My boyfriend and I have been together close to a year. We are very happy together and decided last night that once we get through some things that are coming up, we are going to get married. I'm thinking maybe 6 months. I don't have a ring because the conversation just happened, it wasn't planned, and he asked me if I would marry him. Of course, I said yes. Most of my family has met him and likes him, but I don't know how to tell my parents. I don't think they realize that our relationship is as serious as it is. Any tips???
2007-12-04 06:36:28 · 28 answers · asked by sweetie_cakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about:
"Mom, Dad, Joey asked me to marry him, and I said yes!"
What is so difficult about that? If you can't figure this out, you are likely not mature enough to get married, don't you think?
2007-12-04 06:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Fred S - AM Cappo Di Tutti Capi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, who could blame your family for not knowing how serious it is .. you have only been together for a year. I would suggest giving yourselves a little more time. I got engaged after being in a relationship for a year and a half ... two years later, and we are still together, and still happily engaged. We are just now starting to talk about getting married in late 2008. In my opinion you two need to let this engagement ride it out for a little bit, and be completely positive this is what you want with one another. You only get one first wedding, so you should make it count! I also think your family would take you two more seriously if you told them about the engagement, but also added that you will be giving yourselves more time to get use to the idea of marriage, and just enjoy the idea of taking your relationship a step further for the time being. You love him, and he loves you, no need to put a rush on everything, enjoy life and your time together, whether you are married or engaged.
2007-12-04 06:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your parents (just you and your parents) and ask them how they really feel about your boyfriend. Suggest that he do the same with his. Then when you know you invite his parents over a few nights later with your parents and you tell them at the same time. If they like him and you are sure he is the one. (make sure) then get married and have a wonderful life together.
2007-12-04 06:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Schmoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However you decide to tell them, remember first and foremost that their reactions CANNOT affect your happiness. You remain happy despite how they may feel. That being said, I'd say that you should take them out? A decently nice place to eat, and such, so they will be pacified and not make a scene in public, should the reaction not be the best. A ring is a choice, not a law, so don't let that bother you either. We told our parents in diff ways. His came over, and mine, I called. It varies. Just find a situation that you are most comfy in.
2007-12-04 06:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by DutchessRain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me and my husband only went out for a few months before we told our parents that we wanted to get married. We have supper with them and then after we sat them down and told them that we were planning on getting married in a couple months. We told them this before we got engaged because even though we knew what we wanted to do we also respected what they had to say about it first before we mad e ahuge commitment. They surprised us by telling us that they had kind of already guessed so it wasnt as big a deal as we thought it would be!
2007-12-04 06:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you tell your parents, at the same time explain how you will pay for the wedding, where you will live, how you will pay rent, how you will get to work, pay for school, how you will implement the plans for this marriage. Give a coherent, financially sound plan and your parents will be ok.
2007-12-04 06:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would definitely help to know how old you are. A year of dating is not that long... Have you both finished college and do you both have careers? If not, you need to put off the wedding talk until both of those things are accomplished.
2007-12-04 06:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to marry without an engagement ring? hmmmmm..... does he work? how old are the two of you? are you living on your own or with your parents? is he living alone or with his parents? do you live together? Way too many things left out for an educated response.
2007-12-04 06:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well in an ever classy move by mom part my husband's parents found out we were engaged when i forgot to take my ring off before we told them. Ya we were staying with them too it was a long week for me
2007-12-04 06:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til you have a ring, then when you are wearing it someone will ask and you just tell them you are getting married........Unless you are too young then you are screwed and your family is gonna trip out...Good Luck on that!!
2007-12-04 06:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋