Marriage & Divorce - 4 December 2007

2007-12-04 07:52:22 · 20 answers · asked by luvgiraffes 1

Is it bad that I am always with my boyfriend.. does he need his space? Its really hard for me to just back off, but we are always fighting and hes always complaining that he never sees his friends.. I want him to want to see me just as much as he wants to see them.. so what should I do?

2007-12-04 07:47:52 · 32 answers · asked by curious 1

my wife and i slept with another woman together now she wants to be best friends with her and i dont think it is a good idea of course we have had some problems after with her getting jealous i cant even talk to the other woman now because my wife thinks im going to cheat on her any advice please i have had to piss her off so she wont even try talking to me to try to save our marriage

2007-12-04 07:43:03 · 36 answers · asked by crazyman6677 1

So i met the greatest guy in the world, he treasts me and gives me everything a girl could want. I like him alot but i still think about my ex. We broke up 3 months ago and when i see him around i still get butterflies in my stomach. I still care for him but there is no use, I wan't to move on, really bad!! My ex and I will never be so why do i still think about him. Why can't i settle for the guy i met?

2007-12-04 07:40:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Fiance and I are struggling for money and we really need to get our credit scores up. So how can we do this with very little money. We have debt that we are TRYING to pay off but it just seems like something new keeps coming up that costs us money. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Our lease is up in March also and we don't know if we should renew the lease (which the price will go up and we're not sure if we can afford it) or should we move to another apartment in another county where the rent is cheaper. If we move then we both would have to find new jobs. It's so hectic, please help.

2007-12-04 07:38:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We had a healthy romantic relationship but we were sexually incompatible. I wanted it a lot more than she did and to be honest I am a lot kinkier than she was willing to play along with. So it didn't work out but we remained friends. She's bisexual and she ended up meeting this great guy and marrying him.

I have a bad habit of spoiling my girlfriends with physical affection and romantic intamacy. As time gone by I notice she's leaning on me more and more for her emotional needs. I told her this is equivalant to having an emotional affair but she says we are just friends. She's deathly scared of losing me so anytime I bring the subject up she totally flips out and warns me that she'll be really hurt. I tell her she has to trust her husband and depend on him more but she says he's just not that kind of guy. I am at my wits end? Should I just end my friendship? I am scared it will hurt her relationship even more.

2007-12-04 07:36:48 · 9 answers · asked by Nikky 2

Ok I have 4 kids and going am getting a divrouce its my decision. My husband makes about 3800 month. I am trying to keep this out of the courts and we are being sibile. He has agreed on taking the kids everyother weekend. I do not work but am looking for work now. I just want what's fair I do not want to take everything from him. But even now he has not made the morgage like he said he would do. What do I do?? I'm scared that I will get kicked out of this house. HE keeps lying to me. After agreeing to pay the morgage that's all I asked from him right now.

2007-12-04 07:35:55 · 15 answers · asked by ஐ♥Bethஐ♥ 5

My bf and i have been dating for a year and a half now. We started dating my senior year of highschool (well the second half) We're both 18 and both of our parent taught us well. I promise we aren't two stupid teens lol. But the other day he was taking to me about christmas presents and showed me a pcture of a ring. EEK! when i read the add it said wedding ring! So that was pretty much his way of asking me to marry him. I made sure that i wasn't just assuming.Though I didn't turn him down, i didnt say yes either. He even showed both our parents before showing me. They didn't really think of it as a huge thing, just a ring, and it would be a nice gift. My mom even suggested getting matching rings and then when we get married that we should get something engraved. My question is though i am planning to wait quite some time before such a huge commitment, how young is TOO young to get married? I dont want to say yes and spring for a chapel asap, but i dont want to wait 20 more yrs either.

2007-12-04 07:30:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister in law has been living with and dating a guy for 5 years now. She has a child from another marriage and one with this guy. He is an alcoholic. For the past 5 years his drinking has steadily increased, also causing my sister in law to drink more than she should be. Over the past year things have really gone down hill. It reminds me of my life growing up. My step dad was a drunk too. Her bf has not been going to work, drinking more, becoming verbally abusive towards her and although she says it hasnt happened, I have heard of even some physical violence between them. Her oldest child is scared of her boyfriend. He has a lot of emotional problems, and behavior issues. I know the things that alcoholics do to maniuplate the ones they are with. The promising a change, the things will get better saying.. all of that. What i want is some true stories, if you are willing to share, some stories of how and why you finally had to leave the situation so I can show her some truths.

2007-12-04 07:28:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Who loves their husband like I love mine?

It is intense and consistent. I feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

Anyone else???

2007-12-04 07:26:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife denies having an affair. All her friends are male and she never has time to talk to me due to working or being "BUSY" yet she has her cell phone glued to her ear all day. Last month alone she racked up 60 calls to 1 person for a total of 99 hours. I know it is wrong to snoop but if it walks like a duck & talks like a duck it must be a duck.
I found email that were of the phone sex nature which she claims were just innocent fun. I found an unopened box of condoms in her drawer that she was "keeping for a friend"who left it in her car. We have not had sex in months & are basically room mates.
I know the answer to my question but just wanted some verification to see if I am paranoid or correct.

And yes I can b serious about this 1

2007-12-04 07:26:27 · 22 answers · asked by U can't b serious 4

My husband expects me to just let him have intercourse when he is ready. No kissing, no foreplay nothing. It wasn't always like this. We used to have a great sex life, but for the last year or so, it's been like this and I feel completely used. What do you think? He says he likes it that way.

2007-12-04 07:24:58 · 24 answers · asked by swoman 1

I have been with my fiancée for 5 years. We have a very good relationship. He has always had good manners and good morals. He has never given me reason NOT to trust him.
We have never had any relationship issues at all until this year. Last January, I was feeling uneasy and could not shake a very strange feeling. After some searching, I found out he had a profile on a dating site before we got together. Every now and then, he was getting emails titled " new matches"-he never bothered to delete the profile. One day, "bored at home" he opened one of the emails with the so called "matches". He retrieved his password and wrote to one of them. Now, this girl was a fair bit younger, very attractive and listed as a "car model". She had a pictures which in my opinion were almost "too good". The message wasn't sexual, but flirty and hurt alot. I confronted him and after denying it, he confessed.He allowed me to look through anything i wanted to prove it was just a moment of stupidity. Since then we have bought a house and got engaged. I thought i was okay, but as the day is getting close (5 months) I find myself still worried. He is very excited and is looking forward to the wedding. I on the other had go through phases where i am upset and worried all over again. I am unsure if it is just insecurities kicking in, cold feet or something else? I am quite intuitive and am often sure of my feelings... but this has me messed up! Another point to mention is that during this time, my father because terminally ill with cancer and passed away recently (my fiancée by the way was with me the entire time and really was a huge help to me and my family). Could this have something to do with the way i am feeling? For whatever reason, i am having a really hard time believing that people can be truly sorry for their actions and NOT repeat their mistakes. Is this just silly? Is this a red light that i have trust issues in general.. or am i onto something?

2007-12-04 07:19:16 · 15 answers · asked by Spring 1

While I was still with my now ex we spoke about exes and we both had the same opinion about not keeping in touch with an ex when you are in a relationship unless there are ties (kids). Now I broke up with him because I was going thru life changes. the main was work. I was devasted and felt that I had to find a job so I wdnt depend on anyone. I was upst and tld him straight away how I was feeling and that I didnt want to be a burden. we did not contact each other for 6 weeks. Then I did. For 3 mths we would contact each other for a gen talk in the hope of makng it work. I eventually broke it out and told him I am settled in a new job and I still have feelings for him &that Id like to get 2gther for a coffee. He calld me and we spke about general stuff for about 10 mins then he told me he has a gf now and how gr8 his life is bla bla bla. I was devsted but had to control my emotions so i showed no emotion and just said ok. He thght I knew he was with somethru a friend. ididnt.

2007-12-04 07:15:39 · 15 answers · asked by zora 1

Ok. So my Fiance got married in a foreign country a year ago, almost. WE were in an big fight at that point, and were not together. This was NOT a planned wedding between them. They are long time friends, and were NOT thinking. They went in front of a judge and did this secretly. And, I dont know why my fiance did this, as he knows he will not be going back to this country for a long, long, long time! Anyways, we have a baby together, and are now trying to work things out, and Im TRYING to forgive him for what he has done. Its not easy. Anyways, this girl he got together with, is a total nightmare! We are ion the process of filing this divorce, but they have not talked in at least 6 months now, and I see her page on friendster.com, so I know she is still around. But I think she is still pineing for MY man. So, I want to know, should I email her and tell her off (again) and tell her that we have gotten a lawyer and are filing this divorce? Becasue she is really pissing me off.

2007-12-04 07:13:39 · 28 answers · asked by BKR 3

2007-12-04 07:11:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

ATTENTION ATTORNEYS OR PARALEGALS OR EXPERIENCED PEOPLE Ok.. I may seem a bit mean HOWEVER I dont care at this point. My husband and I have been chasing down his ex-wife for the past two years to get to see his daughter and his ex-wife just makes it more complicated.. We are trying to figure out ways to keep her butt in court and make her life more difficult in anyway. Just to give an example.. SHE NEVER FOLLOWS THE COURT ORDER - HOWEVER We are stuck paying and paying and paying her. She simply does everything she can to make everything difficult.. Has anyone been through this and has any suggestions on how to LEGALLY make her life difficult.. And by legally I mean being able to really nail her to the wall with out breaking the law..

2007-12-04 07:09:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-04 07:05:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife has had a history of depression and is insecure. We are getting marital counseling and she is currently on meds. Every now and then, she presents me with this scenario: "what if a women comes up to you at work and hits on you, would you tell me?" and my response is always, "of course I would tell you, but that would never happen my love". Now if this were to ever happen, why should I tell her? It's just going to drive a wedge between us. Now I am worried that if my manager decides to hire a female, I will have to keep reassuring my wife that no one compares to her. I would never do anything to hurt my wife and I want to make things work.

I need additional advice other than "get counseling" or "bring it up to your therapist". Please don't say "divorce" either because I am a good man with values. I just don't want our marriage to be torn apart for something trivial.

2007-12-04 06:42:07 · 89 answers · asked by Dr S 4

So my husband and I have been married now for 5years. When I met him he did not have a relationship with his mom I asked him to forgive her and get close with her again. We were married before I even knew her at a very small ceremony with a couple of friends there no parents. His mom holds this against me I mean we were married before I even met her. She says what kind of woman would marry a man without his mom there even though I didn't know her at all she carried hard feelings against me. So I just planned a huge wedding and renewed my vows to make her happy. But in all of our pictures she seems not to be smiling. We have a wonderful relationship and a beautiful daughter. She's always concerned with what people think about her not being at our first wedding. Even though all of his friends new about he and his mom's relationship. I'm just so ready to tell her I don't care anymore I don't want your acceptance and move on. What should I do?

2007-12-04 06:41:51 · 20 answers · asked by Debbie 3

My boyfriend and I have been together close to a year. We are very happy together and decided last night that once we get through some things that are coming up, we are going to get married. I'm thinking maybe 6 months. I don't have a ring because the conversation just happened, it wasn't planned, and he asked me if I would marry him. Of course, I said yes. Most of my family has met him and likes him, but I don't know how to tell my parents. I don't think they realize that our relationship is as serious as it is. Any tips???

2007-12-04 06:36:28 · 28 answers · asked by sweetie_cakes 2

My ex--boyfriend left me for another girl 2 months, he didn't even tell me he dumped me. I had to find out through a close source of mine. He wanted to come back. I let him come back and now he everyday we get into an argument he says I act different he swears me up and down I talk to other men. This is reall getting on my nerves. He says he is trying to make up for what he did. Why can't he trust me he cheated? can someonme help me I am really thinking about breaking up with him? How can I break up with him without feeling guilty?

2007-12-04 06:36:11 · 19 answers · asked by Princess 2

a guy meets his ex girl friend after an year of his marriage to someone else. they both had fight as he stopped talking to her and she asked him why he stopped talking to her..he explained that his wife may not like him to be in touch with ex..and he told her that its better that she not discuss the issues abt her past because she is aware of the issues that can come up..and he said he is afraid that he may want to have sex with her.

was he emotionally attached to his ex , does he love her or the wife.

he married the other lady because of parents pressure . it was arranged marriage while his ex was his best friends for few years. they did not have sex ever..

thank you.

2007-12-04 06:30:18 · 5 answers · asked by dsnmstis 1

If you get married to a peron but your family is not ready to accept them at any cost, who would u choose out of the two ? You know your partner for just a year but your family for ever. And is it true that an indian parents will find a better life partner for u than u cud find for urself ?

2007-12-04 06:26:34 · 26 answers · asked by HiddenSurvival 2

I certainly couldn't!

2007-12-04 06:20:42 · 44 answers · asked by Ahwell 7

You know what they say ... no man can be trusted. They all have perverted minds and desire young girls.

Women, would you honestly leave your husband alone with your own daughter?

2007-12-04 06:11:38 · 61 answers · asked by Ruby Girl 2

i was in a 2 yr relationship with a woman who liked to hit!..sure i have a big mouth but i don't believe hitting is justified if i happen to say something that sets her off...i am a rather big person and retaliating in my opinion is not only illegal but morally wrong!!...i don't see the point hitting her back,plus i hate when she does this in front of the kids...am i wrong for leaving her???..this is like,the 5th time she's done this and i try to hang in there for the kids,but i've had enough!!am i wrong to get a lawyer and fight for custody of the kids??...

2007-12-04 06:09:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

and the worst part was, i cheated on him and left him to marry my husband.. we were arguing at the time i met my now-husband now but we were able to patch things up afterwards... my husband had no idea i was engaged and very much still in a relationship with my ex (i told him i have broken up with my ex already) so he courted me and we fell in love and had sex... i was a virgin that time.. we went out on vacation for 1 week and told my ex to not call me or send me text for a week cuz i will be traveling to faraway town and there will be no signal.. so the day my vacation has ended with my now -husband or exactly a week after, my ex called me and told me how much he misses me but then i knew i had to break it up with him that day cuz i feel so horrible cheating and lying on him much longer and i knew deep inside me that i love the new guy much more than i did love my ex.. he was miserable and kept asking me back, I also never told him i got married a month after I dumped him, should I?

2007-12-04 06:04:19 · 17 answers · asked by M 1

My husband is 59 years old. We have been married for 28 years. Over this period of time I have noticed that he seems to have a special affection for one of my niece's. She just turned 50 in November. Whenever a special occasion come up when all family is gathered or if we should happen to go into the store where she works he seems to be a bit on edge. At one time I had suspected that something was or had gone on between them. I have mentioned it to him on several occasions. This last weekend we attended a family gathering. At the end of the evening when she and her husband were leaving she came over to give me a hug as usual, when she went to hug him, it appeared to be more than just a casual hug. It was very noticable. I warned him tha the next time it happened that I would make it known to her and her husband plus he would regret that it happened. Question: What should I do about this problem.

2007-12-04 06:01:44 · 15 answers · asked by Marny 1

please comment. In my experience, yes.

2007-12-04 06:00:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous