show motivation or concern.

2007-12-03 08:15:55 · 14 answers · asked by pictureshygirl 7

my boyfriend was previously married. He still has a close relationship with the ex, we are now having our 1st baby, they didn't have kids, but deep inside I'm afraid he still likes her, you never forget your 1st love??? is he over her??

2007-12-03 08:14:37 · 33 answers · asked by ...... 3

I'm 38, married for 9 years with 2 great kids , I feel like I do everything for my Wife... So much to the point that I'm starting to feel bitter twords her. I do it all the cooking the cleaning everything. Heres a typical day, I get her out of bed a 5:45 I start coffe and Iron everyons clothes for the day. she gets herself ready for work wile i get the kids out of bed, fed and dressed for the day. The kids are 5 and 8. She leaves for work. I get the kids off to school and then go to work. I come home after work make dinner. She "can't cook" clean up after dinner usualy start laundry most nights put the kids to bed at 8:30. Lately I have been working in the garage getting ready for a pending addition to our house. I come back in the house about 10:00 and fold laundry at which point she (sitting on the couch) says why dont you leave that for tomorow.. Am I missing something.? This is the way it has always been, have I created this monster by not making her do more of the work..

2007-12-03 08:13:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

What would you do if you've already made repeated attempts to talk about his/her behaviour to no avail?

2007-12-03 08:09:41 · 30 answers · asked by Kynysca 4

He says he does not remember how it got in there or how long it was in there,,, he bought the car the weekend before our first date, we dated in that car, We went off and eloped with his/my children in that car. We have only been married 6 months how am I to believe that it was not in there for a reason??? Am I over-reacting??

2007-12-03 08:09:10 · 31 answers · asked by ? 2

married for 3.5 years i have a 1 year old. my husband from the starting has issues with me. i never understand why? and now its gotten worse.. he curses at me for no reason, or reasons so small like not putting the laundry away!! he gets mad when he wants to and not talk for dayss.. expects things from me all the time but when i expect says i am too demanding..
when iw as pregnant on our trip to NY i had his laptop in my lap, and i was going to put it on the back seat it sort of slipped but ended up fine on the seat.. he started swearing at me so much (which he knows i hate) also hit me so hard that i started bleeding from my both lips.. never said sorry ..when we got there he got extra rude with me .. then few hours later he acted as if nothing happend!! i tried to talk and get mad..but got scared he might do something again.. i know i have put up with it just cz of my baby.. if i file for divorce will i get my baby's custody or can he get it.. i have no clue so am asking pls help

2007-12-03 08:08:40 · 16 answers · asked by angel 1

If you are married and you wanted to have sex but your partner didn't and you forced yourself on them- even though they said to stop- is that still rape?

2007-12-03 08:08:23 · 45 answers · asked by srk fan 3

in houston tx can a 15 yr old girl that lives with thier parents be in a common law marriage if parents agree, both ppl share same bank account, and have lived together for a year?

2007-12-03 08:07:13 · 6 answers · asked by ShAyDe ChAoS 1