Can a marriage be salvageble after infidelity?

Question

All types - financial, marital, emotional infidelity.

I say yes. There are many different ways to repair perceived irreversible damage. Do you agree? What do you think is the best way?

Answer 1

Yes,With God and counseling all things can be restored

Answer 2

I think it depends on the infidelity. Was it an incident - a one-time mistake that is atypical behaviour for the person? Or is it a pattern - is this their usual behaviour? If it's a one-time thing, a mistake, then yes, I think the marriage can be
salvaged, regardless of the type of infidelity.

If the cheating is a pattern, though, that's harder. If they have, say, a gambling problem, that is something that I think can be overcome and isn't a good enough reason to divorce (that's my opinion, feel free to disagree). If the person is having affairs with different people, and it's an ongoing problem (like one that's happened before or gone on for years), I say dump the jerk before they give you an STD that can't be cured.

Emotional infidelity, I'm not as sure. The trouble with emotional cheating is that it can lead to physical cheating so it is still a pretty big deal. I think it is easier to fix than physical cheating though, alot of time people cheat emotionally because they aren't getting enough emotional "nurturing" from their spouse (or, they think they aren't! sometimes women don't understand that men are nurturing them in a masculine way rather than the feminine way they expect). Anyways...as for the best way to fix these things, I would suggest the reader listen to Dr Laura Schlessinger. She is full of good advice (I learned many of these things from listening to her show), I would suggest listening to her show and reading her books.

Answer 3

Yeah. Marriage is a contract. One person agrees to offer themselves to the other and the benefit conferred is mutual exchange.

Consequently, considerate adults can negotiate all manner of indiscretion with a little bit of willingness to compromise, forming an addenda to their marriage contract.

Really, I think monogomy is too high a standard to offer because it is rarely met as evidenced by the high proportion of divorces. People need to appreciate this. Besides.. after a period of time all marriages need spicing up. A lifetime is a long time... and a little bit of sharing every now and again... can add a whole lot of fun. Come up with an agreement.... One freedom bonking each ... once a quarter with a get out of jail free card... whatever.... you can always gift your freedom bonk to your spouse if that's what you choose.. lol.

I've got a coule of people in mind for mine... lol .. I wonder if I can change the terms so I can get 6 months worth all at once? Maybe my spouse will splurge her freedom bonk and join in?

Answer 4

The only way to rise through infidelity together is to reestablish trust. This can be extremely challenging to accomplish, depending on the severity and frequency of the infidelity and it takes time. A consistent pattern of openness and honesty with a genuine desire to prioritize the relationship is a good place to start!

Answer 5

Sometimes, letting go seems like the easiest thing to do. But think about this: you've invested so much of your time and energy into another person; you've made a solemn promise; and you still know there's love, even if it's hiding underneath the surface. This website will show you how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, even if you're the only one trying https://tr.im/VtHvK

Answer 6

I have heard that you can repair a marriage after infidelity. It takes effort from both plus being able to forgive your spouse and not throwing it up in his/her face at every chance available.

I have even heard that it can make a marriage stronger.

Answer 7

Well, I'm not positive but I'm going to give it a shot. My husband has been caught many times with the same woman and each time he insists is the last. I've become quite the Private investigator over the past 2 years and since I haven't found any more evidence in the last month, I'm starting to believe he means it this time.

Answer 8

All women have to do is known the facts of life, grow up and deal with it:


1. There is no Santa
2. Everyone lies (even to themselves)
3. Life is not fair
4. All men cheat
5. Marriage sucks

Happy Holidays. Any other questions email me if you actually want to hear the truth not the fairy tales you believe.

Answer 9

Yes it can, with hard work. Anything worth having is worth working for. No pain no gain. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone is entitled to a mistake. I am sure you will get answers that say various negative things but you have to do what is in your heart to do. Pray on the subject and get guidance for your marriage. All people change dear...so if you are willing to forgive and FORGET (meaning not bringing it up all the time) and he wants to remain in the marriage then go for it.

Answer 10

Once the barriers of trust have been broken down, it's very difficult to rebuild. Especially in regard to infidelity. That's the biggest deception that one person could do to another. Perhaps it's repairable, but it often takes a very long time, if ever.

Answer 11

Yes I think they can if the person allows the other to have their emotional hurt and earn back their trust. People, we're imperfect and we make mistakes, sometimes small sometime large. When a major mistake is made by either party it tells both that the marriage needs more TLC than it is getting.