been with bf for almost 3 years. been up and down due to me having pmdd that i struggle with (seeing a counselor and take meds). i also have 3 kids that i care for part-time. i'm 28 and he's 29-no kids,never married.
we've discussed living together-marriage and said one way or the other things had to be figured out by this Feb when my apt lease is up. so far, plan is for me to move in with him (my cat and over half my stuff is at his house now)
got into a little tiff today mostly due to me being a little moody and tired. things seemed ok when we left for work but he won't email or call me back.
a friend of his back home in IL emails him from time to time and emailed him to see how things were w/his life and w/me.
he emailed back not saying anything about me so the friend asked again. he emailed the friend back saying he didnt mention me the first time b/c things are the same-one week good, the next bad. more below and important-please read!!
2007-12-04 20:00:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he then wrote that his view on things changes from day to day!!! i want to die-i had to leave my desk at work b/c i started crying!! how should i take that?!!
thank goodness the friend did right back saying that good and bad days are part of any relationship and that if the days were all good-the relationship wouldn't be real. he hasn't checked that email yet so i don't know what his take on it will be.
what should i do?!! i'm angry and hurt
2007-12-04 20:00:40 · update #1
you got into an argument..my view changes from day to day about my life and marriage it doesn't mean that i'm hiding things from my husband..or that i'm going to leave my husband and our life..it's called free will..if your boyfriend is having a bad week he can have doubts about his life...the man has been with you for 3 yrs dealing with your issues..give him a break instead of pushing him away because of your insecurities...it's ok to feel hurt but when you start making a huge deal out of nothing you need to go back in and talk to your doctor about it...
2007-12-04 23:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Infantry Wife ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why your angry and hurt.. he is being really good about it. You said yourself that is was your fault u had a tiff in the morning, he sounds really patient, he was just honest with his friend and he didn't try and bad-mouth you to his friend. His mate is a bit naughty for telling you wat he said though, he is a bit disloyal. You shouldn't pry either you should trust him and speak with him yourself when you next see him. Give him time to think. You should feel lucky that you have him that he is prepared to take on you and your 3 kids he sounds like a great guy! He must really love you! Guys like that are hard to find!!
2007-12-04 20:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already answered! You have the issue, he is trying to deal with it, so get over it and apologize or move on. But the PMDD follows you wherever you go. And don't read his email! Invasion of privacy will not go well with most people you meet.
2007-12-04 20:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is trying to hind something from the both of you because he know's that his friend will email you and let you know so he won't tell either of you. I think that you should find out what is going on and then after that, decide from there.
2007-12-04 21:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by imtheonenobodylikes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋