2007-12-04 12:01:15 · 26 answers · asked by Beth R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmmmm....how about THE COUPLE???? Why on earth would you want your PARENTS to pay for it? You're already living together as though you're married...at this point the stupid ceremony is just a formality.
2007-12-04 12:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since living together before marriage is not traditional, why should the father of the bride do the traditional thing and pay for the wedding?
My Dad was nice enough to give us money towards our wedding after we lived together for 1 year, but it was mostly in an effort to be fair amongst us siblings than anything else.
2007-12-04 20:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the brides father pays for the wedding and the grooms father pays for the dinner and honeymoon. however since you're not a traditional couple. i would say the bride and groom. she buys his ring, he buys he ring, and everything else is split. but don't be surprised if either set of parents want to chip in or even still volunteer to pay.
i payed for the bulk of my first wedding but my parents gave me a little. he didn't pay for crap (thus the divorce LOL)
the second marriage (planing now) we are sharing the expense. and even though i do not expect any $ from my folks, I'm sure they will give something.
2007-12-04 20:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by old bitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The couple should.
You gave up being the "traditional" couple when you moved in together, you know? Not that that's anything wrong, but you've been living together for 3 years and it's not fair to either of your parents to come out of their pockets to pay for something you 2 have basically been doing...living together. You're just making it legal now.
Good luck to you and congratulations!
2007-12-04 20:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Karma Eve 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally its usually the bride's parents. And the groom's folks take care of the rehersal dinner I think. But if you both aren't that close to your parents and have enough money saved up, then you should pay for your own wedding. If you don't have much money and don't really expect it to be a really lavish wedding then, I say go for something inexpensive, tasteful and memorable at best.
2007-12-04 20:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They do. if the parents want to give part of the wedding as a "GIFT" that is done sometimes; but if you have lived together three years.. you should handle your own business.
2007-12-04 20:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the days are gone where the girls parents are expected to pay for the wedding. I would say you should pay for it yourself and if the parents want to contribute for any of it then that's a bonus but i definitely wouldn't just expect parents to pay for it.
2007-12-04 20:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally the brides family pays for the wedding and the grooms family pay for the rehearsal dinner. My husband and I lived together before we got married and that's the way it went for us. However we didn't want to overload our families so we paid for somethings too!
2007-12-04 20:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First Marriage?
Usually the brides parents help out still if you have not been married before and also the grooms puts in a little too.
But as you get older you and your soon to be will be more responsible for most of it.
2007-12-04 20:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are living together and want a wedding and gifts, and you want others, such as parents to pay for it. I think your are in category of greedy.
2007-12-04 20:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋