Marriage & Divorce - 4 December 2007

with the divorce rate so high and the attitude well i can just get a divorce do you think that there should be requirements to get married? what do you think they should be? if you are married how long and is it your 1st or your 50th lol.

2007-12-04 12:33:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you rather be in a relationship with someone that was strictly sexual with no love involved, neither he/she will fall in love with you or you with him/her for the rest of your life, or would you rather be in a relationship with someone you loved and who loved you, but there was no sex at all for the rest of your life?
Which dynamic is more important to you, love or sex and why?

2007-12-04 12:22:35 · 53 answers · asked by Vanity Affaire 7

I know that having kids is a natural progression of a relationship after marriage, my question is this, do you think children put a strain on your primary relationship causing most to fail? Would your relationship be better and stronger without children, so you could have more time as a couple? Dose anyone regret having children period, and wishes they would have remained child free?

Is it selfish not to want to share your spouse/significant other, and want all of their attention and affection? If you were to leave your marriage for some unforeseen reason, would you even consider having more children with another woman or date a woman who has small children?

I love my kids but I sometimes feel selfish and want undivided attention and affection, you know, my wife back all to myself, me and her against the world. Am I wrong to feel that way sometimes and do any other people feel this way?

2007-12-04 12:22:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-04 12:18:27 · 5 answers · asked by probob 1

2007-12-04 12:13:21 · 13 answers · asked by ragspn 1

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but something I've noticed a lot on here is that folks in the marriage and divorce section (which is probably indicative of people in general) tend to look upon those who are in dating relationships but unmarried as not in 'real' relationships. Case in point: I read a question by a woman who had been with her SO for six years - longer than a lot of folks who are married - he cheated on her, she was devastated, and the advice she got here was just to 'forget about him, find another one' - that would not be said to a married person.

Another thing - do you think that unmarried cheating is as bad as married cheating? Isn't a committed relationship a committed relationship?

Many married people also think that being unmarried denotes immaturity or being young - not so. Many people have various reasons for not being married, and most are not those. Many people choose to remain together, but unmarried, as well.

Questions? Comments? Agree? Disagree?

2007-12-04 12:09:40 · 13 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5

2007-12-04 12:01:15 · 26 answers · asked by Beth R 1

I'm earning $50K a year but we never have any money in the bank, I stress about it all year and her response is always "don't worry about it, we have enough"

but we never have enough, and we end up having to get a credit card or a loan which is maxed out or spent straight away

she keeps buying me sh*t I don't need and now it's christmas and we have no money and she's depressed because I said she only needs to give me a 2nd hand book for christmas and i'll be fine.

I don't know what to do, no matter what I say she can't save a single cent.

sometimes I like going to the pub for a drink after a long week at work but I haven't been able to do that in months, Is it too much to ask for $20 for myself from time to time???

the question is kind of everywhere.... sorry :(

2007-12-04 11:56:32 · 33 answers · asked by TedRoy 5

So, my boyfriend of about two months mentioned moving in together after Christmas. I don't know if I want to though, I mean we will be together for three months then but still I come from a family where moving in before you are married or at least engaged isn't very good. I don't know, I love him, it's just I don't think I am ready to move in with him this fast, what do yall think? Do you think it's such a good idea?? Thanks a bunch.

2007-12-04 11:49:04 · 20 answers · asked by arielb 1

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2007-12-04 11:48:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't have anymore family other than my mother and I really dont have an option.....The problem is my mother will not sign my housing contract for college. I have a 3.7GPA and really good grades. But she doesnt want to help. She thinks all i wanti to do is go away and party. I have never been to a real party since I have been a teen. LOl....i wouldnt even know how to act if I went to a party...... She wont even let me reason anything out for myself....she's controlling my life....We have problems....i know....But her keeping me from attending college is sad. If i cant go to the college of my choice I'm signing up for the Army or Air Force when i turn 18. I really want to do something with my life.

2007-12-04 11:47:36 · 2 answers · asked by deebee 2

me and my husband are fighting constantly. even though i asked just yesterday if we should have another child i realize that i would not want to bring another child into this situation. i do not feel the same way about my husband as i did when i married him 5 years ago. i also know he doesnt feel the same way about me because he always says, "You are not the woman I married. I do not even know you! It would be better if we were not together!" Of course we never fight in front of the kids. i have a 6 year old daughter from a prevous relationship and a 4 year old son and a set of two year olf twins (boy and girl). i feel bad that they are in the middle and if we did get a divorce we would be hurting them. however i do not feel the same way as i did even 2 years ago. i can't imagine living with him until one of us die! what should i do? i am also stressed from being with the kids all day while he goes to work then goes play golf. I NEED ADVICE! we cant talk anymore because it doesnt work!

2007-12-04 11:43:10 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do women think they can money from a man when they choose to raise a kid on their own? Can they legally change their mind and then want money years later?

2007-12-04 11:37:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my wife met this guy, I guess you can say I wasn’t very appreciative of her. 13 years of marriage you kind of loose sight of what you have. She said they never had sex, and never wanted sex. The way he looked and fussed over her made her keep going back, and it was like a vacation. This last time, they haven’t even talked to each other for months. They started kissing, he tried to have sex with her and she thought she wanted it too until contact. She realized she didn’t want it then pushed him off, started dry heaving, crying, got physically ill. She hurried home, and spilled her guts. She wept while I pack my stuff and begged me to stay. At first I stayed for my kids because they didn’t disserve this. Then I realized that I do love this beautiful woman that chose me in the end. I believe her about everything because I made her swear on our kids (she really loves our kids). Things are good at the moment, our love life has never been better. It’s painful imagining them together.

2007-12-04 11:25:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-04 11:25:44 · 13 answers · asked by DumBlonD 4

Assuming, that there is a sexual attraction between you two... would you be able to completely skip over the dating process and marry a best friend..??

2007-12-04 11:24:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you caught your husband wearing your panties would you divorce him ? or would you take him shopping ?

2007-12-04 11:22:12 · 12 answers · asked by Gina L 3

2007-12-04 11:16:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know many of you out there are upstanding gentlemen and this question is not aimed at you.

I am so frustrated that there is still so much Domestic Violence out there, that I would like HONEST answers, from those who think it is ok to hit, call them ugly horrible names, tell them they are worthless, etc...

What gives you the right to think that once you marry a women, that means you own them, and can treat them anyway you want to, including beating them? I would also like answers from the boyfriends.

I want the man's perspective on this, and no, I won't turn anybody in. I just want to know.

2007-12-04 11:15:34 · 37 answers · asked by CSmom 5

2007-12-04 11:14:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yes,there are some things that I want to do for myself yet my husband says that he suppotrs me yet I can feel his negative vibes . What should I do stay and live my life being unhappy? Should I leave and try and say at least I tried. What ever I do I know that I will suceed. I am 31 years old.

2007-12-04 10:57:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been getting our Sh-- together as far as house ,kids finance, and relationship. She got a cc and got one for me and I ran it up so she cut it up. Well since then she applied for me to get my own, as well as I recieved one she deosn't know about, should include her on this or just keep it to myself ? Or just tell her and let her know this is all ME? Help.

2007-12-04 10:43:21 · 8 answers · asked by maccddus 2

2007-12-04 10:26:38 · 34 answers · asked by Anne 5

i am nearly 23 and my mum is pressurising me to marry i am really scared as i have never had any feelings for a man.
I am 23 in a few months and have decided rather than me suffering in silence i will jump in the canal because atleast i wont suffer no more.
I know i probably sound imature but all i can say is ive suffered alot in my life. My parents split when i was 10, i was eldest out of my siblings and i looked after them as though i was their dad when infact i was their sister.

Dont tell me to runaway and leave home because that brings shame on the family in the asian community.
I just needed someone to listen to me thats why i posted on here.

thanks x

2007-12-04 10:21:53 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

It pains me to hear of people in this situation.

I'm very grateful for your answers, thank you very much :)

2007-12-04 10:16:30 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been dating my girlfriend for little over 2 years. My girl friend is single mom, mother of 2 beautiful girls, 14 and 15. I've work very very hard to built strong relationship and to earn the trust and the love of all 3 girls. My girl and I do not live in the same house, but I come over all the time to help her out with cooking, cleaning, cut the grass, paint the house, put up the finces around the house, do the wash and ironing her clothes. Recently our relationship end, but not our friendship. I still come over to her house to see her and the kids. Now she have a boyfriend and he start coming over and hang out and sitting by the fire place and be close to each other, it is killing me, cause we used to do that. I don't want to be their, but her kids don't want me to leave, they beg for me to stay with them. It is killing me. My girlfriend told me, even tho we don't have the same kind of relationship, she still love and care for me and her kids love me. Please help, need advice.

2007-12-04 10:15:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lol He's a great person and he's tall and I have no idea what to get him

2007-12-04 10:15:15 · 34 answers · asked by confused 2

My husband has been out of work for 5 months now. We have been living on my student loan money. He has no education, and there are limited jobs available in our area that he can do. Our family business closed after 9 years, and he is reluctant to do anything else. I told him to go to driving school and get a higher paying job/career going to help support our family ( 2 toddlers). It's like he doesn't care. In may I will have a two year degree in education. Should I leave him, or give him more time?

2007-12-04 10:13:16 · 25 answers · asked by noggle4 2

...um, "lacking" a little down there? I'm married and I think She might be a little unsatisfied...

2007-12-04 10:12:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Situation: I'm 27M, married for 2 yrs, together for 9yrs. She is grad school. Has no time for me. I have a high sex drive, she has 0. im lucky if i get it once a month. I want to do foreplay and oral and she hate oral and foreplay flat out, only missionary. Anyway thats not the main problem. Her school take up 98% of her time so i get no attention.She has 4 more years of school I don't want to waste my younger years doing nothing exciting. I know i can do stuff with friends, but i really want to share the events with someone i love. She is not into things like that. I just want someone to spend time with and not boss me around to get **** for her repeatedly. I starting to feel like we are more roommates than husband and wife. I don't have the feeling a husband should for his wife. It upsets me to think these things more cause i don't want to hurt her feelings. I just don't think i love her as a wife anymore, but i am still tore at what choice i should choose. Thank you for your feedac

2007-12-04 10:09:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous