i was in a 2 yr relationship with a woman who liked to hit!..sure i have a big mouth but i don't believe hitting is justified if i happen to say something that sets her off...i am a rather big person and retaliating in my opinion is not only illegal but morally wrong!!...i don't see the point hitting her back,plus i hate when she does this in front of the kids...am i wrong for leaving her???..this is like,the 5th time she's done this and i try to hang in there for the kids,but i've had enough!!am i wrong to get a lawyer and fight for custody of the kids??...
2007-12-04 06:09:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have called the police on all occasions and yes,we have tried counseling...doesn't matter what i do,she still opts to hit...and yes...she has the choice to retaliate verbally,but she doesn't...she hits first and thinks later..and i'm not sure if she hits the kids,but our oldest mysteriously bled out of her ears before when i was at work...we never did get an explanation over that one....
2007-12-04 06:26:13 · update #1
one last note..i love and cherish my children and want the best for them!!..this is all about the kids,right?if it were just her and myself...i would've dumped her a long time ago..i'm just doing whats best for my babies....
2007-12-04 06:29:39 · update #2
woah....your child was bleeding out of her ears????????????? if i were in your shoes...i'd grab the kids...pack some stuff and get the heck out of there! she's an abuser! you're NOT wrong to protect you and your children.
2007-12-04 09:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by psuns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay and work it out then she needs counseling.... she is not being a good role model for her children by letting them see her "hit" you or anyone else. You also need to refrain her from hitting you by grabbing her wrist when she hits you and hold it and tell her "no". This might be the only way she know's how to deal with her feelings so she needs counseling to find a new way of dealing with her emotions. No one deserves the right to be hit ( male or female)! I don't think this is something to get a divorce over because this is something that can be worked through.
2007-12-04 14:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this woman needs help. Have you told her that you're going to leave her if she cannot curb her violence? Have you considered counseling? Therapy? If you've tried everything, you have few options left. It's perfectly reasonable to get out of this marriage and fight for full custody. If she hits you, why does anyone think that she'll never hit her children?
2007-12-04 14:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong to hit regardless if your the female or male and yous your justified in getting lawyer and moving on.
In todays society it seems like its more acceptable for a female to hit a male but it really isn't in my opinion.
2007-12-04 14:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong for waiting so long. Actually you need to call the police and file a report. She'll be arrested. Don't back off when she starts begging. You've enabled her to be an abuser for years now. Is she doing this to the kids? She will be. Time to strap on you test!cles and do it.
2007-12-04 14:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you are not wrong, but you also admitted that you have a big mouth, so your probably saying some offensive things to her, why dont you try marriage counseling first...because you do have kids...if she is physically abusing the kids, i would go right to a divorce lawyer..never any excuse for that....
2007-12-04 14:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by marcella l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are right..retaliating is morally wrong. What kind of mother is she? She isnt sending a good message to the kids, treating you in this way. I would try to get her in counseling.
2007-12-04 14:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by May-May`s mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok u have a big mouth... does she also?
i mean is she able to retaliate to u verbally??
coz if she isnt.....able to release her frustration verbally...
it might show that she turns to be physical with u...
have u ever seen her abuse(physically) ur children?
plus i wont suggest u calling the cops... coz if u are larger than her...they might not take u seriosly..(ive seen it happen)
best would be go for counselling...
and for time being.. lay a few ground rules for her.. and for ur self...
2007-12-04 14:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by chaos_infinity1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please seek counseling, individually and together. When children are involved in the marriage it behooves both of you to try to work things out. She needs to figure out why she is so angry. Remember the children are the ones who are damaged most in divorce and in this case if she hits them, they need to be saved.
2007-12-04 14:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the kids and leave her high and dry, paying child support and the whole thing. That's what I did, and it is so liberating.
BEsides, speaking from experience, single , responsible fathers, even with average looks, are very attractive to women.
2007-12-04 14:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by PaRDeS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not wrong I would of had you put in jail if you hit here i am shore she would have called the cops on you.
so fight for those kids she might be hitting them
2007-12-04 14:16:10 · answer #11 · answered by prince 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋