While I was still with my now ex we spoke about exes and we both had the same opinion about not keeping in touch with an ex when you are in a relationship unless there are ties (kids). Now I broke up with him because I was going thru life changes. the main was work. I was devasted and felt that I had to find a job so I wdnt depend on anyone. I was upst and tld him straight away how I was feeling and that I didnt want to be a burden. we did not contact each other for 6 weeks. Then I did. For 3 mths we would contact each other for a gen talk in the hope of makng it work. I eventually broke it out and told him I am settled in a new job and I still have feelings for him &that Id like to get 2gther for a coffee. He calld me and we spke about general stuff for about 10 mins then he told me he has a gf now and how gr8 his life is bla bla bla. I was devsted but had to control my emotions so i showed no emotion and just said ok. He thght I knew he was with somethru a friend. ididnt.
2007-12-04 07:15:39 · 15 answers · asked by zora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he wants to be friends what do you make out of this?
2007-12-04 07:15:59 · update #1
Id like to comment a aslike75 comment. Selfishness is not the word. I am poor and work to provide for myself. My ex did not have money to support me too, so that upset me. Get me now? Get the facts right.
2007-12-04 07:40:08 · update #2
What does he mean by "friends"? And how badly does he seem to want that? If he truly has a great relationship with his girlfriend, why would he jeopardize that to continue a patched relationship with you?
I think it would be wise for you to move on with your life. You made a mistake, and he's in another relationship now. If it doesn't work out for him, perhaps he will contact you and you can assess the potential of a relationship together at that time. Until then, part on friendly terms, make the most of your life and detach yourself from him. Staying emotionally connected will only make you miserable.
Besides, he cannot make you happy; only you are responsible for that.
2007-12-04 07:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is still your friend! You probably always will be friends, YOU just didn't connect with him as you would have liked. Let him enjoy his new girlfriend and be there for him if he wants to talk. Remember it was always YOU who was breaking it off so don't blame him that he has moved on! He is just doing what comes natural, seeing that there is no chance of commitment from YOU so he has 'got on' with life. Give him a break, stay friends, you never know what might happen in the future.
2007-12-04 07:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Badass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to let go, only because if the GF dont work out, then you will always be 2nd best even if he tells you difrently, You have a job, and i know it will be hard but move on, you sound very smart there is a man out there just for you that will make you #1 on his list. Good luck
2007-12-04 07:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it may hurt but he did the best thing. He had feeling for you to he just didn't want to say so because he was trying to see who would be the better woman (for the time). He told he had a woman....it hurt....bite the bullet and hold you head up and move foward. DO NOT allow this to stop your life. Cry and get it out of your system but keep going.
2007-12-04 07:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remaining as friends would be the mature and good thing to do. We can never have too many friends (as least speaking for myself) and as such you two already know each other so don't have to go through that stage. Hopefully your new mates will be comfortable with this also. My ex wife, her husband, my new wife and I are all good friends. The two ladies actually hug and kiss each other when they see one and other. It is great for the kids and nice to act so adultlike, even at our ages. Best of luck.
2007-12-04 07:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to be able to be friends because you still have feelings for him. Just because hes moved on doesnt mean you have and you cant be friends cause you have not moved on. Hell you watned to make it work. Sorry no friendship out of this one. Dont curse him out or anything but you cant be his friend. Not now anyway maybe one day in the future.
2007-12-04 07:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by pookie_love_623 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need him as a friend. All it will do is hurt you emotionally. Every time you see him and his girl friend together it will hurt you. He may even try to get you in bed again, even if he is with someone else. You will SO OK with out him as a friend. Just tell him your emotions are too raw to deal with him as a friend right now. He should understand that.
2007-12-04 07:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave him up. You can't be mad at him for moving on with his life. The old saying is true "you don't know what you have until it's gone". So you will just have to move on without him. I think that it is too hard to be friends with someone that you care about. So maybe one day when you are over him and don't have feelings for him yall can be friends. But for now I would just keep my distance. Good luck!
2007-12-04 07:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You dumped this poor guy because of your selfish life changes now your devastated because he moved on???????? your the reason guys call females psycho. e you were a good piece, so he'll keep you on the friend level in case his new great one doesn't work out. Get a life and quit being selfish!!!!!!!!
2007-12-04 07:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by alikes756 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll just be in line and as a backup plan if things don't work with his current gf. He is, after all, on the rebound!
Send him and his friendship packing!
2007-12-04 07:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋