Marriage & Divorce - 4 December 2007

hi ladies

i am meeting up with this girl in two days and she texted me back saying this:

'im really sorry mate but i have so many things to do, so there is a chance we might have to cancel. but for plans what would be great is cafe aldons at 2pm?'

she called me mate? lol...what is that about? ladies is she letting me know that i am nothing but a friend? or is she treating me like a friend first and waiting to see if im a potential partner? i thought i picked up some flirting signals from her! ladies? what do you think!? date or not? thx

2007-12-04 23:23:02 · 14 answers · asked by lololololo 1

any suggestions for him and me

2007-12-04 23:12:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Omg I dont know what to do. My mother in law is married to a sexual predator and she lives with us. I just found out what he was in jail for how to i get him out of my house, my mom has no where else to go. and to boot he is not even registered with this county should i report him?

2007-12-04 22:35:02 · 27 answers · asked by babygirl 2

Query regarding a friend it is not me.

2007-12-04 22:26:45 · 4 answers · asked by crumblecustard 2

We've been together for nearly 3 years. We have opposite bedrooms because he claims I'm to restless when I sleep. Now the sex thing has became less and less, he claims its because of his new workout routine that leaves him to exhausted and it affects him. I pay all the bills and then he'll write me a check for 1/2. But the past 3 months he will usually give his portion 2 weeks or more after the fact. I've discussed this with him to no avail. I'm quite miserable at this point, and frankly I'm not comfortable in this situation. Any input would be appreciated.

2007-12-04 22:19:25 · 20 answers · asked by Desert D 1

I work for my ex-husband. We've worked together for 4 years and we've been divorced for 3. Most of the time things sail smoothly but this week we had a huge argument (cause he's a jerk) and he suspended me for 1 day cause I talked back at him. I am going back to work this morning and I am still full of rage cause he won't let me explain myself. I need to learn how to shut up!!!

2007-12-04 22:15:19 · 15 answers · asked by Jane Marple 7

2007-12-04 21:51:11 · 35 answers · asked by babu 3

And WHY?

2007-12-04 21:37:18 · 14 answers · asked by Garry 1

Yuletide is close...and as it is, partners will feel the fist and boot of their 'other half' more than any other time of the year - but I'm always confused when a battered wife will tell us that she cannot leave him on account of her love for him, or that they met whilst at school years ago, and there's no way she could leave him now. What (if any) good does a husband/partner have that makes battered lasses forgive time and time again. Is he good with the bairns,or does he earn decent money and helps to keep their abode sparkly and nice - what is it? Never understood the forgiveness of women who really should have left long ago. Is the misunderstanding of such problems a 'man thing'?
Discuss...

2007-12-04 21:17:40 · 25 answers · asked by nativexile 5

That drinks Merlot (750 ml) starting at 2 p.m..... & then has a bottle of Chianti (750 ml) that same evening & finishes that bottle in a couple of hours? My 21 yr. old son doesn't see a problem with that but both my husband & I do. A month ago he was arrested for public intoxication, bit a nurse on the hand at the hospital he was being treated at & hit the paramedic. At that time his blood alcohol level was .21 but he still insist that he wasn't 'that drunk'. A few months back he became enraged at home & bit his dad on the hand almost to the bone! I say that anyone who behaves this way & causes pain on someone (esp. a loved one) should feel such remorse that they would be totally embarrassed & would never drink again. I believe that someone who chooses to continue to drink especially when their previous legal charges are still looming that this person has a very bad drinking problem. Would you call this person an alcoholic? Is there free help for him due to no insurance? Thanks!

2007-12-04 21:09:38 · 18 answers · asked by joie 6

been with bf for almost 3 years. been up and down due to me having pmdd that i struggle with (seeing a counselor and take meds). i also have 3 kids that i care for part-time. i'm 28 and he's 29-no kids,never married.

we've discussed living together-marriage and said one way or the other things had to be figured out by this Feb when my apt lease is up. so far, plan is for me to move in with him (my cat and over half my stuff is at his house now)

got into a little tiff today mostly due to me being a little moody and tired. things seemed ok when we left for work but he won't email or call me back.

a friend of his back home in IL emails him from time to time and emailed him to see how things were w/his life and w/me.

he emailed back not saying anything about me so the friend asked again. he emailed the friend back saying he didnt mention me the first time b/c things are the same-one week good, the next bad. more below and important-please read!!

2007-12-04 20:00:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

First I married her is because we have been together for quite some time and I always thought that my feeling will grow for her as time go(I did try). From my past relation experience I thought to be love is better to love someone, now we are married with a 2 years old daughter, what I can do to have a good separation and stay as a friend to look after our daughter. I may not be a good husband but I’m a good father for sure, I don’t wish my daughter get hurt and will hate me as I know her mum will tell her bad thing about me. Please advise me?????

I will still pay for all the family expenses
And giving her my share of a property we brought

2007-12-04 19:56:19 · 5 answers · asked by wil$on 1

Because in the USA you have a high use of cars and also a high divorce rate. Unlike in UK and Europe where we do not need cars and we get divorced less, much less. We have got public transport, so no arguments about who drives, (hey, it's the bus driver or train driver), no arguments about who is in charge (hey, it's the Danish captain of the ship), no arguments about child seats (kids travel free) no arguments about child support (free daycare paid for with the tax on automobile fuel and parking charges). SURELY the automobile (and the love of too much individual consumption and the SELF over society) is to BLAME for all, or most, of the social problems in the USA today !

2007-12-04 19:44:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

These last couple of months couldn't get worse, I hope! My husband is deployed, and won't be home until July, and today I found out my grandma probably won't make it until the weekend? Anyone else having a hard time too?

2007-12-04 19:35:41 · 8 answers · asked by ~Katie~ 5

We have been together for a long time. I want him to be real and straight forward. I am in to tattoos and having fun when I am not being mom. He used to be into surfing and clubbing but now its just work and kids and I give him all the nookie he wants. I feel like he has lost his drive for life and it drives me crazy. I want him to be more confident of himself. Right now I have little respect for him because he is just surviving not living. what can I do to revive him or should I just leave?

2007-12-04 19:30:31 · 5 answers · asked by fabulosity 2

a guy meets his ex girl friend after an year of his marriage to someone else. they both had fight as he stopped talking to her and she asked him why he stopped talking to her..he explained that his wife may not like him to be in touch with ex..and he told her that its better that she not discuss the issues abt her past because she is aware of the issues that can come up..and he said he is afraid that he may want to have sex with her.

was he emotionally attached to his ex , does he love her or the wife.

he married the other lady because of parents pressure . it was arranged marriage while his ex was his best friends for few years. they did not have sex ever..

thank you.

2007-12-04 19:19:50 · 6 answers · asked by dsnmstis 1

been with bf for almost 3 years. been up and down due to me having pmdd that i struggle with (seeing a counselor and take meds). i also have 3 kids that i care for part-time. i'm 28 and he's 29-no kids,never married.

we've discussed living together-marriage and said one way or the other things had to be figured out by this Feb when my apt lease is up. so far, plan is for me to move in with him (my cat and over half my stuff is at his house now)

got into a little tiff today mostly due to me being a little moody and tired. things seemed ok when we left for work but he won't email or call me back.

a friend of his back home in IL emails him from time to time and emailed him to see how things were w/his life and w/me.

he emailed back not saying anything about me so the friend asked again. he emailed the friend back saying he didnt mention me the first time b/c things are the same-one week good, the next bad. more below and important-please read!!

2007-12-04 19:06:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live with the father of my son. We are not married. I have several times found in the history section of the computer that he has looked at pictures (soft porn) of very young girls-not nudes. His explanation the first time (nn lolita, child models) was that he missed his daughter (3yrs). His explanation the second time (nn lolita, nn child models) was that he didn't know it was porn. The third--he just got very defensive and I started to make my leaving plans. And recently, I found he had visited a couple sites and actually went into one. It was a 'preteen' site of 6-10 yr old girls in thongs. Apparently he didn't even have to do a google search.

To view child porn soft or hard is not a criminal offence unless pictures are downloaded to a computer, or it is distributed or traded online. And report him? As what? To who?

I want my son to have a family, but I do not want this man around my family (sisters, nieces). Is he really a pedophile if he just looks at pictures?

2007-12-04 18:56:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 6 years and we've bickered and argued from the beginning. mostly little things, and usually my fault (he makes me feel like it is).

When we argue, and my husband gets mad, he'll stay mad for days and will ignore me completely. I try to say sorry/hug him, etc, and he'll not even look at me. He just ignores me and says nothing.

I feel he's unfair by not addressing and talking about the problem. I'm always the first to say sorry even if I'm the one who got mad in the first place. I cant stay mad for too long.

2 weeks ago we got into a fight (definitely his fault) and I was mad and tried to ignore him (to make him see what it feels like). HE ended up ignoring me BACK and I ended up trying to apologize for it. Again.

I'm fed up of his immaturity. What do you think? Is it ok for a grown up to act this way? How should I address him when he's ignoring me? I feel like my self respect dies a little each time i try to make things better, but he seems to enjoy it

2007-12-04 18:46:57 · 13 answers · asked by WonderingWhy 3

Would you say that the best time of your life was when you were a young woman, having fun and living your life for yourself

OR

when you had children and were a 24/7 mother?

2007-12-04 18:39:24 · 7 answers · asked by eMteMind 4

before you realized you should quit going after "bad boys" ?

Also, about how old were you when you figured out it would be a good idea to start appreciating guys that know how to treat you right?

P.S. (got dumped a few months ago by a girl for some rich investment banker who treated her like $hit, now she wants me back... can't decide what to do)

2007-12-04 18:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i had a very good husband and family and lost them over a affair. i had never had or even been in one but it happened and once he found out he divorced me which i couldnt blame himhe was good to me . i took him for granted . and now i found out how silly i was . over it. i am goig to try but i dont see how after all it was me who ruined our lif. marrage. and children to . 4. years is a long time to see what you have lost till it.s gone he has been seeing a woman who is . 10. years younger than him if i cant have him . back i will understand why and how i truley messed up .

2007-12-04 18:13:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm still single, but I find it interesting that many of my friends/family are in relationships which one person (usually the man) "loves the other more." Unfortunately I see lots of problems, arguments which end in unhappy unions or divorce.

But I've seen couples - not many - which both the man and woman are totally infatuated with each other, hardly have problems, etc... even 40 yrs after being married.

Many of you may disagree with me, but do you believe most couples out there "settle" once they think that's it? Or were you able to find the love of your life? (and if so, how is it now?)

2007-12-04 18:13:08 · 13 answers · asked by two_design_kitties 3

I asked a question yesterday and got shot down. Full details are. My boyfriend from 14 years ago has come back into my life by pure chance. He is now married with two children. I am not a home wrecker and never want to be. However, we have both felt old feelings coming back after such a long time. Neither of us know's what to do, we are both scared about doing any thing for fear of hurting his family. He is not the hurtful type and I know he doesnt' want to be feeling these things. The fact remains that we both are. What do we do? We have to work together, does it mean that one of us has to move to a different job. But at the same time I really value him as a human being and want to spend time with him. HELP. I am really struggling with this, and I can't eat or sleep.

2007-12-04 17:58:39 · 12 answers · asked by crazychick1975 2

Okay I don't give a fu** what anyone says. If you love someone enough to marry them then you will stay with that person no matter what. No matter what. NO MATTER WHAT!

That means no dishonor. No cheating. Let me repeat that.

No cheating.

Yes, that's right. N-o c-h-e-a-t-i-n-g. No cheating. Period

what is so hard about that. You're married. Why would you want to cheat?

When I get married, I will never cheat. Because I would rather DIE than break my woman's heart.

HONOR!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-04 17:58:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I support gay marriage only if the two chicks are hot, period.

2007-12-04 17:44:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not meaning to offend, pls.
I just think that indians are very good looking, what are your thoughts?

2007-12-04 17:38:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

if you don't know what it is, this is the definition of it:

a form of marriage where a person has more than one spouse at the same time.

are you for it or against it? why?

2007-12-04 17:36:13 · 19 answers · asked by alb_spec 2

This question is especially for women, but I will ask the men too. My husband and I eat out often. We usually sit in a booth and if we sit on the same side of the booth, he will make me sit in the inside and he'll sit on the outside. He's the same way with a table. He has to be on the left side, in the left chair, at all times. He feels that it's gay for the man to be on the inside.

What's up with that?

2007-12-04 17:21:42 · 10 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

As Christmas approaches I am getting more festive and definitely feeling very naughty. I have several ideas to make sure i miss Santa's list. How about you?

2007-12-04 17:16:05 · 8 answers · asked by sarah l 2