Is it bad that I am always with my boyfriend.. does he need his space? Its really hard for me to just back off, but we are always fighting and hes always complaining that he never sees his friends.. I want him to want to see me just as much as he wants to see them.. so what should I do?
2007-12-04 07:47:52 · 32 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie you two aren't joined at the hip....you both need some space to be individuals as well as time together to be a couple....smothering never assures one that their love will always be there and faithful....in fact it's one of the sure fire ways to drive a person away........and to rely on your BF time as yor sole source of socializing...your bad, Toots. You need friend time just as much as he does...how will you continue to grow into/remain a well rounded individual if everything is my BF this and my BF that...gets stale with other very, very fast....
....so both of you sit down and discuss this issue calmly like two adults who respect and care about the feelings of the other....you both need times together and times for friends/family...so work it out, then honor the agreement...and please don't make it a balancing act...three days for me, three days for them...you both need flexibility in this>>>Good Luck
2007-12-04 08:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every year I take One or two long trips away from my spouse. She plays music with a band that I ahve no part in. Having an individual identity and the freedom to enjoy it is critical in a relationship. When either partner loses the ability to enjoy their separate identity they become resentful of the other person. It sounds like you need to explore your own identity and find some activities that you can enjoy without him. Co-dependance is never attractive. How can he miss you if you won't go away? Give him the space, he'll be happy to see you when he gets home!
2007-12-04 07:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by doc h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have always enjoyed each other's company. We've been married for a whole year and had a long distance relationship for a year before we got married. Neither of us have a best friend, but we do hang out with mutual friends and other couples. Maybe it's just the way we are, but we really never want to seek other people's company in order to be away from each other.
It could be that you're too dependent emotionally on him. Maybe you should find something to keep you busy during the time that he's with his friends. Or you could try going with him to do stuff he likes. I know there's guys out there that want to hang with their friends to just 'be guys'. He may just need his space to socialize with other males.
2007-12-04 07:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatecupcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting gets you no where give him his space and you take yours. You'll enjoy each other a lot more. You can actually run someone off that way. but he could lose you too if he finds he would rather be with friends than you. There are guys out there that really like hanging out with their girl. So give him his space see how it goes don't over crowd him. See how long it last pretend you don't care!
2007-12-04 08:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by jw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he is going to want to see you more is by actually spending some time away from you. You can't want something that you already have enough of. If you love him then give him his space. Let him enjoy time with his friends and you will begin to see that your fighting will decrease and the time that you spend together will have a lot more quality than the quantity of time you are used to.
2007-12-04 07:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give him his space. You have to let him miss you and the only way he can do that is if you weren't always around. What are you afraid of? He's not going anywhere if he doesn't want to. If you don't give him the space you both need he will say or do something just to get away from you and that's not good.
2007-12-04 08:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by KSR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both should really make sure to have some independence in your relationship. Distance makes the heart grow fonder remember? Go out with your own friends here and there, and let him do the same. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to see you, it just means that sometimes he wants to hang with his friends. I'm married and sometimes my hubby still goes out with the guys one night and then I go out with the girls another. There's no reason to be tied at the hip to one another. You're his girlfriend, not his mother, so don't go controlling what he wants to do. It's time to let him hang with his friends and have a life other than just you. You'll get more love and respect for him if you do.
2007-12-04 07:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
,In a good relationship, you need to give your mate some space so they can miss your presence. If you are around a the time, your mate never gets the chance to miss you being around. I am sure you have friends as well that you can hang out with. Don't consume your life just around your mate, it may start to feel crowded even when it just the two of you sitting around.
2007-12-04 07:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him until he grows up a little. I agree, it's better when they want to see you as much as they want to see friends, it's harder when you are younger though like late teens and early 20s. At some point the marrying types grow up and would rather have a wife and family than go party with their buddies. The other type stays single (or should).
2007-12-04 07:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fastest way to kill a relationship is to smother it. So if you want to keep it alife and well , back off. He will love you more for trusting him and giving him some room to enjoy the things he does with his friends. Go do some of the things you like to do and he doesn't. Are you that insecure that you can't make it on your own.
2007-12-04 08:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋