i have been in a relationship for the past 5 years now.the romantic sizzle has faded ,though i feel we are the best of friends, recently i have meet a older man,who i am very attracted to.my problem,or question is?????how do i tell the man i have spent the last 5 years with,that i no longer am sexually attracted to him,and i can not see us being life long partners.......i really do love him,i do not want to hurt him,and i do not want to lose his friendship.....any words of wisdom???p.s..do i test the waters first(with the other man)or should i be honest with my partner????has any one been through a similar situation,on either side of the story?
2007-12-03 09:08:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't have any experience in gayism.
2007-12-03 09:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Brightside 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't leave the 5 year relationship....
Just because the, "romantic sizzle has faded".
This older man...how much older?. In my single years (I've been married for 6 years now, so my single years are long gone) I had a few relationships with older men.....It never worked. They would either flirt with much older women than me, or I wasn't sexually experienced enough for them..it was never enough.
You probably have a good guy now..Have you tried to work on things? And I mean REALLY tried. Because what may happen is that you might...regret ever leaving him without really trying to fix...the problem.
Remember a....real....relationship takes work. The passion always fades...in every relationship it fades for one of the partners. At the beggining of course....it's always good and great and lovely.
But realy love?..Takes time and effort. There's more to a relationship than passion. You may loose a really good friend, and never gain him back.
I made a really....really...big mistake once.
I cheated.
Don't do it. I'm not saying that you're cheating. But please, think about the other person first, and put his needs first. Think about what's really important here....and what is really valuable in your life....
And....then...make the right choice.
Good Luck,
Lucy
2007-12-03 09:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer, USN Wife & Mother. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love your current partner, the attraction has just fizzled. That is very common after a number of years with one person. It is a natural hurdle many couples must face - the strongest couples find ways to bring back the excitement. If you truly love your partner, think very seriously before saying anything to him or doing anything with the older man. As we go through life, we meet people with whom we feel attractions or connections - what if you pursue the new man, only to later discover the attraction was fleeting? Then you've lost him and your current partner.
I can't advise you who to go with, but make sure that once you risk losing your partner, you will be able to handle it if things don't work out with the new guy. Sometimes you can't go back.
2007-12-03 09:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by DSL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with your partner that you have been with for 5 years. i had an affair with another man and it was the worst thing ever. The guilt will eat away at you. Just remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side, what seems better might not be at all. If you don't see yourself being with him then you owe it to him and yourself to let it go and move on with your life. You probabaly will be better off not being friends with him. That can hurt the situation worse( trust me I know) I am friends with a man that I have feelings for and its horrible, we fight all the time and I get jelous of his new gf. Sometimes its better just to go and cut off the ties that you have with him.
2007-12-03 09:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"sexually attracted" is it then all about sex?,,You say you really love him, but you are asking us to advice you in having an affair? This will not solve a single thing. Sooner or later you will not be sexually attracted to this other guy,,then what?
Work on yourself,,try to focus,,,One wrong won't make things right. Be honest with yourself first. I think deep inside you know what to do. 5 years ia a long time,,,,you can make the change you so desperately hope for....It can happenned,,,Don't give up yet,,,,Don't involve somebody else,,,take it easy,,,focus!
2007-12-03 09:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test the waters??? Oh you mean should you cheat first and then decide if he is worth giving up the loyal mate for!!
Do as you like just let the poor sap you are seeing now go soon so that he can find someone who appreciates him and treats him like a valued person, instead of a fall back.
Believe me, he will be much better off without the likes of you!
2007-12-03 09:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Unless you broach the subject with your current partner, how do you know he hasn't been feeling the same as you? Maybe he would even be relieved. At any rate, you owe it to yourself, your partner and this new man to be above board.
2007-12-03 09:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all of us comprehend that cos^2 x + sin^2 x =a million so, cos^2 x = a million - sin^ x now, sin x - cos^2 x = -a million implies sin x - cos^2 x + a million = 0 implies sin x - ( a million - sin^2 x ) + a million = 0 implies sin x -a million + sin^2 x + a million = 0 implies sin^2 x + sin x = 0 that provides sin x ( sin x + a million ) =0 here we've 2 situations case a million : if sin x =0 meaning x= n(pi) the place n= a million,2,3,... case 2 : if sin x + a million = 0 that provides sin x = -a million implies x = (2n+a million) (pi) / 2 the place n = a million,2,3,...
2016-10-19 01:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what happens sometimes. I have never said the reason I want to break up with you is because of someone else.....just say that your feelings have changed and you would like to part the romantic part of your company.....simple but very hard.
2007-12-03 09:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋