Would you rather be in a relationship with someone that was strictly sexual with no love involved, neither he/she will fall in love with you or you with him/her for the rest of your life, or would you rather be in a relationship with someone you loved and who loved you, but there was no sex at all for the rest of your life?
Which dynamic is more important to you, love or sex and why?
2007-12-04 12:22:35 · 53 answers · asked by Vanity Affaire 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The latter, of course! Sex without love is just that, sex. You can get as much satisfaction masturbating. My wife and i have been married 20 years, and there have been many times we have gone extended times with no sex, due to illness, child birth, business travel, etc. Heck, even if we never made love ever again, we would still be together since we are best friends and "mental lovers" first, and will remain so for the rest of our lives. Don't get me wrong, sex is a dynamic part of any relationship, but it is the relationship that makes for ultimate sex, not the mutual masturbation experienced by those who have no relationship or commitment.
2007-12-04 12:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should be an intimate experience shared between two people who love eachother. If you are in a relationship and you both love eachother very much, the desire to have sex with eachother should be there, if not, you might need to evaluate your love for one another or seek professional help from a counselor. On second hand, sex without love is just that, sex. Anyone can have sex with anyone, but it will never be the same as if it was with someone that you love. As to which is more important....love. There is only one happiness to life and that is to love and be loved. Life without love would be impossible to survive.
2007-12-04 12:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by breakmedown23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have the love. I love sex but it is not all there is to a relationship. There are some days I am just happy to cuddle with my husband and to just be held. When he was in Iraq if he had of come home wounded to where he could not have sex I would still be here with him.
2007-12-04 12:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by rondat1967 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship with someone I loved and loved me, but no sex because I would rather be loved and love, then have kids or sex. Sex, but no love, is nothing. There can't be sex if there isn't love. Without love, nothing is good
2007-12-04 12:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is fleeting and sex is worse. Find someone that you have something in common with and can trust. Trust is more important than *love* or sex any day. Love doesn't equal trust, but you can't beat trust if it comes to mutual affection and holistic positivity toward mutual contentment. If you think it is love, it will change and often manifest in some form of betrayal. Common ground commitment trust is very hard to find, but it is what everyone should be seeking if they wish to stay connected with someone. Anyone.
2007-12-04 13:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by mike_white63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose the latter where love is the foundation of the relationship. Sex is good only for that particular moment, whereas love lasts a long time. There is honesty, trust and respect in love; all those are lacking in sex-only-relationship.
2007-12-04 12:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either one just don't get married. You seem confused so here are some facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. Everyone lies (even to themselves)
3. Life is not fair
4. All men cheat (almost all women cheat)
5. Marriage sucks
Happy Holidays. If you want honest answers to other questions email I haven't lied for the last 3 years.
2007-12-04 14:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd have to choose the love, because although you would never thoroughly be sexually satisfied, what is a life with out love. Wouldn't you rather be with someone you truly care about, rather than being alone for the rest of your life?
2007-12-04 12:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by G T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I thought when i got married it was for LOVE . 8 years later and 2 affairs and a child from one of his girlfriends and think I would have to choose SEX cuz love hurts way 2 much. But that's just my sorry experience and life
2007-12-04 12:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, because the way I feel about love is as long as your with your life partner who adores you. And you adore him. Sex is a beautiful thing between two people. But love is more important.
2007-12-04 12:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋