in other words....what does......mean?

Question

i've heard this saying that says "little girls marry their fathers". As i see it, it means that if the father is always hitting or abusing the mother, then she will also be in an abusive relationship. or vice-versa. but what does it really mean???

Answer 1

Girls look up to their fathers and it is called an electra complex. Men focus on their mothers and its called an Oedipal complex. If your dad was a good guy you will look for many of the same qualities he had. If he was abusive, you will not consciously look for those qualities, but chances are you will end up with something similar somewhere along the line. Guys some times end up marrying their "mothers".

Answer 2

That is essentially what it means. Little girls do tend to marry men like their fathers. Some men are actually nice and do not hit their wives but then there are others who can't behave themselves and hurt the mother of their children. A little girl does have the option, however, of growing up and choosing a man unlike her father. One can only hope a little girl in an abusive household would have enough sense to realize she doesn't need to be abused to feel loved.

Answer 3

unfortunately when kids see abuse they see this as the norm. when a girl sees her mom getting abused she thinks that this is how a man treats a woman. she never sees a loving relationship so she doesn't know that it exists. and when she starts dating she tends to gravitate towards the abusive types.

Answer 4

Ya, unfortunately you got the right idea. My father wasn't even around and I ended up getting with a guy just like him. Hasn't seen his 'daughter' since she was born and never paid for anything.

Answer 5

women frame their perception of men based on what they saw with their dads...what they saw as a 'normal relationship' between their parents..etc.

My parents never ever argued so I grew up thinking if you had the slightest argument the relationship was doomed. I was wrong but thats what I thought....

Answer 6

that does happen sometimes, and sometimes the girl finds qualities in her husband her father had[good] or qualities she feels her father was missing, or that he treats her in a way her father should have treated her, it can mean many things

Answer 7

Your take on it is correct. If they have a good dad, more than likely they will marry a good man, if not, well, then not so much.