Divorce how much should I ask for?

Question

Ok I have 4 kids and going am getting a divrouce its my decision. My husband makes about 3800 month. I am trying to keep this out of the courts and we are being sibile. He has agreed on taking the kids everyother weekend. I do not work but am looking for work now. I just want what's fair I do not want to take everything from him. But even now he has not made the morgage like he said he would do. What do I do?? I'm scared that I will get kicked out of this house. HE keeps lying to me. After agreeing to pay the morgage that's all I asked from him right now.

I would like to know is there a % I can ask from him. Since he does not want to play nice, I'm not going eaither. And he's going to vegas to play golf for the weekend but he can't pay the morgage.

this goes to princess yes they are his kids. HOW DARE YOU, HE DID NOT WANT ME TO WORK. THATS WHY WE HAVE FOUR KIDS. IHAVE NO PROBLEM WORKING. I DID FOR MANY YEARS THIS WAS HIS DECISION FOR ME TO STAY HOME.

Answer 1

If he's not keeping or living in the house then he shouldn't be paying the full mortgage. Get a job and pay your own bills.

All he should be doing is paying half of the children's necessary expenses, if they are in fact his kids (I don't know if they are his because you say "I have 4 kids....." not WE have 4 kids....)

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this goes to princess yes they are his kids. HOW DARE YOU, HE DID NOT WANT ME TO WORK. THATS WHY WE HAVE FOUR KIDS. IHAVE NO PROBLEM WORKING. I DID FOR MANY YEARS THIS WAS HIS DECISION FOR ME TO STAY HOME.

How dare I? I simply asked a question. You are the one who said "I" have 4 kids. It is not unheard of that men marry women that already have kids from other relationships! Once you realize that they are his children too and that you have half of the responsibility in this, you will be much better off.

If you really want to be "sibile" (and by that, I believe you mean CIVIL) then don't ask for more than you are entitled to which is 50%. Get some type of job, any job to pay your half of the mortgage and everything else.

Answer 2

You are very foolish if you try to settle this out of court, particularly since your husband has already shown you what a liar he can be. You don't have to worry about taking "everything" from him. Courts do not take "everything" away from a man-----this is a term that men use because they've had to pay their fair share, which they don't think is fair. There are alot of men out there that don't think they should pay any child support. If you do not get an attorney, your husband could go to the courts and make some false claim that you and him agreed to $5 a month. Then you would have to hire an attorney to get what IS due to you and your children. Get an attorney.

Answer 3

the time to stop messing around is now you need an order from the court for child support and maintance, the maintance will lower or stop when you get a job and sometimes that can be hard with 4 kids, you are not to leave this up to him there is a percentage chart that the courts use to determine these things, dont be stupid and let this just be an agreement between the 2 of you or you are headed for disaster, you already have proof of that, get it in writing and do it in court or you will be in the same situation as with the mortgage and kicked out of the house. most states take it directly out of the paychecks so that it gets paid do not let him pay it himself and without a court order you cannot enforce it period oh and by the way he can be made to pay for your attorney also

Answer 4

Just let the courts handle it. It sounds bad, but in the end, you will have a court order that can be enforced. Also, you can have child support directly deducted from his pay if you have the court order him to pay child support, provided you request and are granted custody of the children.

I don't know that background of things or who is playing fair and who isn't, but if you get into a fight about it now, it will look that much worse when it gets to court, and valuable time could be lost.

Answer 5

I hate to say this but get an attorney for immediate Temporayr Custoday and Unallocated Maintenance - tax deductible to him and you have to pay tax on it as income. The child support and alimony payments will be reviewed/set by a judge at a later date but the UM gets you money in your account now.

You owe your kids a future as does he; and if he can afford to play golf he can afford to keep his kids fed and a roof over their heads.

Not that its mean or anything but I would suggest you don't go back to work just yet, as this may impact your payments from him. Also, your husband, will end up paying the attorneys fees on both sides because he is working... attorneys fees run about $300 per hour so the quicker you and he get it done the less expensive its going to be for everyone

Answer 6

You need to go to family court and have the support taken from his pay they work out the percentage based onyour income and the number of children that you have-it should be enough to cover the mortgage -he is not a very nice person-try to get a lawyer

Answer 7

Honestly wheter your being civil or not to each other you seriously need to go to court about it cause the onyl one who can tell you what % you cna be entitiled to is the court and goign to court dosen't have to be messy if your boht in agreement and besides then it is legal what if one day he decides he's not gonna pay you any more cause it's not on paper then where will you be and he dosen't have to support you just the kids unless your entitled to alimonty and you cannot take over 50% of his net income for the kids. We have one who we pay $302 for. I would seriously urge you to go to family court about it otherwise things won't be techinally leal so to speak plus you hvae to consider medical and dental things like that are easily worked out in family court or thru a child support enforcement. Court dosen't always equal bad we tried the nice thing and then she went to the child support office and filed papers on us and even though we had been paying her we still ended up paying out over $4000 in back child support because it wasn't on paper. Then she was also using medicade when she had access to our medical and almost got my husband throw in jail even though we were doign our part .

I cannot stress enough for you to go thru the courts, also if your living in the house you may be responsiible for the payment or he may have to pay part that is something an attorney can decide you really need to get one asap think of your kids.

Answer 8

You can't do this on your own, the courts will set the guidelines and your ex needs to pay through the court system. This protects you both from any problems down road, everything will be on record so there will be no arguments.

Answer 9

You would be better off going to court or at least attempting a mediation. Here in VA I don't think they even charge for mediation, which would record your agreements in a court with out having to involve lawyers and such...

Answer 10

Under no circumstances should you agree to anything that isn't contractually bound by the courts. Hire a lawyer. You have 4 children to care for and you have to put their needs first.