So i met the greatest guy in the world, he treasts me and gives me everything a girl could want. I like him alot but i still think about my ex. We broke up 3 months ago and when i see him around i still get butterflies in my stomach. I still care for him but there is no use, I wan't to move on, really bad!! My ex and I will never be so why do i still think about him. Why can't i settle for the guy i met?
2007-12-04 07:40:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I met the new guy i told him that I didnt know what I was looking for but my doors were open, he asked me out on his birthday i told him it was extremely soon for that. He knows about my ex he doesnt know i still care for him. The first month of our brake up, I when out met new poeple and that actually depressed me more because it made me realize I should of stayed with my ex. When I'm alone I start to think of my ex and I want him back but when I'm with the new guy it goes away. My ex and I broke up for something that started silly and ended up really bad, he broke up with me and then later jump into a relationship which broke my heart leaves her and wants me back but i have to much pride.. what he did was just horrible!! I still love him but will never go back to him. The sad part was the he was perfect too we never had bad moments other than this!! But I just can forgive him for jumping into a relationship so fast and blaming me for it.
2007-12-04 08:20:39 · update #1
Sorry one more thing, the only reason i sometimes see my ex is at the gym we have the same gym or when i get my dog to get grommed!! or sometime just around we pumped into each other!! Sometimes we say hello other i dont even look his way.
2007-12-04 08:27:11 · update #2
You answered your own question. You feel like you're settling and not getting the best. Maybe you think so much about your ex because you know it will never be and thats got alot of romance in it. Its easy to love a person from afar when you don't have to put up with their disgusting habits and surly moods etc. Fantasy is always going to seem better than real life. How do you get past it? Stay as far away from your ex as you can.
2007-12-04 07:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u really wanna move on as u have soo many feelings towards your ex...reason being u still love him a lot.....
best thing i suggest u is to try the earlier relation ship one last time....i think it work.....all u need to do is to be honest with yourself...and the guy...discuss as many things as possible..relax..and talk to him...it will do....
even after all the trails if it doesnt work out....u just have to accept the fact that hes not the right guy to u and then u can settle down with the new guy u r talkin about....then it will be easier for u coz uve tried to continue the relationship and coz of his problem u couldnt be with him which mean the blame is completely on him..so ull have no regrets and u can have a wonderful life after that....
what ever it is i wish u a very good luck..!!!!
2007-12-04 08:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rapa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest......you ex didnt nothing wrong in hooking up with another chick. You two were apart! It may of hurt you but he was trying to maybe fill the void you left him! Kinda like what you are doing with this new guy, but like your ex your relized i miss my EX. If your ex was that perfect to begin with and fits you like you say he does. Whats the harm in trying it again? ! It seems like that is what is gonna make you happy. Seems your always gonna compare any new BF to your ex! Dont live with regrets or what ifs IMO! Sometimes pride is a horrible thing! This new guy is not your answer! Dont use him. Not saying that you are just let him know how you feel so he can make his own decision on staying or going.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder! Things happen for a reason.......think about it. Goodluck
2007-12-04 09:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by victor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of time it takes a while to get over someone that you really loved, but the more you stay away from your ex you will become stronger and wiser.
You can't settle for the new guy because you have not completely mentally let go of your ex. It's hard to grab something else when your hands are already full.
2007-12-04 08:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite obviously you are not over your ex. Therefore, you should give your self time to heal from that relationship before "moving on". You need to ask yourself if you want to move on because your are emotionally ready for a new relationship or are you looking for a way to replace the hurt you now feel. And remember moving on doesn't mean you need to engage in a romantic relationship. Your probably just need time with yourself. As long as you are still keeping yourself emoitionally involved with the your ex, you wont be able to allow for a true loving and emotoinally healthy relationship with anyone else. Best of luck.
2007-12-04 08:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sun_scorpion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there was something about the ex that you liked. This is common.
It's also an excellent reason for you to stay away from your ex. Completely. Forever. How do you think a bf will feel knowing that this ex of your is out there giving you butterflies in your stomach all the time?
Say goodbye.
2007-12-04 07:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with another answer, that just because he went right into another relationship does not reflect on yours. I know this from experience. Are you sure you two can't work it out? Why don't you have a talk with him. Then decide. Either you have to tell new guy, "I have to give ex another chance". Or give new guy a chance and go to a different gym!!
2007-12-04 11:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by 4Eyesct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings for your ex are real and you don't have to deny that but at the same time as great as those feelings are there are other things that are totally wrong, which is why he is your ex. If the negatives are more than the positives than count your losses and move on.
If I loved pork and my doctor told me to stay away from it because it was hurting my body, it still would not change the fact that I enjoy it.
so if you still have feelings for your ex, its okay but if the relationship is hurting you you have to let it go.
I hope that makes sense.
good luck.
2007-12-04 07:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because thats how we as women work. Its' a horrible disease. Why can't you two be together? If it's for a serious reason, then the best you can do is just long for him. You and I both know there is no get over him quick method, you just have to let time heal it. Sorry I wish I could help more:(
2007-12-04 07:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by jesscblu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you just used the word settle didn't you? Don't ever settle with love. Because your heart is a dangerous place to be empty. Be with the one you love and also loves you. If you don't truly love him, you will never be truly happy. You don't have to go back to your ex if you want to move on. But you don't have to be with this guys either. Maybe you are just not ready to be with anyone.
2007-12-04 07:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋